Underwhelming Mothers Day area

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First of all I am married to a good, decent man who I love. He just is rubbish at organising anything

This morning I have got 2 cards and a box of maltesers . Better than nothing. No cup of tea made.

Just a bit of 'meh' TBH

Anyone else in the same boat?

Not in the same boat per say but I am holed up in bed with a sickness bug 🤢.

Hubby and 4 year old came in with tea and 2 cards but I was way too sick to even drink the tea (its the thought that counts).

They've gone out as today we booked a day out and meal so I'm currently laying in bed alone, throwing my guts up whilst the sun is shining with the dogs.

I feel disappointed for very different reasons of not being able to get out of bed and spend time with my boys. Quite honestly I'd have loved to cook a Sunday dinner, do the chores and gone for our day out but I totally understand why some of you feel the way you do.

I think as long as the acknowledgement is there from our children/partners then its a good day and gifts etc are an added bonus.

Just try to think about it.

Mothers day was solely invented to make money for companies.

I used to work for a very large shop. I dealt with the buying department.

Every year, they would order a lot of stuff in ,specifically for mothers day. All of the large shops do this. There is a lot of planning and marketing campaigns for mothers day.

Because the shops know that they will make a lot of money on mothers day

Mothers day is designed to make you compare to other people, to make you feel bad, and then make you complain to your husband and children. Which will then pressure them to buy more next year.

If all of a sudden they invented "daughters day" . I would be looking in instagram and then I would be complaining to my mum

" but Sarah's mum bought her a new iPad and laptop for daughters day, why didn't you get me that? Youre a bad mother". Which would probably make my mother save up and buy me more next year.

It's all designed to drive pressure onto people, to make more sales.

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Go for it.

Cards and maltesers sounds lovely OP. My 10yo came into my room at 7am ranting furiously about the clocks changing, then hit me repeatedly while I tried him to calm him down. He's spent most of the morning screaming at me and throwing stuff. Same as every day. He's autistic before anyone tells me it's my fault for being a shit parent.

What do people want ? -full on parties??

It’s today!

You might want to make that phone call

Op - that’s crap, but at least you got a card and a box of Maltesers.
I got SFA!!
My DH is working today but my 18 year old ( who is normally so good) didn’t even wish me Happy Mothers Day this morning. No card or chocolates either. She barely spoke at breakfast so I just stuck my head in the iPad doing my usual morning puzzles.
I’ve now taken myself out for a long walk, treated myself to a bag of Percy pigs and a scotch egg and am sitting in a church yard munching away.
I’m upset, but I would rather be on my own that with a teen who doesn’t give a monkeys.

@Abbygabby87 yep -see valentines day for details too . Halloween etc

I did make that phone call.

It's today in the UK, its not in many other countries.

My point was really to point out - how much of a made up day it is.

It's on a completely different date in so many countries.

I agree - which is why I think keeping it very low key is ideal. Acknowledging is one thing but putting pressure on families is wrong.

Actually that maybe the case in other countries, but Mothering Sunday in this country was here way before Mothers Day and well before some of these huge companies you speak of.
Look up the origins of Mothering Sunday

I'm a single parent to a 15 year old. I've worked full time since she was a baby to try give her everything she needs, spend most my life having no life other than working and facilitating her social life. Didn't even get a verbal "happy mothers day", let alone a card. I did get a request for a lift to her friends house though, so not even a day off for me.

Of course
The date is connected to Lent.
Lent and Easter vary each year
So therefore does Mother’s Day.

Thats for countries that follow the original Christian connection of visiting your mother anyway.

Nope, a hug and to be told a simple "happy mothers day, thanks for all you do for me" would be perfect.

We’re not in the UK so DD hasn’t seen any media hype about mothers’ day. When having a chat this morning she saw something on the calendar and asked me which mothers’ day it was. I then got a hug and wishes. She tells me she loves me every day and does nice things regularly.

We’ve has no power since 1 am so its an odd day anyway and was raining heavily until midday.

I got a card and a bunch of flowers delivered from one dc and complete radio silence so far from the other!

My husband spent first thing this morning crying because he’d upset our daughter saying something extremely thoughtless several months ago and she hasn’t really forgiven him. We sorted that out and he apologised to her. He went round to his mum’s. My mum died nearly 10 years ago. DD is at her boyfriend’s whose parents are divorced and that has created communication problems in that family. I chose my present from my daughter but it’s still in its postal packaging. She sent me a happy Mother’s Day message but I’ve spent the last few hours waiting to hear when I have to go and pick her up from her boyfriend’s. I pottered about in the garden on my own doing some gardening stuff and made a few cups of tea.
Pretty blah Mother’s Day.

Oh bore off.

How dare you want anything on Mother’s Day, you grabby fool. I bet you expect a present for your birthday and Christmas too, don’t you? How childish.

Mumsnet is a miserable race to the bottom sometimes. So boring.

@Chariots77 me too - my son messaged me and sent me a card as he’s in Ghent this weekend- I’m perfectly happy with that

My partner did nothing from our 3 year old son, I always make an effort for father's day with gifts, cards, takeaway etc but I got nothing. It makes me feel sad like he doesn't appreciate all the effort I make as a mother but I've still had a nice day I made me and my boy pancakes with fruit for breakfast and took him to the cinema for the first time, then took him to tesco and let him pick everything for an afternoon tea 🙂 now I've just got to do the laundry, empty the dishwasher, hoover the house and cook dinner, Happy Mothers day 😅

I did get a necklace, gift box & chocolates from my mum for mother's day and a card from my boys nursery so at least someone made an effort 🥰

I'm pretty sure I remember at school learning about Victorian kids making flower chains and homemade cakes etc for their mums on mother's day, and the mother would get the day off from household tasks.

Yes, it's commercialised now, but that wasn't the point of it. The point of it was to spend the day doing things to show you appreciate your mother

EDIT: Yep I just Googled it - Mother's Day in the UK goes all the way back to medieval times. It's nothing to do with commercialisation/shops etc

I'm a mum to 3 under 3. I get a moon pig card, flowers and a lie in, maybe a takeaway, which I'm happy about.

I cringe to think of the madness my mother expected when I was growing up. It was a mass of expectation - separate cards from everyone, proper gift, lunch or dinner out and to top it off, we also had a cake where we sang Happy Mothers day, in the happy birthday tune 🫥

I think in general when I look back, mum had a very victimised, tit for tat attitude, that if she did for us, we were expected to repay it. With a lot of arguments and mind games before any occasion (birthday, anniversary etc). It's meant that any family celebration is dreaded by me.

I didn’t get anything 🫠🫠

Yes but the idea back then would have been

"Give something to your mother, if you want to give her something ".

Now mothers EXPECT to get something on mothers day. They don't give their children or husbands any choice or say in the mothers day.

They don't give their children any choice in the matter.

Then the children feel pressured, and they start to rebel under the pressure, and in rebelling against the pressure, they don't get their mothers anything.

If its not a choice, and we feel forced to do it, it's not enjoyable for anyone.

Christ, are you always this preachy?