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Pipsquiggle · 2025-03-30T08:07:41+00:00

First of all I am married to a good, decent man who I love. He just is rubbish at organising anything This morning I have got 2 cards and a box of maltesers . Better than nothing. No cup of tea made. Just a bit of 'meh' TBH Anyone else in the same boat?

Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 13:32

Birdseyetrifle · 30/03/2025 13:30

My DS is 15. I got a card. He says he’s ordered my present but it hasn’t arrived yet. He ordered it at 12:46 today. He did offer to make me a cup of tea.

I am really quite upset by it.

Change your mindset.

"Mothers day " is a load of commercial rubbish.

If they invented a "sons day" would you not think it's a load of rubbish?

He's not your son for just one day, is he?

LunchtimeNaps · 30/03/2025 13:36

I got cards and told the present hasn't arrived 🤣. To be honest a cheap bottle of wine, crisps and some Ferrero Roche would have done. I did get a bit of a lay in but now it's time for me to run around after my mum as I do most days then come home to the usual shit I have to do on a Sunday. DP is working. Again. He always seemed to be working on Mother's Day (shifted so not by choice) but always seems to be off Father's Day where he goes away for the weekend to do his stuff.

Birdseyetrifle · 30/03/2025 13:38

@Abbygabby87 It’s a traditional day that has happened for many, many years and way before all the commercial bullshit attached to it now. I don’t expect him to wait on me, just a little thought that’s all that he actually considered me. I don’t think that’s too much to ask really. I’m a lone parent that works my arse off to provide for him and give him a good life.

This is also on top of no thought at Christmas and no thought on my birthday.

Whoarethoseguys · 30/03/2025 13:39

I think mother's day has been hyped up to ridiculous levels . It's just a day . A card and chocolates sound lovely.

Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 13:40

Birdseyetrifle · 30/03/2025 13:38

@Abbygabby87 It’s a traditional day that has happened for many, many years and way before all the commercial bullshit attached to it now. I don’t expect him to wait on me, just a little thought that’s all that he actually considered me. I don’t think that’s too much to ask really. I’m a lone parent that works my arse off to provide for him and give him a good life.

This is also on top of no thought at Christmas and no thought on my birthday.

Yes I'm trying to get you to see - that's what you think about it.

He is not thinking about it at all.

You're both entitled to your opinion. My mother thought about mothers day this year. I didn't think about it at all.

You can't force anyone to get you a card.

YogaLite · 30/03/2025 13:40

Nothing here as DC is disabled and doesn't know the day of the week never mind more and "d"h should really be xdh so not expected him to do anything towards it either.

DappledThings · 30/03/2025 13:41

lurchermummy · 30/03/2025 10:05

My DH steadfastly refuses to think Mothers Day is anything todo with me . He says “you’re not my Mum”. I did get lovely cards from my girls though.

I agree with him

Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 13:41

Whoarethoseguys · 30/03/2025 13:39

I think mother's day has been hyped up to ridiculous levels . It's just a day . A card and chocolates sound lovely.

I also get confused as mothers day is on a completely different date in the country I live in, to the country that my mum lives in, she lives in the UK.

When is it! And why is it on a different date in so many countries

Goinggonegone · 30/03/2025 13:43

comealongdobbeh · 30/03/2025 12:22

On the one hand yes, it’s just a day. But honestly, on the other, although I feel abit petty, I feel crap today.

i was 40 last month. DH announced 3 days before my birthday that he didn’t know what to get me so if I didn’t tell him he’d just stick some money in a card. I refused to indulge. I got some £40 hair straighteners from Amazon. Nothing from the kids (10 and 2). For his 40th I spent over £1000 getting him well thought out gifts.

my brother arranged a family meal for my bday. DH proceeded to order alcohol for himself so I felt I couldn’t because I had to drive.

and now today. I’ve had a card from the kids. And that’s it. I’m cleaning the house while also sorting laundry and watching the kids. DH is in bed, unwell apparently. And I’m just sick of feeling unappreciated. And I probably won’t get to see my own mum today (he is NC with his). But yes, I guess it’s just another day.

Can you just tell your DH you're off to see your mum?

Loveanewusername · 30/03/2025 13:43

I think we see lots of things on social media that makes us compare and feel upset if we haven’t had the same magical experience created for us.

my older teenager sorted a card and book which was lovely, but very unceremoniously half chucked at me as she went to work this morning 🫣

younger one didn’t get me anything, but did make a cup of tea and bring me a banana 🍌 😂

if I let myself I could be quite annoyed that husband didn’t make sure the youngest had a bar of chocolate and a card to give me, but majority of the time he is a good husband, and he’s worked both his days off this week so we can pay off our summer holiday this month , so I’m choosing to enjoy the peace and quiet of the day with a cup of tea and my new book , and try count my blessings!

my top tip is write down 5 good things that are happening at the moment- if you’re struggling for one the sun is out and will dry the washing lovely!

ps - I’m fairly certain at least half of the mums with the mountain of gifts treats and days out just organised it for themselves and maybe they are one to something 🤭

Temporaryname158 · 30/03/2025 13:44

Kids are at their dads. I’m alone for the day so I’ve taken myself out for a sunny walk and lunch in a nice cafe. I’m going to see if there is anything on at the cinema tonight

Birdseyetrifle · 30/03/2025 13:50

Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 13:40

Yes I'm trying to get you to see - that's what you think about it.

He is not thinking about it at all.

You're both entitled to your opinion. My mother thought about mothers day this year. I didn't think about it at all.

You can't force anyone to get you a card.

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He did think about it though as in the week he asked what I’d got my mum. You can apply your thinking to anything though. What a shit world to live where you can’t show you appreciate someone.

It is the lack of thought that is upsetting, I’m amazed you cannot see that. One day out of the whole to just say ‘thank you and I love you’. It’s really not much to ask. I don’t give a shit about the overhyped bullshit.

Abbygabby87 · 30/03/2025 13:53

Birdseyetrifle · 30/03/2025 13:50

He did think about it though as in the week he asked what I’d got my mum. You can apply your thinking to anything though. What a shit world to live where you can’t show you appreciate someone.

It is the lack of thought that is upsetting, I’m amazed you cannot see that. One day out of the whole to just say ‘thank you and I love you’. It’s really not much to ask. I don’t give a shit about the overhyped bullshit.

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I just completely disagree with you.

I disagree with commercialism

I don't only show my mother that I love her, on one day of the year, that is completely made up by businesses to sell cards and flowers.

Shops sell a lot of flowers today.

Why ? Because people are told that they HAVE to buy them for their mothers or they are bad people.

People are guilt tripped by businesses into purchasing things today

comealongdobbeh · 30/03/2025 13:53

Goinggonegone · 30/03/2025 13:43

Can you just tell your DH you're off to see your mum?

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I could, but I’m not that sort of person. We do these things as a family. When he’s better, then we’ll do it. I guess I just needed to get some things off my chest that have been playing on my mind a while

Thatisme · 30/03/2025 13:53

I'd take that. I got f all so far

edwinbear · 30/03/2025 13:56

@MrsWembley I have a 15y old also in Y11 and revising. I’d cut her a bit of slack, they’re stressed. If they are up and revising, I’m considering that a ‘win’. I’m fully expecting DS to think exams give him a ‘get out of jail free’ card when it comes to chores and engaging in family life for a couple of months, which is a bit of a piss take. But I’ll pick my battles with this, as long as he is actually studying and sticking to his revision timetable.

ForgettingMeNot · 30/03/2025 13:57

My eldest and family will pop by at some point, my youngest who is a teen but adult is out for the day. I’m cooking my favourite meal for myself and going to enjoy a day of mainly peace. I have low expectations and disagree with the whole cards/flowers on these Hallmark card days that make you feel like family should pay inflated prices for flowers etc. told my kids not to get me anythIng, there’s nothing I need. But then I’m not a materialistic type of person

MyIvyGrows · 30/03/2025 13:59

I have a lovely card from my 5yo and plenty of cuddles. I have also got a chest infection so would not be up to much anyway, but my mum and dad are visiting and are cooking some roast lamb. I’ve managed to peg out some washing and had to have a 10 minute rest after doing so.

ideally I would have had a lie in before receiving flowers, then gone for a run and a coffee before lunch. In reality I’ve had a shite night’s sleep (although DS slept longer due to the clocks) and my appetite is off so I will nibble but not enjoy. A run is obviously out of the question and coffee tastes weird. But I’m counting my blessings. I got my mum a nice card and some flowers and she is grateful.

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 13:59

Pipsquiggle · 30/03/2025 10:39

Yes I would like time off from being a mother today as I do the vast majority of household tasks and parenting

This is what these threads often boil down to.

Concentrate on the all year round inequality in your relationship, not a cup of bloody tea!

Calliopespa · 30/03/2025 14:00

Loveanewusername · 30/03/2025 13:43

I think we see lots of things on social media that makes us compare and feel upset if we haven’t had the same magical experience created for us.

my older teenager sorted a card and book which was lovely, but very unceremoniously half chucked at me as she went to work this morning 🫣

younger one didn’t get me anything, but did make a cup of tea and bring me a banana 🍌 😂

if I let myself I could be quite annoyed that husband didn’t make sure the youngest had a bar of chocolate and a card to give me, but majority of the time he is a good husband, and he’s worked both his days off this week so we can pay off our summer holiday this month , so I’m choosing to enjoy the peace and quiet of the day with a cup of tea and my new book , and try count my blessings!

my top tip is write down 5 good things that are happening at the moment- if you’re struggling for one the sun is out and will dry the washing lovely!

ps - I’m fairly certain at least half of the mums with the mountain of gifts treats and days out just organised it for themselves and maybe they are one to something 🤭

I agree with the social media thing ( and the organising/orchestrating things themselves). I think a lot of the more elaborate fusses have less to do with family relationships and more to do with a woman’s relationship with her SM account! That also roughly coincides with when the pressure ramped up in terms of bigger and better.

There was another thread this weekend started by a woman who checked her DC’s school bag on Friday night to see if a card had come home then posted complaining schools don’t do enough. I just thought who is sneaking about sniffing out a MD card from DC? I mean, if made at school they were just told to do it anyway, it’s no more meaningful than that. But I’m sure she was probably compiling the sm post in her mind …

Calliopespa · 30/03/2025 14:02

edwinbear · 30/03/2025 13:56

@MrsWembley I have a 15y old also in Y11 and revising. I’d cut her a bit of slack, they’re stressed. If they are up and revising, I’m considering that a ‘win’. I’m fully expecting DS to think exams give him a ‘get out of jail free’ card when it comes to chores and engaging in family life for a couple of months, which is a bit of a piss take. But I’ll pick my battles with this, as long as he is actually studying and sticking to his revision timetable.

A reasonable stance actually @MrsWembley . She probably is a bit stressed.

RagzRebooted · 30/03/2025 14:03

I've been sulking in bed since I woke up at 10am with period cramps and flooding (month long period hell here).
Finally got a coffee brought to me by DD 10 minutes ago, after I posted on the family group chat at 1pm that I'd been waiting 3 hours for my coffee in bed.
We were supposed to be going out for the day, but no one was awake when it would have been time to leave and I still haven't seen anyone else. DH fell asleep on the sofa last night so I assume is still there, I could hear him snoring and hour ago.

I could have gone around waking them all up of course, but I'm sick of being the one who makes everything happen. So I didn't and am sulking instead. I might take myself off shopping in a bit.

Goinggonegone · 30/03/2025 14:04

comealongdobbeh · 30/03/2025 13:53

I could, but I’m not that sort of person. We do these things as a family. When he’s better, then we’ll do it. I guess I just needed to get some things off my chest that have been playing on my mind a while

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Just thought your mum might like it just being you? But you know her.

Downthemarshes · 30/03/2025 14:05

My DH has gone out for the afternoon to work on a project with a pal but I went out on my bike this morning into the country on my own and then came home and washed down the patio furniture so I can sit in the sun later. Doing this has made me happy. Life is what you make of it.

Kandalama · 30/03/2025 14:07

I’ve never had tea ( well for me it would be coffee)brought to me in bed. Except in hospital 🤣 after giving birth…does that count