Husband gifted £5k

[everychildmatters]

Long story short...
My SIL came over today and she let it slip (she of course assumed I knew) that her parents had gifted husband £5k (she had her dad's car when he stopped driving at 83 so they were "evening things out."
Hubby and I both work but I'm a SEND Tutor which means I only get paid for the hours I work e.g not in school holidays. We rent privately as simply can't afford to buy and has been that way for years. My car is also on its last legs and I do a lot of travel for work so no idea what to do when that packs up!! His mum and dad have just also purchased him a beautiful new electric car.
Hubby knows my anxiety about paying bills etc has been through the roof.
He says he didn't tell me because I have been so stressed, but the truth is (IMO) is he didn't tell me because I could then have said could we use some of that if I can't get work over six weeks holiday etc?
I feel so let down and disappointed - I don't think he'd ever have told me if I hadn't found put through SIL.
Perhaps I'm being unreasonable but feeling crap tbh.

If me or my partner are gifted any money then it's ours to do what we want with. I wouldn't expect him to share with me. Although he will usually ask if we need anything for the house and vice versa.

If he kept it secret then I would be wondering why as I'm not a big spender and generally quite good with money. I have on occasion hidden mine from him as he can spend money quicker then it hits the account. I'm assuming that's the reason your partner hasn't told you about his 5k gift.

Kindly explain why.

"Speak to him. But you're right - it does sound like an imbalance.
I learned a lot from my first marriage and refused in my next relationship not to settle for anything less than at least 50/50 (with a fair split on everything, including paid work).
My life is immeasurably happier now. We're a team and carry the load together."

Obviously not🤔

So you're taking a loan out, will have to pay interest on this in order to fix your car whilst your husband is sitting on £15k cash and doesn't pay his fair share of the bills. He is concerned enough about your daughter's future by allegedly putting £2.5k into savings for her, but isn't concerned enough to have her driven around in a car that is about to breakdown!

I've never heard anything like it in my life! The guy is a loser.

@Chachachanges2 Sorry if I missed it. Where did OP say that?

Just from seeing other PP had mentioned other threads from OP, so I had a curious look and found it on another post.

Sounds like a lot of self deception, trying to convince other people but ultimately herself that her husband is a decent partner. He isn't.