3K a month benefits

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I had made a previous post which I believe had been taken down over a lady giving me £10 for no reason, in no way was that post to brag about my benefits I had stated how much I get a month to show I’m not struggling for money so the only reason can be I was judged on my appearance and then someone had asked if this is benefits which I said yes as I have no reason to lie. I have read a few notifications on my drop down and people saying I’m doing this to wind people up and there is no way I get 3K a month benefits, I was asking a genuine question. Some comments were quite rude. So here is how -

Universal credit for me and 2 kids plus LCWRA
£1775 - my rent gets taken straight from this I get paid £1225
high rate adult disability payment £734
Child disability payment x2 £868
Child benefit £42 a week
Scottish child payment £213

minus rent £3208 paid directly to me per month.

Now no this is not fair to people who have to work. However they are able bodied people and it’s not my fault I would much rather be healthy and live a normal life.

So you are essentially unable to do any parenting at all?

how old are your children?

Well I don’t begrudge you that money. You can’t work, I don’t want you or your children to live in poverty

it’s not about what you deserve. It’s about what the state should pay for.

£52k income is not poverty. Half that amount is the average salary for a single person.

I would actually support the plans to supply vouchers etc instead of money, and that’s coming from a disabled person with a disabled child. I don’t drink (can’t on my meds), I don’t vape, I don’t go on holidays, I don’t buy expensive clothes etc. I’d happily accept vouchers for clothing, food, etc etc. maybe it should be a mixture of that and ‘cash’, I don’t know why this is so bad.
I think there is a lot of money being given to people not in any real need (not saying this is OP as I have no idea if she’s real or anything)

It’s odd but the only previous post according to your AS is a thread about you wanting to try for a third baby.

and a very peculiar thread asking for helping about how you can stop bullying someone!!

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Does your husband work?

Sorry can someone please explain why we are paying out (hefty) financial benefits to people because their child has ADHD / autism? What exactly is the money supposed to pay for??

The Op is very much likely to be one of the people come November 2026 that has a very very different income

I disagree.

My situation is that I worked for almost 30 years, then i got cancer, then had a stroke and could no longer work. My dd started having some symptoms around the same time that we thought was stress related, however it turns out it is a type of epilepsy which is getting worse as time goes on. I also have other children.

Had I been able to continue working I would have had a steady income, increasing each year, with opportunities and promotions and been able to top up my pension.

Why, in my situation, should my children and I have to just be given enough for food and housing and thats it?

For starters I use my disability benefits for private physio for myself (which wouldnt be considered necessary because the NHS provided 6 appointments), dds disability money goes on a tutor as she can only attend very part time school (also woukdnt be considered essential as she attends part time school), I also need to buy her books, subscription to home schooling sites etc so her health doesn't impact her education any further, and she goes weekly to a therapist because her life has changed a ridiculous amount due to her disability (also wouldn't be considered essential as the NHS provided 6 sessions)

I also can't drive due to the stroke, and dd can't use public transport (she would get that free up here) so there's the taxi money to get to our multiple appointments as well (wouldn't be considered essential as dd gets free bus travel).

If I was just given the absolute minimum then I would have no hope of improvement because I couldn't afford the help to get any better, and dd would be stuck with little to no education, and no prospects, and she wouldn't be able to get to her appointments to get the right medications hopefully to try and control her epilepsy.

That's as well as my other dc being impacted because I couldn't afford to feed and clothe them either.

It's easy to look at the money and decide its not fair, but it's also not fair that I got cancer and its definitely not fair that my 14 year okds world is so small, her health is so bad at the moment that she has no life outside of these 4 walls.

Be jealous of the money all you like but you can also take the chronic pain, the lack of ability to move and the stress of your child having seizures alongside it and see if its worth it to you.

It's not about holidays.

I wasn't refering to you I was refering to the posters who feel the need to complain about and bash anyone who dares to admit they claim benefits of some sort. Threads such as yours alway bring out such posters.

I'm sorry to hear about your ill health, and I'm actually in support of you and anyone else receiving benefits if they so need to. I would advise you though not to assume one's health.

They would have to be squirrelled away or kept below £6k

It's unsustainable. The welfare state is not there to fund social events. My kids went without because we couldn't afford it. And we both worked full time.

The types of things parents of children with autism might spend money on, funding wouldn't cover it all of course:
Speech therapy
Incontinence products
Additional washing as child doubly jncontinent
Washing products due to smearing
Expensive harness for carseat
Adapted bicycle
To fund a car as child cannot use public transport
To fund part time work as there is no childcare for disabled children and to attend numerous appointments
Replace items that are broken by child
Fidget/ sensory toys
Ergonomic cutlery and pens
That's just quickly off the top of my head, needs vary so obviously wouldn't apply to all children and there will be various other things I haven't thought of.

You’re life doesn’t sound like the thing of dreams does it so I wouldn’t swap places with you for a million a year!

whilst I appreciate this I fail to accept that all these ‘autistic’ or ADHD children are this disabled

Not sure of the point of your thread but given the budget yesterday you will will that most people under the age of 22 including children will start losing their Pip and DLA. And most of them will be ADHD, autistic and mental health issues.

This all said, I do think this is probably a wind up merchant and they’re getting the reaction they wanted.

you’re a single parent OP?

Well autism is a spectrum. My sister gets DLA for my 5 year old nephew who is on the autism spectrum, has adhd and is currently stuck in mainstream school and developmentally around 2 and not far from non verbal. She uses it for private weekly speech and language sessions (she was offered on session every six months through the NHS which is not frequent enough to help)

And ?

It doesn't occur to you most mums would swap having a 52K job and a healthy kids as opposed to have a child with severe disablities and looking after the child?? Have you any experience of looking affter disabled kids? Thought not.

Fucks sake, the trolls on here....

I get you, applecrumble and certainly do not resent you. I always think, that could have been me. The reason we pay into the welfare state (and I still do a little bit as a pensioner, long retired), is to provide that safety net for vulnerable people. None of us knows if we may need it one day.

Good luck to you, I hope things improve for you but don't feel guilty.

What is up with the speech therapy service in England? I’m in the west of Scotland and my son was suspected autism, had not been diagnosed but had a speech delay. We were invited along to a drop in speech and language session for the parents to get info and then 3 weeks later, he had his first one to one and we had them weekly until he was discharged. I don’t know anyone who had a long wait or didn’t get weekly appointments if it was needed.