How can I tell ds he can't come on holiday.

[Youagain2025]

I'm not 100% it will happen. But im trying to sort out a holiday for me my 3 youngest and adult ds. I want adult ds to come so that I have some company.

The reason I don't want my other ds to come is he's hard work he really drains me and in all honesty I Need a break . This would be my first holiday since I was around 15 years old. Also ds has been on holiday with his sister. He's going again in may . Then again next year .

He's coming up 18 . He is able to pay for himself. But that's not what it's about . Obviously I can't tell him that he's hard work etc.

Are you any further forward with booking op? Seen any good deals?

I need to do passports first . I was told its to risky to book before we get passports.

Is this the Tunisia holiday?

@NotTerfNorCis Well spotted. I thought the username sounded familiar when I read that thread, but I wasn’t sure why. I’ve been on Mumsnet for over a decade so I thought I was getting old and just seeing a familiar username.

My dm and stepdad did this to me, last year of school, I hadn't behaved well enough so they fucked off to corfu with my siblings
and I stayed at home with grandparents. A lot more involved ie they lived abroad, i lived with grandparents with 1 sister, generally a shit show tbh but i was the black sheep and still am, live 500 miles away from them now and being an adult its a shit way to treat ur kid.

Book two holidays, at the same time.
Book you and DD a girlie trip.
Book the younger two boys a holiday with their big brother.
All of you stay in the same complex.
Then you can help out with younger sons and all eat together sometimes as much as you like. Son at home will not know that you are all so often together.

Difficult son won't want to crash a girlie holiday and he will understand that the little ones are having a treat with big brother.

Send him a postcard and do not feel guilty at all. You deserve a break.

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