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Would the police do anything?

373 replies

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:12

I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

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DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:32

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 03/03/2025 12:31

call police

go on, you know you want to.

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I'm not sure why you've changed your mind?

I do want to. I told her I would.

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Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 03/03/2025 12:33

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:32

I'm not sure why you've changed your mind?

I do want to. I told her I would.

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DO IT
DO IT
DO IT
DO IT

CanIinterestyouinasarcasticcomment · 03/03/2025 12:33

Your cheating husband is the issue here, he cheated on you, not the OW or her husband.

Unless they are harassing you this isn't a police matter.

Saucery · 03/03/2025 12:33

No, OP, you can’t dictate who her DH talks to or mixes with. Or her, for that matter.
I think you’ve directed some understandable anger towards the affair partner but your DH was just as culpable. Up to you if you want to try and repair your relationship with him, but you can’t erase the affair partner or her DH from your social circle. The police will not take any action about that and nor should they. If you send any more communications to the couple they may well be able to report you for harassment.

CaptainFuture · 03/03/2025 12:34
Please Leave No Way GIF by Mashed

Pat?... Peggy??

MissyB1 · 03/03/2025 12:35

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:28

I don't want to say too much because it will be too outing

She had an affair with my husband. I wrote to her telling her how she is to blame for it all and that my husband is now where he is loved.

I contacted her husband to tell him to stay away from mutual friends.

" my husband is now where is loved" Eugh! He's a cheat and he will do it again!

Serencwtch · 03/03/2025 12:35

There's nothing to stop you reporting it to the police if you feel that a crime has been committed.

If you have contacted this couple & they have responded to you then that's not a crime - was the letter making threats or abusive? Did the contents cause harassment, fear & distress?

Most likely you will be advised to stop contacting them yourself & keep a record of any further letters which cause fear & distress. If they continue to send letters after you have ceased contacting them then this could be harassment.

Realistically if it's one letter in response to your message then it's unlikely to be a crime unless it contains threats etc.

Nchanged89 · 03/03/2025 12:35

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:32

I'm not sure why you've changed your mind?

I do want to. I told her I would.

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Well do it and see what they say.

Whatzehellizdiss · 03/03/2025 12:35

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:12

I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

No. The police won't be interested at all. You messaged, they replied. Doesn't sound like their harassing you ect, you can't message someone and then threaten with police when they reply 😅

Richiewoo · 03/03/2025 12:35

Behave to the police because you've got a text message. Ignore them.

Knittedfairies2 · 03/03/2025 12:36

Come on OP; you surely don't believe this woman is solely responsible for the affair! Your husband has to bear the responsibility for his actions.

Tara336 · 03/03/2025 12:36

Oh for goodness sake, this isn't a police matter. Do you genuinely think that they are going to rush around to tell your husbands affair partner to stop contacting him? It takes two people to have an affair he's just as responsible. If this isn't a fake post then I'm truly shocked at how bonkers this is

GuiltyGiraffe · 03/03/2025 12:36

So you contacted them first? Maybe they've already called the police on you

user1471538275 · 03/03/2025 12:37

You can write letters saying all sorts of rubbish - and you have.

What you cannot do is expect the police to carry out any actions for you unless a crime has actually taken place.

That's the police's job - not being your flunkies.

ClearFruit · 03/03/2025 12:37

Congratulations, you've won the booby prize.... your 'loved' cheating pig of a Husband.

BobbyBiscuits · 03/03/2025 12:37

Well call the police. But are they harassing you? If you've proof they have been then fair enough. If it's a case of I don't like you anymore, and they replied once, then I don't think they'll consider it a criminal matter.

UnbelievableLie · 03/03/2025 12:38

This thread is wild. The woman is responsible for the whole affair, the cheating idiot is 'back where he is loved' 😂

Catapultaway · 03/03/2025 12:38

If you post any more replies OP I'm going to call the police.

Now you've been warned.

Do you see how illogical the above is? Because that's what you're doing. What do you think the police will say if I report you?

StasisMom · 03/03/2025 12:39

If they responded in an aggressive and malicious manner, then maybe the police would be interested. But as you don't dictate the laws of the land, you can't contact the police just because they responded to you.

nocoolnamesleft · 03/03/2025 12:39

In the UK (and most civilised countries) adultery is not a criminal offence. If she were harassing or stalking you, then absolutely. If not, then you would be wasting police time. Which actually can be a criminal offence.

Miaowzabella · 03/03/2025 12:39

DontKnowWhatToSay25 · 03/03/2025 12:28

I don't want to say too much because it will be too outing

She had an affair with my husband. I wrote to her telling her how she is to blame for it all and that my husband is now where he is loved.

I contacted her husband to tell him to stay away from mutual friends.

What makes you think you get to tell her husband what to do? If your friends don't want to hear from him, presumably they are capable of saying so.

Huckyfell · 03/03/2025 12:40

You can call the police.
Waste of time and they won't do anything but yes you can call them.
You need a legal letter from a solicitor if you want it taking seriously though,

fatgirlswims · 03/03/2025 12:42

No crime has been committed

You cannot call the police.

Probably would be better off dumping the chump of the husband that you have

Neemie · 03/03/2025 12:42

They haven’t broken any laws so there is no point in calling the police. They will know it is completely pointless, empty threat.

MzHz · 03/03/2025 12:45

Out of interest, what did their letter say to you? @DontKnowWhatToSay25