Would the police do anything?

[DontKnowWhatToSay25]

I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

Whilst this is not a funny thought, this did make me laugh!

There's something else you need as well. Some actual harassment! Right now the harasser is the OP - she is the one demanding answers and issuing demands and threats.

nah, the solicitor will help her see whats what....

If you post on here again, OP, I'll contact the police.

...See how ridiculous that idea would be? You can't send the police round to someone's house purely because they do something you've told them not to.

Blimey. If you keep pestering them, it's you who could end up being charged with harassment.

A letter of reply saying "Sorry, but we won't be avoiding our friends" is not one piece of evidence of harassment. OP has confirmed that there were no threats.

Harassment is a course of conduct which this is not. You have an apology so it is likely your letter to them was unpleasant and they responded with an apology. I very much doubt you will hear from them again.

So the one who made vows to you is forgiven but you want to punish her and even her DH. Yes, that's a great idea. Knock yourself out.

OW is at fault

Her DH is at fault.

Your DH, not at fault, just at home where he is loved 🤢.

You, not at fault either and get to dictate how others should behave.

Deluded you are.

Mary, Joseph and the wee little donkey, this is a job for AC12.

So basically you want the last word?

What the fuck? You can't tell people who they can be friends with! I'm sorry but you sound more deranged with every post. The single best thing you can do for yourself and your mental health is get rid of your cheating husband. I'd say the same to the other husband about his wife.

Contacting you isn't an offence, even if you'd asked them not to. It only becomes an offence if there is frequent unwanted contact which is intended to cause distress. I believe that crosses it into the line of harassment. But what you've described sounds like a single incident of contact, that, whilst you didn't want it, doesn't actually break any laws so I'm unsure what you imagine the police will do here?

"She had an affair with my husband" ... you husband played an equal part in this. Why are you acting as though this was something she did to him?

Wow…. You really have no perspective here. Of the two your message sounds more threatening than theirs - and if you really think your husband cheating on you was all her fault, or that you can dictate where her and her husband go, you’re delusional.

@DontKnowWhatToSay25 This is crazy . You can’t tell people what to do . Then to top of off tell them what to do some more by not replying to you .
Why do you get to call the shots ?
Leave it as it is any it or contact is just you looking for drama.
If you can’t handle YOUR husbands affair then you should end your marriage not try to control others .

oh dear, OP. Block her. Forget her. Ask your DH to block her.

Move on. The police don't care unless there are threats.

Nope police will not be interested. They have responded to say that they are not going to be dictated to by you: I also wonder why you are so bothered about it. People can make up their own minds but maybe their version is completely different to yours where it sounds like your poor DH was forced to be somewhere he wasn’t loved (the OW) and he’s now managed to escape and return to you…..

your only control is whether you stay with your husband or not. You can stipulate no contact with the other woman if you are to stay but you can’t control that- only your reaction to it.

But they havent committed a crime? So even if you contact the police they wont do anything about it, as these people could clearly see. You've made a bit of your fool of yourself making such a threat.

And also... you're telling them to stay away from mutual friends? What gives you the right to control how other adults interact with one another?

I get that you're upset that your husband was with another woman. But you need to start being honest with yourself about what that means. He wasn't some innocent victim ensnared by this woman, he was a willing participant in sexual activity with another adult. Your hurt over that doesn't mean you can just make demands about who other adults are allowed to talk to and then call the police on them when they don't do as you told them.

Ok now you are sounding utterly mad. Her DH was complicit in what? It sounds like you are apportioning more blame for the affair on her husband than on your own.

You cannot dictate to either of them which friends they can and cannot see, neither can you dictate to your friends where their loyalties should lie over this. If you think she should step back from mutual social groups because she was the one who did you wrong, then surely this should also apply you your husband? So are you going to bar him from seeing your friends as well? Why does he get a free pass to carry on his social life as if nothing happened (but without this couple in it) because you want to forgive him, but her husband doesn't have the right to expect the same without you and your husband being a fly in his ointment?

In the end your mutual friends will decide who they want to spend time with. They'll either take a side and drop one couple, or see all of you, but separately. If you start making demands on people this will probably end badly for you.

Right, but she's not asking them to stop contacting her. She wants these people to stop contacting their mutual friends. Which she has no right to insist upon.

Did you really tell her that her affair partner was "back where he was loved"? As if he is some kind of prize. I am embarrassed FOR you 😬
What exactly do you want the police to do when you initiated contact?. You wrote 2 letters and then expected them to not to reply?. You are trying to dictate where they go and who they spend time with. Perhaps they have more right to go to the police if you continue to harass.
Anyway, why should your dirty cheat of a husband be the one who 'gets' to hang out with the friends? Do the friends not get a say? Are the police supposed to tell them to 'stay away' from your friends? 😂

It sounds as if you are desperately trying to hold on to your husband by dictating what others can and cannot do.

You need a therapist, OP, not the police. You don't go calling the police because people wrote to you apologising and suggesting you all move on.