Would the police do anything?

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I wrote to someone telling them if they attempted to contact me or my family I'd contact the police. I've blocked them and their partner from all sm etc.

I then contacted their partner with a separate message.

They've written to me together.

Can I call the police?

The DH was complicit in the end. That's why he shouldn't be able to see our friends.

Presumably you also think your husband shouldn't have contact with them anymore then?

As he was equally complicit in covering up an affair. His affair.

You just wanted to have the last word!!!

We were friends. All four of us.

I told her that she is pure evil.

This is truly awful to have happened to you OP. But you do need to take a step back. Your husband is the one married to you, not this woman. The blame and your anger should be with him. In time you will hopefully be able to think a little clearer, but none of this is a police matter.

It's still all about her isn't it. Why are you not addressing your husbands part in this? He was not forced to have an affair by anyone, it was his decision. The OW is her husbands problem not yours.

You do not get to dictate who the OW or her husband can and cannot speak to. Your problems are closer to home.

You are acting like your husband was forced to cheat on you with the OW, they are both to blame and you need to focus your anger on him. Stop treating him like a victim which will ultimately allow him to cheat again as he knows you will accept him back. Give your head a shake !

Evil? No. Morally wrong absolutely but it was YOUR HUSBAND that cheated. Focus on dealing with him.

What she did doesn’t make her evil and it certainly doesn’t give you the right to tell her or her husband who she can see beyond the fact that you don’t want to see her.

with respect she isn’t your problem - you can cast her as evil all you want and you can even not see her but it won’t change your husbands part in this.

and you won’t be able to move on until you do accept that.

You need to focus on your own household. Have you told him he’s evil too?

And what are your thoughts on your husbands behaviour?

No he was lost, she preyed on him.

Whatever helps you sleep at night, darling.

Do you really believe that?

6 weeks.

In what way, how was her husband complicit, did they abuse him or gain anything from your husbands affair. Was any abuse reported to his doctor or the police at the time.

How are you this gullible? It takes two to have an affair.
We all go through trials and tribulations in life. We don't all then have an affair.
He has obviously convinced you he is a victim in this. And that is your choice to believe.
But you can't in turn then tell the woman and her husband that they can't see people or go to certain places.
You don't have the right or power to do so.
It's awful what they BOTH did to you . But putting your energy in to therapy and not them would be better .

'Lost' cats are almost always out wandering the streets looking for a shag... just saying.

It's OK that you feel that way, its OK that you're mad at her. As your friend she behaved badly towards you too.

But you need to hold him accountable, if you make excuses for him he will know he has a free pass. He didn't trip. He willingly kissed touched and was intimate with her and you only know because he got caught.

If he could still get away with it he might. And I honestly get it anger is an easier emotion, and directing it at her is safer but if you continue like this the one who will suffer most is you.

We're all saying it, we're not all wrong

The Jezebel tempted and turned this good man, who was weak and suffering. Tale as old as time itself. Not the man’s fault at all. No, when his penis entered her, when he kissed her with passion, when he arranged their get togethers and agreed on time and place, Eyes full of lust and excitement, he was in fact possessed by the devil. The devil being this evil woman and her magical vagina. She made him a mere puppet, with zero free will. How can he be blamed for fucking her? I’m sure he didn’t even enjoy it the first, second or third time he repeated the act.

Oh OP. If only other breasts didn’t exist in the world, he could be a stronger man for you. I feel for you. Perhaps we should bring back burning witches?

Omg get a grip 'he was lost' 'she preyed on him'

He is using you. He has his nice comfy bed back at home with you.

Leave the woman alone, I cannot believe you are solely blaming her.

Affairs are wrong by it takes two to tango, stop writing to her and she will stop - you are instigating it.

The police have real crime to fight and would laugh in your face

What happens next time he's lost?

He might be doing his best lost puppy routine with you but he's shown you who he is someone willing to seek comfort with another woman, a mutual friend no less.

If she did initiate it he should have loved you enough to say no. If opportunity impacts his loyalty hes not some innocent victim. He's showing you who he is, so don't look away.

You're making this not his fault and it is! You've got to stop excusing him for hurting you. I'm not saying you should divorce him or not forgive him. But you only have a marriage to save if he's accountable for his choices and behaviours. His feelings don't excuse his betrayal.

And if you put all your energy into anger at her and her husband (who's as much as victim as you) You won't have any left to fix your marriage and this will happen again.

You can forgive him and hold him responsible. I wouldn't be forgiving him if he wasn't taking responsibility.

You are hurt but behaving in a totally unhinged manner. Get a grip.

He wasn't an innocent victim. Are you saying that he had no choice in the matter? Obviously, it's much easier to blame the OW and she has done an awful thing, but she had no responsibility towards you like your husband did.

This is pathetic.