I am a narcissist

[ohyesido]

I am. But I'm not a horrible person.

I lack empathy but I've learned that it isn't nice to manipulate people.

Yet I still do, only in such a way that no one can ever really accuse me of it. Because I twist my words to indicate that I have everyone's best interests at heart.

Everything I do is calculated to ensure I get my own way while maintaining a facade of good intentions

Can anyone relate?

@BornSandyDevotional clearly not a Simpsons fan

See. This is where I think you're getting a bit of rage. What does it feel like?

I don't believe I recall ever being ghosted. I've been with my DH 16 years, ghosting wasn't really a thing and it didn't have a name

No. Not a Simpsons fan.

Maybe that makes me all sorts of special and not like 'normal' people? Wow!

@BornSandyDevotional no it's not that deep

The Simpsons… the exquisite cultural tastes continue

No, I actually love job interviews and am very very good at them. Same with presenting and/or speaking in public.
I don't remember ever crying at a film really but things like "The Dog House" make my throat go a bit tight.
I remember watching Top Gun at the cinema (I am that old) and all my friends were crying when Goose died and I was a bit baffled as it was a film.

All the insults and rudeness still coming from one direction only I see

Cool. I think ghosting became an official online dating term in around 2011. So 14 years. It was around a lot longer though.

Hope it’s ok to ask you something . Do you think you feel love like everyone else or do you just do things like being with someone and a child because it makes you more acceptable to others ? I ask as a member if my family is a narcissist or sociopath ( young adult and refusing to dismiss his diagnosis ) , he seems to follow the social norm when it comes to relationships , school etc , but I’m always so doubtful he actually loves anyone past the fact people are useful for social construct

There’s a lot being said that’s really unfair. A lot of us see through narcissists because of our own hyper vigilance. The majority of people just don’t see through it. They fall for all that bollocks because they aren’t tuned to spot it.

And many narcs have people who care about them, at least to the extent that the narcissist understands. I work hard to keep mine happy enough- though obviously that isn’t actually possible. Safe and well cared for, basically.

Probably thinks she sounds so hip and with it using schoolyard phrases, it’s just a bit of a cringe-fest in an adult.

I'm very well cared for and I'm secure in the love of my DH. He knows what I am and it amuses him when he witnesses me and my antics.

My boss is quite often flummoxed by my insubordination and refusal to do as I'm told but he also admires my ability to get the job done so I get to stay

I think having an evil parrot fits the narcissistic “brand” or persona if you will.

Its true
I tend to spot them on sight and everyone else catches up later.
I think many people don't actually know or believe people with a PD exist ot that if they do its not obvious so they don't look for it but I am very alert to it.
I have actually thought someone might have one at first a few times and been wrong but I can spot them pretty reliably

@FlyingUnicornWings I see. He is very evil but also very pretty so I like him

You must be careful to present ideas to her in very simple terms with words of no more the 5 letters, and very short sentences, if you want to make certain she gets it.

I completely relate to this. Dm cannot see that my sibling is one. Sibling manipulates her so well, it is terrifying.

This has been insightful. I temporarily lost my account around 8pm last night because some joker reported me. But thankfully after a discussion with the moderators I was reinstated this afternoon

I've honestly gained a lot of insight here. Mostly reinforcing my decision to cut my father dead following a childhood dominated by his extreme and obvious personality disorder and rage. I'm not convinced everything I've read is authentic. But I'm proper cynical. What I do know is that there are people who I find profoundly unrelatable and who - despite their lofty opinions of themselves - contribute very little to society. The very idea that it doesn't effect their children negatively is as ludicrous as their fantasy that other people can't see it because they're utterly superior and amazing at pulling the wool. I've sported a bit because they can't hit me. But I probably shouldn't. The thing is, it doesn't matter what you say or do, they don't care anyway. *Edited for fat finger typos

Let me be clear. I know on some level that I'm no different or better than others. But I behave and think as though I am.

Others may scoff and make petty remarks in the hope of proving that I'm not special but I don't care about that.

You can't prove I'm not special anymore than I can prove I am. I'm not here to demonstrate anything, I'm just discussing myself.

Interesting you think she was being mean. I think she was being honest.

(shite, the more I interact with you the more I am convinced that I am the narc and you the empath - which is how I usually see myself).

THIS.
But, real -life nightmare experience has led to ds tell me,more than once.Hecknows everything he's doing/saying...it's on purpose "
Which is very true. .
Might not be aware of what his own'label':says. But the intent is absolute.
Everytime.
Sod all to boast about

After almost a lifetime I am starting to realise that my sibling has a pd. Looking back, it was so obvious and staring me in the face. It's quite scary how uncaring she is. I was very close to her dc and she manipulated me into bankrolling them for years, and then dropped me like a ton of bricks when they were old enough to work/fend for themselves. It has been quite a wake up call. It makes you feel like an idiot because they are the direct opposite to me. I am an empath, which in my mind should also be classified as a pd - is it?