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Think my neighbour is seeing 2 guys at the same time

206 replies

Neighbourwoes2 · 18/02/2025 22:30

I've seen 2 different guys visit my female neighbours house regularly in the last month. I'm assuming she's sleeping with them as it's in the evening. Not sure if they know about each other..
Should I say anything to them? Or would that be ridiculous?

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SexAndCakes · 19/02/2025 00:00

I'm assuming this thread is a wind up.

In real life, I once noticed that my downstairs neighbour was having an affair, and overheard him lying to his girlfriend about it (after it had ended). I didn't mean to, they were talking about it right outside my open window. I would never have dreamed of getting involved but did look at him a bit differently after that.

Gorgeousfeet · 19/02/2025 00:01

Neighbourwoes2 · 18/02/2025 22:30

I've seen 2 different guys visit my female neighbours house regularly in the last month. I'm assuming she's sleeping with them as it's in the evening. Not sure if they know about each other..
Should I say anything to them? Or would that be ridiculous?

What the Geoff has this got to do with you?
She could have a different bloke in every night of the week and it would still be none of your business..

Mind your own and concentrate on your own life…

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 19/02/2025 00:03

SexAndCakes · 19/02/2025 00:00

I'm assuming this thread is a wind up.

In real life, I once noticed that my downstairs neighbour was having an affair, and overheard him lying to his girlfriend about it (after it had ended). I didn't mean to, they were talking about it right outside my open window. I would never have dreamed of getting involved but did look at him a bit differently after that.

Didn't you want to stick your head out the window and yell "you lying bastard"?

BaMamma · 19/02/2025 00:05

What on earth would you say? Tell her you think she's a slut, congratulate her on having 2 lovers, ask for her secret to keeping them both happy, ask if you can join in? What business is it of yours what she does or with whom?

ForZanyAquaViewer · 19/02/2025 00:07

Neighbourwoes2 · 18/02/2025 23:49

Ok apologies, I've obviously jumped to conclusions, just thought they might not like it if they don't know about each other. I will just forget about it.

Why did you think it was any of your business, though? That’s what many of us are unclear on.

sammylady37 · 19/02/2025 00:08

Just as well you don’t live near me op, you’d see a lot more than 2 male visitors 😅

BlondiePortz · 19/02/2025 00:19

OP if we all said it was a great idea, can I please ask how do you think the conversation would go?

Delphiniumandlupins · 19/02/2025 00:20

You need to speak to your neighbour and find out exactly how many different men she's having sex with before you can decide what to do next. In fact, why not make up a survey for the whole street while you're at it?

AubernFable · 19/02/2025 00:24

I just came from a thread where a person was talking about seeing a man she knows out with his other woman and then didn’t tell his wife, who she is friendly with. I was sat thinking to myself, ‘Who wouldn’t tell the poor partner of someone being cheated on?’ But in this situation, I absolutely would not. She could just have two male friends, be dating non-exclusively, or be a swinger. Unless you know her or her partner(s) personally, I would avoid meddling or thinking too much of it.

ValentinesGranny · 19/02/2025 00:30

Maybe she's a sex worker who has only just set up her home as s brothel and these two men are her regulars. Phone 999 now.
I'm hoping your hands are hairy because you're insane if they aren't. Mind your own fucking business.

Tortielady · 19/02/2025 00:31

Why don't you rig up a sound system, OP and have it belt out 'Runaround Sue' every time that outrageous floozy appears at her front door or whenever her gentlemen callers arrive? Video it and put it on social media for our edification. I live in a terrace without bay windows, so I only see the front doors of those directly opposite me and they are most unobliging with their antics. If anything exciting happens, I don't see it 😆

OonaStubbs · 19/02/2025 00:36

I think the OP is just jealous.

ClairDeLaLune · 19/02/2025 00:37

Put a sign up in your window saying “Which man is it tonight then Jane?”

ACynicalDad · 19/02/2025 00:40

Unless you know one of the guys it is none of your business.

Randomease · 19/02/2025 00:41

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 18/02/2025 23:53

But why do you care? Even if, for arguments sake, she is seeing two blokes and they won’t like it. It’s not your concern. Do you have that little to occupy your time? Could you redirect this energy and time into volunteering or something?

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Or masturbating perhaps?

WearyAuldWumman · 19/02/2025 00:55

Ha.

My neighbour has been doing a bit of curtain twitching lately. (Amateur! My mum could do it better...)

I'm a widow and she's seen me being picked up by a "strange man".

On Sunday evening, she finally asked me whether I was going to the shops as I left my house (slightly) dressed up.

"No," I answered truthfully, "my cousin is taking me to church." (I'm not religious, but it's a way of getting out of the house and having a bit of company.)

Things are not always what they seem - and it's none of your business, OP.

Cosyvibes · 19/02/2025 01:00

What a absolute brazen hussy! Go op, go and stand by her gate and tell them all... tell the world about this woman of ill repute!

🤣🤣🤣

SexAndCakes · 19/02/2025 01:04

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 19/02/2025 00:03

Didn't you want to stick your head out the window and yell "you lying bastard"?

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A little bit, yeah.

Momtotwokids · 19/02/2025 01:08

DramaAlpaca · 18/02/2025 22:33

I don't understand why you would think it's any of your business Confused

Can you imagine doing something so stupid?

IridiumSky · 19/02/2025 01:15

Twinstudy · 18/02/2025 22:40

You need to alert the church elders immediately

Be very careful.

One of the ‘guys’ may be a church elder. Or maybe both are. 😄

Obvious wind-up. Or a question which has fallen through a time portal from 1892.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 19/02/2025 01:15

I wonder if you're the neighbour watching through your ring doorbell that another poster was complaining about on another thread? But, based off your initial post, my advice is to get a life.

perfectlyimperfectt · 19/02/2025 01:22

Yeah, definitely tell them. She is out of order!!

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If she tells them - this thread might be better than the one the other day where she had someone’s car towed away!!

CalicoPusscat · 19/02/2025 01:24

It's the local chess club

fedup1212 · 19/02/2025 01:25

This is mental.

How on earth do you know she's sleeping with both of them!?

Really thought this was a wind up until I saw MN comment further down.

Christ. You absolute weirdo, stop spying on your neighbours and get a life and or hobby.

Cupcakes2035 · 19/02/2025 01:26

there could be any number of factors involved,