WWYD - son due to go on holiday tomorrow (inc. 2 days off school) but has been given saturday detention

[lechatnoir]

So we were due to take a long weekend holiday with our DC this weekend in part to celebrate a joint big birthday (DS 16 and my 50th) but also as a treat for DS working hard revising for his mock gcse which have just finished (lots of students still doing exams which is why we felt he wouldn't be missing too much). There was one optional subject he's really struggled with but school wouldn't let him drop. I was disappointed they wouldn't just let him drop it but OK with him drawing a line on that subject as he has 9 others and it was an option and accepting he'd fail one but use the time to focus on the other subjects.

However, I've just had an email from school saying he has been given a saturday detention & will face 'further consequences to be determined' for defacing one of his papers with disrespectful & obscene language (I've seen it and it's awful). There will clearly be consequences at home but of course in the immediate he's due to go on holiday which is hardly a punishment! It feels so wrong to still treat him with a holiday not to mention we had planned on telling school we were taking him away so they will no doubt be furious too given this incident.

I'm not cancelling the whole trip but can't leave him home alone & that would be massive to leave a child behind and miss a family holiday!

WWYD?

Zwellers · Today 00:59

pollyglot Are you this unpleasant and rude in real life. Or just anonymously via a keyboard were you can judge strangers because obviously your children are perfect and have never done a thing wrong. Perhaps learn some manners and courtesy yourself.

Well now, Zwellers, I have gone back and reread what I wrote. The only reference I can find to my writing of my own DC is the following :"had my own DC done that (i.e. written some vile ("awful") language designed to be read by the teacher), I would have stripped the paint off them." Wherever have I stated, or even implied, that my "children are perfect and have never done a thing wrong"? The answer, Zwellers, is never.

"Manners and courtesy"? Because I called the young man a brat? Or perhaps my underlying suggestion that lying to the school is inappropriate and teaches the student that mendacity is a positive attribute? Or that bad behaviour and lack of respect should be disregarded if it's an inconvenient truth? Your children learn from you and your actions, and bring that learning into the classroom.

My children would not have been attending Saturday detentions, one of them had a Saturday job so this would not be feasible.

as others have said, advise the school due to family obligations unable to attend please contact me so we can come to an arrangement.

Bit late, this is from Feb, how did you get here?!

It only came up on my feed today - didn’t look at date - sorry