Anyone discovered an affair after an accident?

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I recently watched a TV programme about a woman who found out her husband was having an affair after he'd been involved in a serious accident which also involved his affair partner. She thought he was away on business.

Has this happened to anyone in real life?

How shocking it must be and you must have so many questions in your head!

Not an affair, but I had a friend/acquaintance I'd lost touch with and then we re-connected years later. I used to see him once every 2-3 months for a coffee. He was very kind to me when I went through a really difficult period in my personal life. It was all totally above board and not even a sniff of any inappropriate intentions. He often talked about his wife and adult kids.

He got cancer and one day stopped responding to my texts. I got worried after a while but as we had no shared acquaintances I had no way of finding out what had happened. Months later I got a text from his phone, which I eagerly opened hoping he was ok. It was his wife telling me he'd died of a heart attack and asking why she knew nothing about me. She must have thought something was going on. I replied explaining the situation but I still think how horrible it must have been for her to find out her husband had this female friend she knew nothing about (even though I'm gay and if she read our messages, that would have been obvious to her from the chat about my personal life).

This makes me feel sick reading this. What a useless selfish piece of 💩the kids aren’t strapped in he’s canoodling with his mistress and doesn’t notice the pram rolling into the sea.

I think this thread proves how common it is. Early in my career a colleagues wife died unbelted in a corvette convertible with a man who wasnt him while he was on a conference in California. People expressed more disbelief that the wife of a trauma surgeon who surely heard many stories from him would fail to use a seatbelt. Another time two traumas arrived after illegally crossing a railroad track. Both wife and mistress show up. I received very little guidance re: managing this awkward critical care waiting room situation. I always let the wife in to see him irregardless of the time of day becuse she seemed the most affected. She would ask for me becuse she knew I would accommodate her thru side doors etc. another colleague had been having an affair with a nurse. He and wife went on vacation plane crashed and if recall correctly he was beheaded by flying debris. She survived. Mistress had a very very difficult time and used to move “his chair” from room to room when she worked. Truth can be stranger than fiction. And this all happened in a smallish community and was in the newspapers

I know someone who had her AP's baby. They were also neighbours. Just after the baby was born, he was involved in a serious traffic accident, and was hospitalized for months.

The wife received and opened all the official documents relating to him fathering a baby, and that was how she found out.

https://www.historyextra.com/period/20th-century/chappaquiddick-incident-kennedy-what-happened/

My best friend from school. Her beloved dad became gravely ill while on a regular work trip to USA. His UK HR called his wife. His US team leader also called his wife..... turned out to be two different people.

He had a whole second family out there - full-on bigamist. Married the same year, the same number of children - the whole nine yards and white picket fence.

In the end, he recovered - pled amnesia and as soon as he left the hospital ran off to a whole different country with a whole other woman he had on the side.

The devastation and mental health issues in the families can not be understated - knowing that you lived a whole lie with someone you loved as a parent or spouse gives you trust issues that you can not ever get over. All his children are deeply damaged.

How did she explain that to everyone?

It happened here in my town with a man who worked with my DH . A man told his wife he had to work one night (LE) and instead he took his girlfriend out to sleep on their boat in the marina. They were both found the next day dead of carbon monoxide poisoning.

Yes, it’s so shocking, that poor woman.

It had to come out because my grandad also worked with them. She was stranded a few towns over and was late home.
I’m unsure of the exact details, my aunt told me about it a few years ago, after my siblings and I mentioned it was strange (for the time) that my dad and his siblings lived with their dad and only saw their mum at weekends.

You really think this is funny?🙄

@MsVi This happened near me too, I was too young to understand why it was so scandalous at the time and being very confused. It was a local police officer with his AP in a car and he died on top of her and was too large for her to move so had to wait for help. The poor family didn't stay around.

I remember Will doing the lottery trick to Geoffrey in Fresh Prince of BelAir -Geoffrey goes feral telling them all how much he hates them!

I think there is a Jilly Cooper where a man gets stuck inside a woman - I think she has some kind of spasm and IIRC, the doctor is her husband or something like that!

I read of a horrific true story where a couple were going at it on a stunt grand piano in a striptease bar and accidentally triggered the mechanism which made it rise to the ceiling and it crushed them - she survived because she was thinner. The Condor Club.

Not an accident but a friend answered the phone and was asked if she was Mrs 'Jones' she said yes and the caller said I'm calling from X hotel in Y country and we have a promotion on at the moment and if you give feed back about your and Mr Jones' stay with us last week you could win 50% off a future booking. She told the poor cold caller that she had been at home last week looking after her and Mr Jones' 3 children while he was supposed to be on a business trip in Z country. Mr Jones got home from work that day to find his things packed suitcase on the doorstep.

That is simply not true.

Who cares? It's an interesting thread and you are clearly enjoying it too.

Cheers tuva,I was being sarcastic at the supposedly breaking rules when a pp done the same.

Long ago boyfriend was a police officer. Double fatality RTA, and obvious woman ( passenger) was giving male driver a BJ. He and a female officer were sent to the house as didn’t know if woman in the car was the wife or not. She wasn’t . Poor woman found out not only was her husband dead but he was in a sex act with another woman when it happened. she learned this later on, not from my ex boyfriend. Grim.

Probably in the 60's but my father had to deal with the estate of a man who had died in bed with a woman from down the road I dont think they were young.

neither were married so no 'OP' issued but the family thought it was a hoot 'Good old Uncle' however my father felt very sorry for the poor woman

I also hears of a Maternity hospital with two women in labour and one dad rushing backwards and forwards between them, the hospital kept them as far apart as possible.

An acquaintance on returning home from hospital with her newborn child had a message on the answerphone. It was from a woman congratulating the acquaintance’s husband on the birth of his baby - he was having an affair m two babies, born in the same hospital, on the same day but on different wards.
A very well known businessman in my home town when I was a child, died in a taxi on his way home from one of his mistresses- it transpired there were four, plus a wife and three DCs.

Years ago my good friend used to work abroad for weeks at a time. She formed a relationship with a man who worked a similar shift pattern for the same firm (roughly 9 weeks abroad then home for 3 weeks.) She never saw very much of him during their 3 weeks in the uk as he lived at the opposite end of the country and said he needed to spend that time with his kids from his previous marriage.
One night, abroad, he died while he was with her. It quickly emerged that he was in fact still married and she was just a mistress. This was despite them being "engaged".
Lots of other stuff then emerged about the chap, and it seems he wasn't just living a double life but had a number of other partners - male and female- that he was stringing along. No wonder he had a bloody heart attack.
It must be so hard to navigate grief when a death exposes such a huge betrayal.

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/4689830/Girl-2-drowned-in-her-buggy-after-father-let-go-to-kiss-mistress.html

This is just awful.

I agree. I would have imagined they would have been so devastated and guilty (including the OW) that they wouldn't have been able to bear to be together.

The poor ex wife/mother. And the poor brothers.

I’ve just looked at the FB pages of both of them and I can’t see any evidence of them having another little girl but the two boys, the eldest one is autistic, are obviously a very big part of their lives.

The wee girls mum seems to have just vanished and I can’t say I blame her.

Andrew and Paula Hooper very much deserve each other, are despicable and no, I wouldn’t expect them to have an ounce of decency in them. Their life goes on. That’s all that matters.

I’m a bereavement counsellor. I cannot tell you the number of clients who discover an affair partner, or in some cases a second family, after the loss. Mobile devices, laptops etc..