Anyone discovered an affair after an accident?

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I recently watched a TV programme about a woman who found out her husband was having an affair after he'd been involved in a serious accident which also involved his affair partner. She thought he was away on business.

Has this happened to anyone in real life?

How shocking it must be and you must have so many questions in your head!

@lemonfizzysweets

Regarding bigamy, I'm baffled how men can afford to keep 2 wives, 2 families, and in this case the man had a mistress on the side too ! Even if the man is well off, life must become so complicated.

@ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself

Thankyou for the link !

I used to row. Turned up one evening for a paddle and a large narrow boat was sinking right in front of the clubhouse. There were two couples on board, the boat belonged to one of the gentlemen.
They had all been drinking heavily and despite us offering our assistance they were reluctant to come onto dry land.
Police and fire service arrived, by this point we had managed to rescue them but the boat was pretty much submerged.
Throughout they were all reluctant to call family or friends for a lift home etc. They were not locals and had travelled up the river from their mooring about 20miles away.
The local news turned up with a film crew and the two couples became very sheepish and refused to be interviewed. It turned out that the two men had invited their side kicks along for a weekend of fun under the guise of a boys fishing trip.
I always wondered how they explained it to their wives who would have seen the report on the local news that evening.
It took a week for the boat to be salvaged causing a lot of inconvenience to the boat club and other river users but the story was entertaining. @

Chile.

20+ years ago I was seeing a guy I worked with, we had been in a relationship for about a year, didn’t live together but saw each other daily at work and were out most evenings. He had kids and was divorced, didn't see him most weekends - all fine as I was young and enjoyed going out with friends at weekends. He’d asked me to marry him, I’d declined as I wasn’t ready/too young.

One day he had a bad accident on his motorbike and landed up in a coma for several months, during which time two other women who thought they were in committed relationships with him showed up at the hospital to visit him. All quite mad during what was already a very stressful difficult time.

He pulled through (thankfully) and he tried to get in touch again, I did meet him but he did not seem like the same person post the accident, other than he was still attempting to lie to all the women he’d variously hoodwinked - I beat a hasty retreat obviously…

Not really an accident, but a medical emergency.
My mum's friend "Jean" was married to a policeman, quite senior, and they had a grown up family. One day at work he had a heart attack and was in hospital for a couple of weeks. Jean worked evenings so visited in the day. One day, another patient's wife asked if the woman who visited him in the evenings was his sister. Jean had the evening off and caught him with his "other wife" who called herself Mrs His name and they had 2 teenagers.
Jean had no idea, it had been going on for many years, but all their police friends knew about it.
She divorced him and when it was done, she climbed over the wall into his garden where he lived with the woman and smashed up the greenhouse.

Local pub landlord had a heart attack while with the other woman, bit awkward when they both turned up at his bedside. Wife of many years divorced him and he's still with affair partner

Anout 25 years age whilst in the police, got called out to an incident. A guy was in the back seat of his car, with is affair, trousers and pants around his ankles, had a heart attack and died. I'm just glad I wasn't the one that had to tell his wife.

But here we all are, reading it ……

The image of a woman in her fifties doing a Tom Cruise mission impossible over the fence into the greenhouse with a gof club is very amusing.

We had a bigamist in our family. It was discovered whilst he was alive and he went to prison.
Upon his death his 5 children were shocked to find their doppelgangers, all 8 of them, at the service!!
Most of the 8 were similar in age to them too.
None of them wanted relationships with each other, can't say I blame them really.

I know of a woman who ended up in hospital very ill with pneumonia and other things. It turns out she had full blown AIDS. Her husband had been sleeping with male sex workers for years and gave it her. She had to come to terms with the affair, that her marriage was a lie and that she was dying all at once. How can anyone deal with that. She would’ve died not long after that but I still think about what she went through.

@User0103 especially a dainty, petite, glamorous, very ladylike lady as she was!

My father. He almost died in a motorcycle accident and the affair partner turned up at his bedside. It had been an unspoken secret between a few family members and came fully out when she threw herself across his intensive care bed, wailing and sobbing. She was his cousin.

The saddest thing is that his wife (my step-mother) had known about it and was on the verge of leaving him. The affair partner disappeared once she realised how much rehab he was going to need, so his wife stayed and looked after him. He died two years ago and she has outlived him, but is now so ill with dementia that she can't enjoy her life without him.

A friend of mine was seeing a guy in the army. He used to come home to her every so often & lived with her. They got engaged & started planning the wedding. One time after his leave had finished she went to put something in his bag as a surprise for him when he got back to his barracks, only to find a photo of him & his wife & child on their wedding day. He'd been living a double life, going home to her & his wife alternatively when on leave. Both women knew nothing of the other.

He was not even well off! (or a looker, to be fair)

The USA wife was the 'breadwinner' in that household and the UK wife was the 'breadwinner' in that household. He told everyone he was a low earner as a dedicated salaryman in a non-profit. Apparently, his 'wives' loved that fact he was 'making the world a better place' and they supported him to do that.

He was not working in a non-profit at all - he was in middle management in sales

I'm baffled how they find the time!

And you can understand the different domestic workload for women and men very well - you rarely hear of women with another secret family :D

Perhaps women are more sensible.

We realise that one husband can be hard work, so why would we want two? 🤣

"hello, my secret other family, I have arrived to scrub toilets and do bedtime!"

This made me snort.

As happens from time to time to all of us, I got press-ganged as a stoker in the Merchant Navy.

We were in the Missions to Seamen at Swansea one night (The only bar I have ever visited where they send a minibus to collect and return you) and the Mate started to go on about the Bosun and his personal life.

A widowed Scot of pensionable age small, trim, softly spoken and happy to talk, in true sailor fashion he had 'a girl in every port'😊

Trouble is though if your daily grind is Bristol, Clevedon, Penarth and Ilfracombe etc thats a lot of girls.

It was even causing issues with the crew because on several occasions there were at least 4 women in the crews mess , daggers drawn and awaiting his attention while we were trying to have our breaks, meals etc.

They ranged from late 20's to about 80.

Yes. Friends uncle. Doctor. Highly regarded. Pillar of the community type man. Married 30 years. 4 children.
Car accident. He and affair partner both died. Wife was chief mourner at the funeral. The fact that he was with another women was never mentioned. But everyone knew..

Just remembered that in Sex and the City/And Just Like That, Mr Big left $1m in his will to his ex wife, Natasha.

You'd probably have lots of questions if that happened in real life!

Off topic but 'elderly' in her early 60s?