A lyft driver refuses a plus size woman in his car

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I feel sorry for him. He’s going to lose his job at this rate, as management seem to be seeking her out to apologise.

Could he have worded it better? Absolutely.

Is she right to demand to ride in his car when he says she won’t fit and will damage his car? No!

Theres XL lyft for this exact reason

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Exactly. I'll bet my house that the pearl clutchers on this thread commenting about how it's a HORRIBLE thread, and people are soooooooooo nasty, would not want this woman in the passenger seat of their car. 100% guarantee they would refuse! If anyone says they wouldn't refuse I won't believe them!

And this friend announced how much she weighed, did she?! No, course she didn't. You presumed that's what she weighed 🙄 Probably miles off ffs

There are ways of saying you know what, he knows his car's limits, he has to operate his vehicle safely, it's fine for him to refuse. Without resorting to referring to the lady as "that" as someone did previously.

I don't believe that she's never ordered a plus size car because of her weight. She's roughly 35stone which is huge by any standards and I can understand why a person in a standard car with very standard suspension wouldn't want all of that weight placed on the back seat of their car. Further if she just dumped herself down in the seat I'd be worried that something would break before we'd even got started.

Lyft are idiots too. His behaviour was not unacceptable. He was polite but firm and placed in a really uncomfortable situation. People who are that overweight have to accept that they are outside of the norm when it comes to all sorts of things that most of us take for granted, seats being one of them. I'm guessing that she would have to book two seats on a plane flight because there's no way she'd fit into one and then she'd complain that it was discrimination. She's massively entitled and the lawyers she's picked up know that they're getting some free publicity with the chance of other I'm morbidly obese and proud influencer types.

Thanks @soupyspoon I was about to say that!

The 'rude' comment that @EasterIssland pointed out was posted after I said there have been no real rude comments on here. And the one at 8.35pm was not rude, but purely an opinion!

Firstly not everyone is morbidly obese due to disordered eating from trauma or emotional difficulties, I wasnt. I love my food and I like eating too much, the vast majority of people who are eating too much do so because of cheap food and UPF availability

America is an example of that, there arent more traumatised people there than anywhere else

However that is somewhat irrelevant to the discussion. No one lacks compassion toward her as a general human being, no more or less compassion than the bloke next door or the woman walking past on the street.

People are querying her, challenging her, disapproving of her (if you like) due to her sense of entitlement, not her weight per se, she is a CF of the highest order.

Thats what people have issue with, not her as an overweight person per se.

I may well not want this woman in my car but there's a way of expressing that without being nasty about her or dehumanising her. That's the point. She's not going to see this thread but other people will. People whose self esteem is low enough already without being told that other people think of them as less than human. Or dread having to sit next to them on a plane.

I think the driver had every right to refuse to take her. He relies on his car to make a living. I bet she wouldn’t have coughed up if she’d have damaged it and it needed repairing.

Seems to me like this driver is on the wrong end of something seized on as a publicity stunt.

500 lbs in one spot?
And how will she wear a seat belt? And where is she even going to sit?

The poster altered what she said very quickly - as she said she put it in error. Even if she didn't put it in error, but just decided to change it quickly the comment never stayed. No need to milk it. That poster said it, they changed it, it's gone. Move on.

I think it’s also worth saying that the driver didn’t film her without consent and post it on the internet to try to whip up a frenzy against her. She filmed him and then posted it all over the internet, calling him a motherfucker, in an attempt to damage his livelihood.

If he’d filmed her and then posted it to the internet saying “this MF tried to get in my car” I’d be 100% on her side.

Nobody has said this. What we have pointed out is fhat she needs to be respected as much as someone that weights 10 or 20’st. It’s her weight and her health so it should only concern her. Nobody else.

When I was massive I dreaded sitting next to people on planes because I knew that wasnt right and how I would impact on them

I also remember sharing the back of a car once with 2 people, I was mortified that they were impacted by me, all squashed up. People are kidding themselves if they dont think they're going to be viewed as inconvenient and a nuisance to other people physically.

Exactly. It's a discussion on AIBU. Some people aren't going to like some of the comments. Durrr! 🙄

As said in my other comment if you hadn’t seen any rude comments before then I guess it’s because you think like them

It’s a lot of weight for one side of the car to handle in fairness. I once bought 5 bags of compost and chucked them on the passenger seat and I could feel the car sink on one side and I was surprised at how much it struggled going up the hill on my way home.

Google tells me a bag of compost weighs around 3.5 stone so to take this lady as a passenger would have been like taking 10 bags of compost on the passenger seat which definitely would have fucked the car. I can see why the driver said no.

They didn't change it. They typed "edit" after they'd written it. They then tried to claim "that" wad a pronoun when the article clearly states the lady is a she/her woman.

It’s the distribution of the weight. At school years ago we had a student who had Prader -Willi Syndrome and was very overweight. We weren’t allowed to take him in the school minibus due to the risk of damage, and possible injury to him, boarding and his weight concentrated in one double seat was deemed unsafe. There were two mobile classrooms where the external wooden steps were replaced with concrete slopes. The injuries if something had collapsed didn’t bear thinking about.

It's in Chat and there's no need to be nasty about the lady's size.

You’re right, she is massively entitled.

Massively, shockingly, ginormously entitled.

It also concerns the taxi driver, no?

Of course it's not OK to dehumanize obese people. But I wouldn't let her in my car. Paid or not.
She knows she is very fat and is using that for her own gain. She needs to be realistic. The poor driver will loose his livelihood.

Yeah that's what it is. Clever you. 🙄 There have been dozens of nasty vile comments and I deny it because I love the nasty comments, and agree with them.

That better for you?