Kids back at school for 1st time since Xmas break

[Youagain2025]

My primary school children have not been at school because they were ill then I was to ill to take them. The school do know this and were understanding.

I haven't left my house since new year . And I feel sort of scared of going out and starting life again. I feel like I just want to stay in. I don't want the hassle of public transport. The business of everything.

So according to your posts you have DS17, DS22, an adult DD and a teen DD. As well as your 8 and 9 year old.

And not one of those could have taken the younger kids to school one day?

As for keeping saying that the school are aware of your family setup, that doesn't sound great...

Who was looking after your children when you couldn't breathe or get out of bed?

I did ask for support from the school. That's why I rang them in the first place. I was totally honest with them. But they just said its not ideal but not much can be done

how far away do you live from school op?

It is worth asking them again now that things have settled down and finding out if they can organise anything as a backup plan if it were to happen again. Easier to prevent it than to deal with it when you're so poorly. School are there to help parents as well

In the morning by public transport 2 buses. it takes me an hour . I leave home 7.30 get to school 8.30 .

A whole month of school isn’t acceptable. I’ve taken my daughter to school with all sorts going on. A couple of years ago I was having a Crohn’s flare and was incredibly poorly (I was sitting on the toilet in agony and vomiting into a bucket at the same time because the pain was horrendous). My IBD nurse said I had to go to hospital but I made sure my daughter was at (school) nursery before I went to the hospital. Spent a week in hospital where, at first, they suspected I had a perforated bowel because I was so unwell. Early last year I had flu (legit flu not just a cold) and managed to get my daughter to school somehow.

I find it hard to believe the school were ok with this, OP. Everyone has made excellent points. You really need something in place so this doesn’t happen again. No one is “shit stirring”. People are concerned for the welfare of young children who haven’t been to school in a month. It would be worrying if no one was concerned about this.

Why on earth do you live so far away from their school?

and if your story is correct, did the school not atleast send work for them to do at home? What did they DO all day???

If school is so far away are your kids eligible for any form of school transport at all? I'm in Scotland so appreciate this may be different in other places, but where I am kids are eligible if they live more than 3 miles away, which it sounds like you do. I'm sure you've already looked into this, but it is worth asking again. School transport can and does include taxis which they can go in alone.

We had problems with housing we were in temporary accommodation for some time and moved a good few times the one stability the kids had was school. I'm housed permanently now . But I won't move their school as I don't want to unsettle them. Ds also has autism and ehcp he would not cope with the change i won't do that to them.

He's not quite 18 and he has some complex mental heath issues . Which he gets help /support for . He's not just unemployed he's got stuff going on

Kids can go in a taxi alone actually and a pair of 8/9 would be fine normally.

It's true the past can't be changed, but I think the point here is that most people think wasn't a great decision to keep them off school and that you might benefit from some help or support to help you avoid the situation occurring again and to ensure your DC's education is top priority.

Ds has special needs /autism he would not have got in a cab .

I have said several times i was completely honest and open with them about the situation. They just said it's not ideal but not much can be done.

The ones who could not go to school 8 and 9

I have already answered that question

Apparently her 17 yo son who can't work because he has complex mental health issues.

I wonder who would have overseen this amid such apparent chaos?