Kids back at school for 1st time since Xmas break

[Youagain2025]

My primary school children have not been at school because they were ill then I was to ill to take them. The school do know this and were understanding.

I haven't left my house since new year . And I feel sort of scared of going out and starting life again. I feel like I just want to stay in. I don't want the hassle of public transport. The business of everything.

Wow

Really? Can we afford this as a country. Does the school really have time for this. The OP and her children will not be helped by the state swooping in and letting her descend into a spiral of depression. She's been forced to get the kids to school precisely because there would be consequences if she didn't. I feel sorry for you OP. You're clearly depressed. However you cannot use illness as an excuse not to get your children to school unless a doctor agrees its impossible.

Why wow?

We’re talking about children here who have been in a home without the appropriate care they need due to OP being too poorly and no one stepping in to help. I have made an assumption the children didn’t have the appropriate care by the reason they didn’t go to school, she was very unwell to walk or move and her other children have SEND needs so can’t look after them.

All too often we see cases in the news about children and everyone gasps. Here OP is clearly showing us how the authorities have failed her children. OP should be shouting from the roof top and the lack of help she has had when she’s been in a situation where there looks to be no one else to help her.

The is a horrible situation all around for her children and for herself. I don’t think people are having a go at her but trying to help her get the support that is there if needed .

I have not mentioned depression. I told the gp I could not get them to school the gp could hear how ill I was . I explained everything fully . Same as I explained to the school everything fully

Your assumption is wrong

Posted too soon, ignore

She was physically ill, not depressed.

Have the school explicitly said to you that they haven't made a referral? Just because you haven't heard from them yet surely that doesn't mean it hasn't happened?

Pls can you indicate where the OP has said she suffers from depression.

So who was taking care of your kids when you were too ill to move?

The school would have told me they are very honest. But we could also look at that the other way there's comments on here about they would have made a referral when it could actually be they have not. I don't have anything to proove its near impossible to prove something that has not happened.

I’m not talking about every day but just in an emergency like this was, for a week or so, so the kids don’t miss out on school. I’m sure the school are aware of your situation and vulnerability and I do think if you spoke to them they could help you.

She said up-thread.

I have already explained this oldest ds was helping out he cooked for them done lunch etc . He also done a fair bit of cleaning . Not perfect but kept it ticking over. Dd also chipped in.

I did speak to them. I can't afford cabs for a week or so

Ok OP. I’m over and out now- I can’t be arsed ,I was trying to be supportive and help you and say that school should have stepped up. I would mark you down on my school as a messed up , troublesome family . You’ll already have a family support worker allocated with all your needs and accommodation troubles. You sound like you just couldn’t be bothered to take your kids to school in all honesty which is why someone suggested depression. Neglectful parenting. You do you but your poor children.

Apologies I should have replied to the whole thread. I apologise for that . But the reply you have given here just shows you were not actually genuine otherwise you would not feel the need to reply in the way you have .

What bugs me about this OP is that everyone is being the voice of your children who are too young to have a voice of your own. You’re being defensive, and cantankerous . I would love someone to advocate for my children if I were to do something similar - I would want help , support and to know the next steps. You should be glad people care about your children- and you should - you’re their mother

This is something I would expect our school to do. During Covid when they’d changed the rules to only the person with Covid needing to self isolate and not the whole household they used to offer a service where if you called them before 8am and you had Covid but the children hadn’t the school would send someone out in the school minibus to pick the children up. I think a massive issue here will be how far away OP lives from the school though. If she has to take 2 buses she could easily live an hour away from the school. It wouldn’t be feasible to offer this in this case.
OP doesn’t want to move the children due to unsettling them which I get but IME getting them to school should be the priority, if this isn’t possible then they need to be moved to a closer school.
OP also hasn’t said if this is something that is likely to happen, if there is a chance they need to be moved.

So they chose to leave your vulnerable kids alone because you're pally with them? Too ill to get them to school, O2 so low you couldn't get out of bed without turning cyanotic, then you definitely weren't in a fit state to care for your kids properly. That's not a dig at you, it's the life of a single parent without any support network, but it's surely remiss of the school to leave the kids basically uncared for cos they "know you"

I have explained several times I had help at home. The school are not pally with me . But are honest. I don't know what you mean by o2 or what cyanotic means

Where is their father?

Do you not think it’s depressing that when you’re so ill and can’t get out of bed for weeks your 3 adult children couldn’t pitch in even slightly and help the two youngest get to school?
And your comment regarding your 18 year old is “I can’t make him”.
Thats not a great invocation of how he has turned out really.

This is a weird one isn't it.
If I had received so much negative feedback on a post I would have left, got it deleted. The OP is almost asking for negative responses with the drip feeding of non information.
Sounds like she's an attention seeker- which is fine, crack on. That's what MN is for!
I hope the children are okay. I really really do, and if anyone knows who these people are in real life I hope they raise an alarm.
The mental health and SEN kids are a concern to be left with someone clearly not able to pull themselves together to do basic tasks- maybe you need some extra help. I'm not sure you mentioned if you work of not, if so, how did they react to 3 weeks off?
Dare I ask where the dad, or dads are in this scenario. ( absolutely none of my business I presume- flame me!)