Kids back at school for 1st time since Xmas break

[Youagain2025]

My primary school children have not been at school because they were ill then I was to ill to take them. The school do know this and were understanding.

I haven't left my house since new year . And I feel sort of scared of going out and starting life again. I feel like I just want to stay in. I don't want the hassle of public transport. The business of everything.

Agreed.

And I despair...

The thing is, sometimes life sucks. Really badly. Not badly enough to require extra intervention or the use of scarce funds/resources/foster care placements though. Especially when it's a situational circumstance rather than a chronic one. The system barely works , and it definitely doesn't work within the timelines a lot of posters on here think they do. By the time something was in place , if it was in place, the kids were back at school anyway.

Shoulda , woulda , coulda ... it's all good when you're not actually in that situation.

The kids missed a few weeks of school, yes it sucks, yes it will impact them , but it's not the end of the world. It happens to hundreds of children for various reasons, from school refusal to holidays to illnesses. It happened for a lot longer during Covid.

Sure , OP could have more family, more friends, more money, live closer etc. She doesn't. Shit happens. She can't change that now , or her kids' absences. She can only look at the future and having a plan B in place in case something similar happens again.

Wow! One rule for one and one for another! Here we would have been fined to the hilt for unauthorised absence, how bloody unfair! Would have been told to get them in or it's a fine in no uncertain terms.

Same, but I’m guessing OP’s family are known of at their school iykwim.

Ds has special needs /autism he would not have got in a cab

In our area this alone would entitle them to school transport.

I find myself getting a bit agoraphobic when I've been in the house a few days. I then have to psych myself up to going out again.
But then once I'm out, I feel silly for being nervous about it!

I don't understand why MNHQ don't intervene here?

It's a prolific poster who namechanges to post about whatever the current issue is and bemoans getting pulled up when posters recognise her.

If SS aren't involved, maybe they should be? The kids missing 3 weeks of school - as a lone issue - would raise a red flag. Let alone all the other stuff the poster has going on.

Intervene in what way?

By preventing numerous namechanges.

Poster posts about problem 1 under username 1, problem number 2 under username 2 etc and therefore people end up providing advice in good faith, without the full picture. It's disingenuous and misleading.

I'd have much more empathy if she posted under one username. I appreciate she has a tough life and a lot going on.

She is getting quite easy to recognise now but not everyone realises they are giving advice about several significant and serious issues to the same poster.

I would think she changes usernames because some posters on here rip her to bits if she keeps the same name. Changing usernames at least gives her a chance of getting some useful advice without getting a kicking.

That's a very fair point.

And I get it.

But the poster always seems to reveal themselves regardless and then it just pisses off people who have given advice is good faith.

It's just my opinion of course and I've offered the OP support on many threads / in her many guises but it seems to fall in deaf ears.

I think you should have done more to get your kids to school. Asking a relative for example. A whole month is simply awful. To top it off you are here moaning about not feeling like going outdoors. If you were as ill as you say the children were more or less left to their own devices.

You gave three adult children and you kept your 8 and 9 year old off school. That is absolutely dreadful.

I am awear people recognise me . I can't change my style of posting. That does not mean people need to shout from the roof tops . If I piss people of with posting then they can just ignore me.

I was not even looking for advice on this thread i was just saying how I felt what was on my mind saying things out loud .

This thread was quite there were only couple of replies which is fine. I had a different thread regarding my son . There was a poster who was trolling me on there . But it,was not working. She then came over to this thread and starting trolling me on here . All of her posts on both threads and other threads not relating to me have been deleted. There's now no posting history under that name.

It was only once she posted that everything went on a mad one it was quite before that . And it's back to that thing that I hear on MN where a poster or 2 say a few negative things them that's how the thread continues.

At much as people may think I'm a twat or what ever . I'm not sure what word to use . I have never ever felt the need to be horrible to anyone on here . Say nasty things judge them . Make assumptions. Put things across as facts when they are not . And tell half truths.

As i said im awear that im easy recognised nothing I cant do much about that . But if changing names gives me a handful of genuine replies without people digging at me that means the world to me .

I'm sorry if I don't think the same as others. I'm sorry that many posters think things should be a certain way.

I deal with a hell of alot completely on my own . If posting on mn gives me that outlet so be it. I'm doing absolutely no harm to anyone.

I'm not going to allow my self to get sucked into any nastiness because I do not deserve it. Under the disguise of you just don't like what you hear. I used to ignore anything that came across as nasty and that used to work for me . So I will go back to that