Can never feel proud of myself as DH salary dwarfs mine

[user263758910]

I made £116,319 in 2024. Mid-30s, busy job, two primary aged DC.

DH earned 5x that. His success will always be greater than mine, and even as a high earner I feel like I am not good enough. I will never earn what he is earning.

Because of the large difference in salaries, he treats me like a part-timer, expecting me to do far more of the mental load and traditional gendered role at home.

My achievements are seldom recognised, because his are much greater.

Anyone else feel like this when they work full-time like their spouses but are the lower earner?

You have a husband problem, not a salary problem. It is not worth staying with someone who doesn’t respect you, no matter how much he earns.

Get outta here
You're loaded !

What do you both do OP?

<Glares at my monthly £1,800 take home pay slip>

i'd tell him to fuck off tbh

Would you not cook for yourself if he wasn’t there? In your shoes I would only cook if I wanted to cook. If I didn’t want to I’d let him cook or get a takeaway. If all the other household chores are outsourced it’s not really a massive job.

And their wallet is too small for their combined income of £697,914
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Pointless salary boast post. You both earn a fortune.

Then he’s a cunt. And I imagine he’s a cunt in other ways too.

Even if you were earning nothing, he is not better than you. Or me.

Yes.

I think 'get tae fuck' is an appropriate rejoinder here, commensurate with his salary.

Well, he is kinda knocking it out the park compared to you. Maybe you could use your free time to do something worthwhile and it might help?

She's leaving a laugh , it's like one of those typical MN threads , "like I'm just too beautiful, it's becoming a problem."

I'd imagine that if you earned x5 his salary, he'd still look down on you. Because that's the kind of man he is!

Quick question - who do you think should cook your dinner?

Cinder f'in Ella

Get fucked 😂😂 honestly you have got to be talking this piss with this thread.

Hats off to you for enraging me 😂

I’m a nurse. My salary will never be anything like yours but I’m extremely proud of myself and my achievements.

"I made £116,319 in 2024. Mid-30s, busy job, two primary aged DC.

DH earned 5x that. His success will always be greater than mine, and even as a high earner I feel like I am not good enough. I will never earn what he is earning."

Aye right

i'm sure many people would love to have your problems 😂 first, only yourself make more than 70% of normal people salaries. second why does it need to be a competition? or you just trying to show off that u both make a big load of money? cause i really don't see the issue

We're all more proud of you for your job than whatever OP does

He sounds crap, just leave him.

You don’t need him.

Get a housekeeper who can do the meals for you.

urgh my salary is about a 100k less than yours!

And DH doesn’t treat me like crap or not consider me an equal partner because I earn less than him (sadly nowhere near your DH salary).

Yes I do make the dinner the majority of the time, but firstly I am part time, and secondly he has his household jobs too.

God I can’t even imagine a household income of nearly £700k!

Seeing that you dint know what the OP does for a job, that’s a bit of a weird answer tbh….

@user263758910 bottom line is that the value if a job is rarely associated with the level of the wage. Despite what all those earning crazy salary try to tell us.

The issue is your dh attitude who sees you beneath him.

And that’s a huge issue. Regardless of whether you earn £100k a year or £10k a year.

Is this when you use the phrase Chinny reckon? Seems apt to me 😆