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Friend took the last jacket potato ...would you be annoyed ?

411 replies

mirandabaileyy · 06/01/2025 11:41

We went to a cafe yesterday
We got there at 2pm and as we walked in they said all they had left was jacket potato or prawn sandwiches /ham and egg pie
I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices.
My friend she was getting the ham and egg pie.
She was stood in front
Then she said actually il get a potato instead
We got to the front and I said "can we get two jacket potatoes please"
The lady said they only had 1 left and my friend pipe up "oh il take that please with Tuna" what you going to get ?
I double check what they have and say again I don't like anything else so il just get a tea.

Then she sat there and smirked "oh can't believe they only had 1 left "

Wouldn't you have just had something else ? She liked pie
I would of just to be kind

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PokerFriedDips · 06/01/2025 12:33

If she did this in full knowledge of what she was doing then she's a horrible person and not your friend.
It's rather more likely that she wasn't paying attention and didn't realise there was only one potato and that the only thing you'd eat was the potato. These facts were firmly in your head but may not have made it into hers.
If you had said "hey, friend, that potato is the only thing they have that I can eat, if you take it I will have no lunch" and she said "tough" then yes she's horrible. If you kept your mouth shut and assumed she knew then that was silly of you. Especially if you still didn't explain why you weren't eating.

People absorb less than half of what is said in their presence. Information needs to be repeated at least 3 times for there to be a realistic chance that it has been effectively communicated.

battairzeedurgzome · 06/01/2025 12:35

Did it not occur to either of you that you could share the jacket potato? And what kind of establishment runs out of potatoes at 2pm?

ThriveIn2025 · 06/01/2025 12:36

So what happened next? You sat there with nothing while she ate the potato? Did she not then realise? Wasn’t that totally awkward?

As others have said, I would have asked to go somewhere else when it became apparent there was one left and you both wanted it.

ilovesushi · 06/01/2025 12:36

She is either really selfish or really bad at listening/ taking in information.

anyolddinosaur · 06/01/2025 12:37

Yes - would have said so at the time and would be less likely to meet up in future.

custardpyjamas · 06/01/2025 12:39

Sounds deliberate, just seeing how far she could push you, and it seems the answer is a long way. Not a friend at all.

PiggyPigalle · 06/01/2025 12:41

Make 2025 the year to rid your life of toxic people like her.

Optigan · 06/01/2025 12:41

You've said it was a case of not liking the other choices, rather than being unable to eat them due to allergy or a cultural dietary requirement such as veganism, so I don't think either of you were more entitled to the jacket potato. You should have gone elsewhere.

saveforthat · 06/01/2025 12:46

onwardsup4 · 06/01/2025 12:26

Tedious sarcastic reply. How many times do you think OP should have said it ?

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Well I would have said it when she was ordering how ever many times I'd said it before. There are millions of threads on here complaining of bad behaviour from "friends" but nobody says anything to the actual "friend" which I find tedious.

Totaleclipseofthemind · 06/01/2025 12:47

She was mean.

You are too precious.

Friendship made in hell.

RaininSummer · 06/01/2025 12:47

She is a selfish person.

LaDeeDaDeeDa · 06/01/2025 12:48

I would have walked out and left her and her spud.

jessycake · 06/01/2025 12:49

I would have said sorry I think I will have to leave it and walked out

chattyness · 06/01/2025 12:49

I would have left her there alone with her tattie and gone somewhere else

Fluufer · 06/01/2025 12:50

I would have gone elsewhere, that cafe sounds awful. Why were those the only options?

Eddielizzard · 06/01/2025 12:53

Very selfish. Honestly life is too short. Yes it's a small thing, but it was easy for her to make sure you had a nice lunch too, and would have been a small thing for her.

Really, cut her loose and go and find a better friend. Take it from someone who has been there and put up with these sorts for far too long

Oreyt · 06/01/2025 12:53

2pm is late to go into a cafe.

I'm not sure what you were expecting if you're a fussy eater.

OurDreamLife · 06/01/2025 12:53

Not really her fault you were fussy.

Fhjiutwafhmbcff · 06/01/2025 12:57

OP could have insisted they go with the original arrangement but shouldn't have had to if 'friend' was aware OP only liked the spud option.

onwardsup4 · 06/01/2025 12:59

@saveforthat the "what did they say when you asked...." is such a smug over used reply on here

DogfordCats · 06/01/2025 13:00

Someone did similar to me. There was one place we could go to grab something for lunch before an event. She spent the journey there talking about her food choice and how much she was looking forward to it. I'm vegetarian and knew there was just one option for me and told her when she asked what I was having. Ever since she's known me I've been vegetarian. Cut to the queue and the woman serving said very loudly to her colleague "this is the last one of the veggie" - I said to my friend "got here just in time, it's the last one I can eat". She stepped up and instead of ordering what she'd been planning all morning, she asked for the last veggie option, saying she'd just realised she fancied it and straight away took a big bite. So strange! I just got a bag of crisps. I didn't care that much, I hadn't actually been looking forward to it in the way she claimed she had been about the meat option, but still odd behaviour.

With most other friends I'd have assumed they hadn't heard, given them 5 kicks up the arse, snatched it off them and eaten it myself. With her it was a definite pattern of behaviour and I distanced myself not long after that.

StuntAcorn · 06/01/2025 13:00

I find that strange behaviour in a "friend".
Any number of the people I'm friends enough to go out for food with, it would've been "You have it", "No. You have it!"
Then knowing us, we would have laughed and got something else.
Or gone elsewhere.

She doesn't sound very nice. Especially with the smirk.

Trumptonagain · 06/01/2025 13:01

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Another who'd have done this...

I wouldn't have even ordered the tea.
I'd have waited until she sat down then told her as I was our for lunch I'd be going elsewhere for find something to eat.

Optigan · 06/01/2025 13:01

Fhjiutwafhmbcff · 06/01/2025 12:57

OP could have insisted they go with the original arrangement but shouldn't have had to if 'friend' was aware OP only liked the spud option.

Why should the OP preferring the jacket trump the friend preferring the jacket?

Octopies · 06/01/2025 13:02

The lady said they only had 1 left and my friend pipe up "oh il take that please with Tuna" what you going to get ?
I double check what they have and say again I don't like anything else so il just get a tea.

Even if your friend hadn't been paying attention earlier, she asked you what you wanted but still went ahead with the order, knowing you wouldn't be eating with her. If she'd somehow got flustered when ordering, she could have offered the potato to you and gone back to order herself something.

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