Friend took the last jacket potato ...would you be annoyed ?

[mirandabaileyy]

We went to a cafe yesterday
We got there at 2pm and as we walked in they said all they had left was jacket potato or prawn sandwiches /ham and egg pie
I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices.
My friend she was getting the ham and egg pie.
She was stood in front
Then she said actually il get a potato instead
We got to the front and I said "can we get two jacket potatoes please"
The lady said they only had 1 left and my friend pipe up "oh il take that please with Tuna" what you going to get ?
I double check what they have and say again I don't like anything else so il just get a tea.

Then she sat there and smirked "oh can't believe they only had 1 left "

Wouldn't you have just had something else ? She liked pie
I would of just to be kind

I'd have suggested going somewhere else.

I mean, I like pie, but ham and egg pie sounds vile.

She doesn't sound like much of a friend.

Sounds like she wasn't really listening. I'd have said "Let's go somewhere else!" because the whole thing sounds shite.

I'd have watched her pay for hers then I'd have gone home.

She's no friend. That's mean!

Perhaps she also didn’t like anything else except for the jacket potato, and she thought you were a bit selfish when you were the FIRST to announce that you’d have the jacket potato, leaving her no option but to choose from the rest.
Or, it’s possible that she didn’t pay attention to what you said.

Why didn’t you say ‘’I don’t like anything except for the potato, are you ok with a sandwich? If not, let’s go somewhere else or let’s both share the potato’’ or something along those lines.

Once she changed her mind and said she was also going to have the potato you could have reminded her that only 1 potato was available; instead, you got to the front of the queue and asked for 2 potatoes, knowing only 1 was available. Bizarre! Sorry but you’re both as poor at communicating as eachother

But to answer your question, if a friend announced that they wanted the potato I would have absolutely let them have it out of kindness .

It always makes me sad on Mumsnet how v quick some to assume this is a bad friend “ twat” etc etc
despite the fact you said it twice clearly … people don’t listen ! I know I don’t always listen and can be awkward and stress when I first greet someone and I suspect I’d a bit deaf these days especially is a clattery environment like a cafe

unless she has form for being horribly selfish I’d put it down to mid Communication
and not over think it

I think the question is why wouldn’t you say that

Hmm, well obviously that's that behaviour from the friend.

However, you say: "I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices.". If that's what you said, I think that's also kind of rude. What if your friend wanted it? If you'd have said "would you mind if I got the potato, since I don't like anything else?", I'd have a lot less sympathy for her

Or quiche with a lid on. Both fairly common foods.

You'd block someone for this? Doesn't sound like you're much of a friend either.

I would have suggested going elsewhere as soon as I realised you couldn't both have what you wanted to eat

*that's twat behaviour from friend

I wouldn’t go out with her again.

Is she generally selfish?

Yes I would, but I’m of the generation that grew up without being in touch with everyone 24/7. To be honest, if someone blocked me I probably wouldn’t notice for a good couple of months

@TownDrain ”However, you say: "I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices.". If that's what you said, I think that's also kind of rude. What if your friend wanted it?”

At the point OP said this, they didn’t know there was only one potato left.

@TownDrain I said I will get the jacket potato as I don't like anything else in the queue before I knew there was only 1 left

She is deeply unpleasant. Does she do little frenemy things like this often? I would start to avoid her.

I'd have watched her pay for hers then I'd have gone home

Same

really ????

this is a friend …. A person you have history with ….and youre going to trash that over what may be a mis understanding
how about “ hey Sandra can I have the spud I don’t like anything else ?”

Ah, I see, sorry.

Yeah, that's just crap of her, then

She is a knob and tbh the cafe sounds shite as well.

But you were planning to do the same to her so why is she the twat?

Because she liked the pie so it's not the same to her. She had options. OP didn't. Well, her option was to rule out the cafe and go elsewhere but she didn't.

Can I HAVE, not get!! 😩😩😩