Friend took the last jacket potato ...would you be annoyed ?

[mirandabaileyy]

We went to a cafe yesterday
We got there at 2pm and as we walked in they said all they had left was jacket potato or prawn sandwiches /ham and egg pie
I said to my friend I will get the jacket potato as I don't like any of the other choices.
My friend she was getting the ham and egg pie.
She was stood in front
Then she said actually il get a potato instead
We got to the front and I said "can we get two jacket potatoes please"
The lady said they only had 1 left and my friend pipe up "oh il take that please with Tuna" what you going to get ?
I double check what they have and say again I don't like anything else so il just get a tea.

Then she sat there and smirked "oh can't believe they only had 1 left "

Wouldn't you have just had something else ? She liked pie
I would of just to be kind

No, because in a situation where you could happily have more than one menu item but your friend would only be happy with one, you'd insist on having the one that your friend would like. And then sitting eating it while she sat with just a cup of tea (possibly the weirdest and most twat-like part).
If you're still not getting why this isn't nice behaviour then I don't think I can explain any more.

🤗 💐 🧁 xxxxx

Incorrect. OP only wanted the potato and didn’t like anything else. The “friend” would have eaten the pie.

I would have

left

What a spiteful nasty piece of work. She is no friend.

All this over a humble baked potato.

Anyone remember the baked potato song from lockdown?

When your friend tried to order the last potato you should have addressed it there and then by asking her if she minded you having it since you didn't like anything else. If she refused then you still shouldn't let it drop. At that point you could have said oh do you mind if we try somewhere else then cos I'm hungry and really would like to eat. You should have been assertive and persistent. You have a right to have needs and to have a voice about those needs. No point ignoring the issue and then complaining about it.

There were 2 sides to the story when I was queuing but only 1 left by the time I got to the front

Eh?

Again, why does OPs fussiness count more?

Why take the time to post a message without reading the thread first.

Are you that desperate to have a say that you’d make up your own completely wrong version of events just to post?

How odd.

Obviously comprehension isn’t your strong point and if you want to get involved but don’t understand what’s going on, then just ask someone to explain it for you.

Why go through the hassle of having it explained to you through the way you have.
You end up just looking silly.

I've said already, I do find fussiness annoying.
But I also like my friends, and I like to have a nice and an easy time with them.
So in this scenario, where I would happily eat something else but my friend wouldn't, I'd be fine with having something else so we could both have a nice lunch..

I don't think one needs to keep track, in a friendship, or constantly weigh up what 'counts more'.
If you're a person who does keep track and weigh up what 'counts more' in this way, then we are very different people and I doubt that we will be able to agree on this.

Whether @DowntonBlabbie has read the thread or not, her summary is perfectly accurate. There was nothing to stop OP having the prawn sandwich or the pie, bar her own preference. She had a preference not to eat them, as did her friend.

She obviously wasn't hungry enough to eat something she didn't like, which is understandable - there are some foods I would have to be literally starving to eat - but, again, this is a choice.

I absolutely would have let you have the last potato if there was something else I could have eaten. She's a bitch.

Why do you keep making comments about your perception of my character?
It's getting quite tedious. Let's leave it there.

I went somewhere with a friend for lunch recently. Plenty of choices on the menu but friend said she didn’t fancy anything and she’d be fine with a coffee. I said no way, we’ll go elsewhere so you can eat. Which is what a friend would do!

Yes, because that what friends do. 🙄 They knowingly make their friend eat something they don't like, rather than leave them the thing they do, when they themselves like other things on the menu...

This thread is giving me insight into why some posters on MN have trouble with friendships.

what on earth are you on about?
You're annoyed that people are nitpicking your posts but it's because you're criticising OP and calling her names for a scenario you've made up yourself that didn't happen.

"At some point both friends realised that there was very limited food on offer. On realising this neither friend was willing to make the offer of sharing the last decent food on offer."
They only realised there was only one potato when they went up to order, and then OPs friend nabbed it straightaway. OP was unable to make the offer of sharing the potato because she didn't have a potato to share, the friend had taken it.

I am perfectly allowed to speculate on what sort of people we both are in the context of comments and perspective on a thread. Posters do it all the time.
Pity you won't continue the conversation. I find the idea of this sort of weighing-up behaviour in friendships quite interesting; I think the world divides (I'm being slightly facetious, obviously) into those who keep a tally of favours/slights and have ideas of things like who 'deserves' more and who 'deserves' less, and those who don't.

I'm not interested in your (wrong) perception of me based on one scenario. It's tedious and a waste of my time.

Do you think 'friends' should expect to have first dibs on any food choice because they are fussier? I don't. I am not saying either of them has covered herself in glory, but it really isn't the case that OP is a martyr and her friend is a villain.

They both discussed it and chose the food they wanted.

The friend at the last minute changed her mind and had the only thing that OP wanted.

OP explained that she doesn’t like anything else on the menu, whilst the friend did, and only wants the potato.

Either your comprehension skills are poor or you think the friend was in the right, which means it’s highly unlikely you have any friends and don’t understand that this isn’t normal behaviour and you’re meant to respect your friends.

Fine. I thought we were leaving it there [shrug]

You didn't need to reply but you did.
Please leave me alone. Every assertion you have made about me is so off that it's laughable.

I don't think I would go somewhere else, because I would think that's the friends choice. Unless there was an allergy issue. I would be annoyed if I had to go somewhere else to facilitate a friend because the same issue may arise. Fussy people tend to be fussy everywhere.