I need to be honest with my friend and admit that her 50th birthday outing will be too much for me, but feel bad saying it!

[Winterysun]

I'm only two years older than her, am sociable, enjoy going out and I work - BUT I also need 'recharge' time, as I'm more introverted than her.

The planned day is Disneyland Paris, which will mean getting on a coach at 6 am, arriving mid-morning and not getting home until midnight/1 am. I've done Disneyland Paris before when my children were young, and loved it but we stayed for long weekends, rather than rushing around in a day!

I've done similar things before, but feel wiped out by the afternoon after such an early start, and with a lively group I won't have that 'chill time' to get my energy back for the evening (meal & probably a lot to drink)!

I'd love to still celebrate with her, ie, theatre, lunch & sightseeing, local restaurant etc but don't want to disappoint her! Would any of you admit you don't fancy it, or go anyway and possibly struggle to keep up?

@Winterysun I thought of you today.

Am on my ladies ski holiday our first day and visibility is poor and my legs were hurting a bit by lunch. I did the first run of the afternoon but realised I would be happier relaxing for a bit and going to the pool before dinner.

Last year I was mocked by a couple of the party for this , but this year my two friends decided to call it a day as well. Nothing better than being away with people that are wired the same as I am - probably why we are friends!

Hi Rookiemere, Yes, this can be a problem on group holidays, when the most extrovert/sporty ones expect everyone to have the stamina they do. If there's a few of you wanting to relax at times, it's SO much easier!

I've been mocked for various things before, ie, switching to soft drinks at the end of an evening, going back to hotel late afternoon so I can have a 'gap" between daytime activities & evening (couldn't easily do an evening otherwise!), suggesting an earlier train home rather than staying out until midnight, etc!

I've come to realise other personality types can't understand the need for 'recharge time', but it's often a necessity for me. Otherwise it impacts my enjoyment of the whole thing, if I'm under pressure to constantly 'push through'. I expect to for work, but weekends away/days out I want to enjoy them!