This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

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In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

You sound like you're saying what my brothers would say to me!!

I "waste" my money on horses, cars and renting. and i LOVE it. i have an amazingly fun busy life. i don't want to live the boring life my brothers live.

I’d like to be away more 😂 but I have a dog to think about and one disabled daughter ( nobody to have either of them )
we have been away for 2 short family breaks in UK taking dog along too so we needed dog friendly accommodation with enough space for us .
And for the first time in 20 years I got away for a few days with husband as we made arrangements ( complicated ) for our youngest disabled daughter.
if I had more freedom to travel I’d do it !

Ten years of 'no life' sounds grim. Your sister obviously has a lot of living to catch up with. As do you.

My aunt worked full time all her life (no kids). She saved hard and when she retired she developed a love of travel. We used to tease her about 'where's this months holiday then' and 'what you're at home for 6 whole weeks'. She probably did 6-7 holidays a year - 1 big one (USA, Aus, Carribean etc), a couple of European trips (city breaks or sunshine weeks) and 3 or 4 UK long weekends/ theatre trips etc.

When she was 68 she was diagnosed with a fast progressing type of dementia and now at 72 she's in full time care. The rest of her savings will be used up in care costs.

I'm delighted she got the chance to enjoy some of her money and would give a lot for her to be well enough to travel again. Let your sister spend her money as she wants - none of us know what's round the corner.

No, it's not an excessive amount of time to spend away from home. However, it is too many flights. Tourism has an impact, good and bad, on the environment and the countries you visit.

Sorry but what business is it of yours what your Sister spends her money on? As long as she's not getting into debt or being taken for a mug & paying for the partner each time then it's up to her how she spends her money. I'm working two jobs & look after an elderly relative & have 4 trips abroad booked & a few weekends away booked for 2025. I really need the breaks & it makes me feel happier knowing I have something to look forward to throughout the year. I don't think having holidays if you can afford them is ridiculous at all.

@Goodtogossip to be honest 'if' she did get into debt for it, so long as she's not bugging her sister for cash that is her business too-

@TwistedWonder totally-and I don't blame you - better for mental health than living somewhere grim - we rent a lovely 4 bed house in Bath- could we buy it- no - . Our issue is too old for mortgage over a reasonable term since we were in the position to do so but earn well.

We will probably flog our business at some point in late 60s ( currently early60s) and buy then - at a point when something smaller would be ok and more stability becomes needed-

As it is we choose to live somewhere we like in a pretty nice house, have holidays, invest in our business etc . We are lucky that the rental shortages aren't so much at the big house end of the market. It really pisses me off that the minute some people buy even a small home or small flat they suddenly think they are Gordon Gekko and look down on anyone renting and think we all live in a dump -

@Packetofcrispsplease
Have you considered driving/ferry to French campsites? the caravans are lovely and spacious and you can book wheelchair friendly if that's needed, get dog passported and you could all have a break.

Good for her, live while you're young.

We had 70 nights away last year and thoroughly enjoyed it, we've got our own holiday lodge in Wales so spent a lot of time there plus a couple of weeks in other places.

I've known too many people die in their 50's and don't want to waste a minute.

Once we're retired we plan to be away more than home.

5 UK city breaks in a year for a child free couple is not unusual. Me and OH live rurally and would go away for a weekend to see a band or comedy etc every few months as not much happens within driving distance of us and if we're staying over we'd rather make a weekend of it.

4 overseas trips is more than many people manage, I'd call it lucky rather than excessive! Perhaps they have picked cheaper / shorter haul destinations so they can afford more breaks, you could probably do those 4 destinations for shorter trips for the same price as a 2 week luxury destination holiday.

As long as they aren't getting into debt to fund trips there is nothing wrong with enjoying their time and money as they see fit!

sounds like your sister is living her best life! If she couldn't manage this financially then that could be different, but if she is doing what she wants with her partner to have fun and great experiences then I think you need to consider why it bothers you so much.

Wow! Jealous much? In my 30s I holidayed lots.. no kids, generous disposable income.. one year I went weekends in Scotland 3 times, London, Copenhagen, Greece in aug, Canada in September and New York for a week in November! No kids and could afford it...time of my life! I still holiday 2-3 times a year in my early 50s but don't have the same energy for travelling now due to peri. What your sister does is none of your concern especially after she was caring for your mum, she sounds really happy and therefore you should be happy for her.