This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

Respectfully, why are you concerned what she spends her money on? How does it affect you?

We have no kids and definitely go away more than that. We want kids and recognise that we won’t be able to do this once they arrive.

No idea what her savings have to do with you?

What's her money to do with you? What a bitchy post. She's presumably living the life she wants.

I used to do this in 3 months, maybe less. My mum easily does this in 12 months every year and I’m very glad she does. Same for a fair few people I know, especially if they’re immigrants + no kids + dual income.

Is this yourself? Your partner? What exactly is the problem?

Nothing wrong with seeing the world/ country, and taking time to spend with partner/ family/ friends. Otherwise where would all the annual leave/ weekends go?

Would you see it differently if Newcastle or York would be a day trip? You get more time to explore if overnight and hotel/ Airbnb isn’t that much more expensive, make use of off-peak trains too.

Touch of the green eyed monster @itssnowinginhere?

You sister made different choices to you. Just because it's not what you'd do doesn't mean it's wrong.

It’s nothing to do with you? Be happy for her if she’s enjoying life. No one has a crystal ball and yolo!

Sounds fine for me. Last year I Went to Brussels, skiing, Spain, a cruise, Athens, Spain again, London x3, Oxford and then Cambridge x3

I think it’s called ‘being loved up with a new partner’. 30s, dual income, wanting to explore together, I’d say it’s extremely standard behaviour.

Be happy she’s met someone she actually wants to spend time and live life with.

Why would they buy a house if it’s only been 2 years? Time to be in love for a bit before settling to the mundane everyday.

Flying is bad for the environment.

No shit! She’s got ten years of saving the planet behind her.

So far for this year I have booked Spain x 2, France x3...

@mumedu

so are lots of things. And…? 🤷‍♀️

Sounds fine for me. Last year I Went to Brussels, skiing, Spain, a cruise, Athens, Spain again, London x3, Oxford and then Cambridge x3
So far for this year I have booked Spain x 2, France x3...

Last year I went to Mexico, Cyprus, Switzerland, New York, Turkey, Greece, Turkey again, Belgium and Qatar.

This year so far I have booked China, Italy, Alaska, Italy again and an Adriatic cruise. I’ll sort out September onwards later in the year.

😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴

whilst there’s still coal powered power plants being built by the dozen and whole continents of people eating 3 meals a day with plastic disposable cutlery, I am going to keep flying.

@mumedu You could argue that she's offsetting that by not having kids. I also find it difficult to credit that the OP's objection is environmental. I could be wrong, of course, but it's not the impression I get.

most of the places weren’t that far

They "only rent"?

That's absolutely their choice, though. And so is going on lots of holidays.

Not your circus, not your monkeys - butt out.

If it makes you feel better my DP and I have been to over 35 hotels in the UK and abroad in the last 4 years since we met at a conference (both late 40s). Some of these 1-2 night mini breaks, some as long as 2 weeks. Basically going to nice places is our hobby and we love it 😃

Sounds great!

Lucky them! Sounds wonderful. Guessing from the UK locations that they are based up north, so probably not travelling too far for weekend breaks. I'd love to have the budget and the time and energy.

Up until 3 years ago we both cared for our late mum as a full time thing
So I get she probably wants to live a bit as we had no life for 10 years but like I say to me she should be saving.

You know how hard, how very very hard, it is caring for someone if you did it too. and 10 years is a long time. Most people after that sort of experience followed by a death are utterly broken. You are grieving + have lost your life's purpose + and usually have also lost the day to day support network you had (other professional carers, nurses, medics etc) helping with the care who all just disappear over night.

Generally in answer to your post, if someone can afford it (anyone) there is no such thing as an excessive amount of holiday or travel. Most of us if we could afford not to work would be on holiday all of the time. That is for anyone.

BUT in these circumstances given the likely strain your sister has been under, the loss of her mother and likely sacrifices she has made, it is quite strange to even suggest any amount of holiday is too much. She may be using it as a distraction or coping mechanism.

What is very strange is that you knowing this (and having cared for your mother too) are so begrudging and petty about something that is none of your business. The only reason it can really be getting to you that much - to start a thread on it - is jealousy. You want to do it too. What's stopping you?

@daliesque
We are of similar outlook, whilst always had plenty holidays we've worked really hard the last few years , DO cared for very elderly GP on top of working , DC just about all up, time to do for ourselves.
We've Portugal, Iceland, Spain, Budapest, Galway booked so far, after some terrible losses it makes you realise that this is not a practice run; you get one life.