This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

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In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

It depends upon that person's situation. I know a very poorly paid person who spends every penny she has spare on holidays. Absolutely no pension planning. It makes no sense to me who is the opposite as I rain for a rainy day.
However if they can afford this and are planning for their future too then good for them.

Why is it your business what your sister spends her money on? Last year I went to Tenerife, Northumberland, Turkey, Italy, the Lake District, Edinburgh, North Yorkshire, Wales, South Africa and Paris. Would you like to judge me too?

We're currently planning on spending a good bit of this year travelling. I've just reduced my hours at work and my husband is self employed and we are financially stable and fed up with just being at home all the time. We haven't been away for a few years because we had a chronically I'll elderly dog to care for, but now we have a puppy who,can be left with a dog sitter we are planning several,trips this year in both the UK and Europe. Neither of us are up for long haul anymore, but a few days here and there in Paris, Stockholm, Madrid, Rome and Copenhagen are already booked and will be followed by Dublin, Norfolk, London and the Lake District shortly. We also plan on spending a good deal of time in our favourite place in Cornwall.
After losing a couple of dear friends in the last year, we've decided to live rather than just work.

Her money is her business not yours. I’d go no contact easily with someone who thought they had any right to try and dictate to me how I spend my money. You don’t get the right to an opinion. You sound jealous and controlling, sort your insecurities out and mind your own business.

How lovely, if you can afford it why not!

What the OP has failed to inform us of is the actual length of these holidays. The trip to Edinburgh, Newcastle and York might only be a night or two.
Personally, I think the Green Eyed Monster has emerged.

It's none of your business. Your sister is happy. You sound jealous

“To me she should be saving”

Well that’s your opinion. Everyone has different priorities in life and it sounds like your sisters priority is living hers. You’re a long time dead.

You sound awfully bitter and jealous and if you were my sister it wouldn’t be long before I’d be cutting you out altogether.

US, Australia, Russia all much higher than China per capita. Also China has been the factory for the West’s huge consumption for several decades.

If someone was going away constantly and palming their kids off on other people or leaving themselves in dire straights financially as a result of it then maybe there’s an issue - outside of that it’s really no one else’s business.

It’s not everyone’s dream to be sat at home lumped with a mortgage and dealing with baby sick. Get over it.

So she spent most of her 20's doing caring duties. No wonder she now wants to live a little. So what if they rent? Some people don't want to buy a house and at 33 she has plenty of time to do that if she wants.
You really do sound jealous. What's your life like? Do you have kids? Are you tied down? Why not make some changes to your life if you're not happy rather than trying to drag your sister down.

It is none of your business! Concentrate on your own life.

How she is living her life makes so much sense. It sounds like she sacrificed the whole of her 20s to caring for your mum, with no chance to see the world. She is still young, with no dependents and is enjoying the freedom to see the world.
I'd be careful about your tone when talking to her if you've used 'only rents' in conversation. It's dripping with judgement. Her whole adult life has been tied down with serious commitments so it's absolutely understandable that she might not want the commitment of a mortgage at this stage.

I think more of another I'm jealouse but couching it a different way (faux concern) post!

Spending on most things, rather than anything (and in the absence of a progressive tax regime), but otherwise we seem to agree.

Sounds like she's living a great life! Good for her!

A lot of people who go away frequently fly to their destination and stay in a hotel with other tourists similar to themselves, possibly do some obligatory sight seeing to tourist attractions. When do they actually see what life is like for the people of that country, actually mix with them. Experience a difgerent life style other than that presente for the tourist.They could be any where.
How is that broadening the mind?

And a lot of people don’t do that.

I say mind your own business and focus on your own life. Who cares what she spends her money on - travelling the world is one of life’s great riches, if you can afford it, do it!

Also, looking at the figures - if she started caring for their mother at 20, presumably the mother was, at most, about 60 when she started needing care. Perhaps when want to use her life in case she’s half way through the independent bit already (obviously don’t know why the mother needed care, but it must play on your mind).

Yes, I’d agree not on everything. For me, holidays woukd fall in the ‘better than offshoring/saving’ group.

You sound really jealous OP. At 33 with no dependents and after caring for her mother since 22, she deserves to have some fun. My dad has recently retired and does nothing but travel. We all have to live when we can.

The hypocrisy of your post is shocking.

Perhaps she's one of the many people in their 20s/30s/40s who've entirely given up on the prospect of owning a home precisely because it requires so much sacrifice for such an extended period of time in the prime of life. I'm always fascinated by the assumption of homeowners that because it was their goal that necessarily means it must be everyone's. As for the frankly unlikely objections about the environment/airmiles, the sister is already doing the best thing you can do for the environment by not having children. I hope she's having a whale of a time, and even more so as it sounds like she dedicated much of her 20s to caring. Good luck to her.

You're being silly son and partner find amazing cheap deals abroad 3 nights Rome, Warsaw, Greece. Three last year plus Edinburgh, Northumberland and N Wales camping.