This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

Every year I have a weekend break in February 1-2 nights.

For February 1/2 term I go to Florida and we’re away 9 nights.

At Easter I try and squeeze a 10 night holiday in. Sometimes Florida.

May half term we tend t go somewhere like Nottingham for 2-3 nights.

Summer holiday we do 5 weeks in Florida.

October half term, sometimes we do a week in Florida or somewhere else.

Christmas, on a good year we like to go to Florida for about 10 nights over Christmas and the New Year. Sadly, this one is not affordable that often.

I’m not loaded by any means, my February Florida holiday for example costs about £1500 all in. But holidays are so much more important to me than cars, new furniture, clothes, shoes, fancy makeup or bags etc. I get my hair cut maybe 1-2 times a year at most. My life revolves around travel (preferably to Florida) and I love it!

If my sister started to tell me what I should be spending my hard earned money on, I’d be quite pissed off. Luckily though, my sister just likes seeing me happy, as I enjoy seeing her happy. Regardless of how she spends her money.

You get one life and could die tomorrow. It seems as though you both have had to learn that lesson very early in life - you’ve reacted by wanting to save and make sure you’ll always be alright whereas your sister seems to have reacted in the opposite fashion, and has decided life is too short to not take advantage of every opportunity. Neither of you is right or wrong here, you’re just processing your loss differently. But, quite frankly, what she chooses is none of your blumming business.

Similar number to me to be fair!

I could get hit by a bus next week. Enjoy life if you can.

None of those destinations are what I'd call 'big' either. Just standard getaways! Live a little!

Sounds very similar to my annual trips tbh. Travel is a big part of my life and very important to me and a lot of family/friends

Given she spent a lot of her younger years caring for your mum, I don't blame her in the slightest for making the most of life

You clearly have different priorities, which is fine - both of you have the right to do what suits you after a tough few years

Don't piss on her chips, it's really none of your business and she won't thank you for saying anything!

It sounds exhausting to me, but would be great for people like my SIL and a few of my colleagues where having regular trips makes them very happy. I think it's great for people to share their different interests, and I don't think anyone is silly or ridiculous unless they act that way by pretending their interest makes them better than others.

The 'sensible' financial argument against would depend on a lot of factors that I'm not seeing. Not everyone prioritises or sees owning a home as achievable - I didn't until my mid-thirties. I get the environmental and ethical arguments against some of it, I'm aware there has been some protests in popular tourist areas in Spain and many other countries due to political issues of governments prioritising tourism for the economic benefits over local needs and personal issues around behaviour of some of the tourists that I think it's good to be mindful of when planning trips, but those don't make the amount of travel silly or ridiculous, it could still pretty much be done with those in mind.

I do think it is a bit silly when people act like any interest makes them better than others, traveling included, or give grand reasonings as to why their interest automatically makes people better. They're all lovely for those who enjoy it, the person traveling to see museums isn't better than the one who travels for winter sun or the person who uses their breaks to visit family or rest at home. The person who is financially sensible to own a home isn't better than the one doing so for a travel dream list who is also managing their housing needs.

It's also a bit silly how there seems to be an attitude of either you love to travel a lot or you never travel at all and never leave your home town. I'm a migrant, so obviously travelled out of where I grew up, but I've also never enjoyed traveling even when I was young and find it very tiring, so I do few trips & mainly do for practical reasons.

Mind your own beeswax.

But plenty of people on their death beds appear to be wishing they had saved a little more money for heating.

It’s none of your business. And not everyone wants a mortgage and kids. I don’t really save a lot and spend my money on gigs and travel. Music and holidays are my favourite things in life, so that’s what I choose to prioritise. I do have a mortgage but in all honesty with increasing rates and the amount spent on maintaining, it’s such a money pit and sometimes I wish I’d stuck to renting. Perhaps you should tell your sister that you think it’s excessive and see how that conversation goes down. Hopefully she’ll tell you to get back in your box!

@Beekeepingmum

I don’t think OP has said in any of her posts that her sister is prioritising holidays over her heating bills has she??

So what? It's literally none of your business.

In 2024, my husband and I had one trip to India + Cambodia/Thailand, a weekend down on the Kent coast, a trip to Georgia and Armenia, a long weekend in Hampshire countryside, a long weekend in Menorca, ten days in Puglia, long weekend in Venice and a weekend on the Sussex coast. In addition, I had multiple work trips to Germany, work away day to Herefordshire and a long weekend to India to see family. Pretty normal year for us, except we are trying to have kids so hoping to get in more bucket list destinations before we do (but 2025’s focus is on trying for kids so no long haul currently planned).

The point was no-one looks back a reminisces about sensible spending. As long as she is spending her surplus after making provision for her future than she can spend what she likes.

So you both spent your 20s caring for your Mom and had no life for a decade. Her reaction to that is to live life to the most, yours is to prepare for the future. You're neither right nor wrong in your approach, the right thing is what makes you happy

How many nights is that tho ?

way I see it is this so some peoples hobby
son see no problem with any amount

I think you have an excessive case of jealousy.

I’m

Lots of workplaces do the 9 day day night now.

It's so easy to drive a few hours on a Thursday evening and have 3 nights and 3 days somewhere and come back home.

My sibling and spouse have a campervan and both do the 9 day fortnight and work from home. The freedom it gives them to tot off to different places is amazing.

Firstly if this is in reply to my post. My sister doesn’t do any travel and I don’t give a shit if she does.
Also I’m a lifelong vegan/don‘t drive/ have as low carbon footprint as it’s possible to have in the west. No I haven’t just found environmentalism and as I know we’ve gone past tipping point and we’re fucked, I am never lecturing anyone on their lifestyle or travel choices. It is now irrelevant.

You’ve travelled the world. You said so. Now you think nobody else should. And then you say your sister is parochial because she hasn’t. It’s all in the post I replied to.

Came here to say this! She probably thinks your ‘sensible’ is boring, and would rather be out and about living life!

I went abroad a couple of times last year, and to a city in England, do you hate me too?! I plan to be away a lot more this year, money willing!! Travelling is amazing!

Is it that the new partner facilitates her holidays that you’re jealous of? Or the actual fact she’s not spending her money how you think she should be? Either way you’re crackers. Let her live her life!

You sound judgmental and jealous. It sounds like she's having a wonderful time. Mind your own business.

No. That's a quiet year for us

Hell no!
Life's to short, we've already 4 booked🤣

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