This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

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In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

No kids nothing to stop them going away and making the most of it .
The obviously enjoy travel and nothing wrong with renting if that's what they want.
It's not excessive at all the lakes etc only in this country.

I think its none of your business what she prioritises spending her money on unless it's at the expense of stuff she asks you to help cover

Lucky her!

Compared to my sister this is nothing, this year alone, Canada 3 times, Mexico, San Francisco, Sweden and every weekend when not assure their holiday pad in the peak district. Fair enough, I'd do it If I could.

You sound jealous and resentful It's none of your business how your sister spends her money How is this impacting you ?

36 3 kids big mortgage crap holidays. Sister 31 renting and going on nice holidays sadly for her not that many! I'd be happy for her x

Two ways of looking at this..either they are enjoying life and making the most of their circumstances or they find their daily lives miserable and the only thing keeping them going is constant trips.

Someone told me once that they plan a trip and all the intervening time counting the days and weeks, and as soon as they are home they focus on the next trip mentally counting down. I remember thinking they would do better to focus on what's lacking in their normal life to make them feel this way.

This is me.. but insert Uzbekistan and Crete for Gran Canaria and Ibiza. And if I didn’t have a 95 year old father to care for there’d be a longer list!

Honestly don’t see what your issue is. As long as she can afford it what’s the issue? Also sounds like she needs the break after looking after your mum. We go away 3/4 times a year abroad with our 3 kids and we’ll have 1/2 girls / boys weekends abroad with friends. We go away a lot to lakes etc as well but I wouldn’t really count them as holidays. We can afford it and that’s how we spend our spare money. You sound a bit jealous

It isn’t any of your business. Why are you so exercised about this? Are you jealous? Just get on with your own life.

She is hardly traipsing all round the world! I would be amazed if she has spent a huge amount on a few trips to Europe and England!

In fairness I went to Austria, Switzerland, France (so 3 weeks seperate skiing). Antigua, st kitts, Lanzarote, we did some campervanning in wales twice.

Love holidays & not rich (though ok financially)! Also have a 5 year old and 3 month old so don’t let children stop you (and bar Switzerland which was first holiday away from child I didn’t go without them)…YOLO 😀

Whats it got to do with you???

I am so envious.

That looks normal if you are retired and have the free time. It would be more difficult for someone with a full time job to go on holiday that frequently unless we are talking about weekend breaks and holidays across the Christmas and Easter periods. I've known people in my local bridge club go away for much longer periods of time.

Me and my OH have 8 children between us, and we also work full time and we managed Lake District, North Wales, South Wales, Scotland, Newcastle, Melton Mowbray, Manchester, Liverpool and Yorlshire Dale's. We are.lucky we have a camper though :)

I’m honestly not sure why you are so bothered and I wonder if there is a bit of jealousy on your part? That’s about what me and DH do in a year. No kids, holidays aren’t overly extravagant and always taken within our annual leave allowance, so there’s no issue??

I would do it if I could. If she is getting in debt, then that's different. Otherwise it's her own business.

I think many people should also be aware of when they use the term 'only rent'or 'in rented' in various posts around mumsnet - it's always used in a derogatory way by some people - there are many reasons people rent at various times and not all of us who do rent live in crappy places either.

Nothing wrong with that, as long as they can afford it. My sister is always going away somewhere, and often goes on 2 OK r 3 cruises per year, because her and my BIL can afford it easily!

You are being ridiculous OP. It’s understandable that she wants to enjoy a bit of living and it’s hardly 5 star Dubai stuff is it.

@Crikeyalmighty
I agree, especially when half the population rents, 20% in private rented.
We seem to be one of the few countries it seems scorned, most European countries have high rates of social renters, never understand the U.K. obsession with buying.

It sounds like you’re very much upset that she’s met someone and is out living life after years of caring for your elderly mother. How she manages her money is very much her business.

My mum was a single parent on a low income for years. Do you know what she did when we grew up and her financial situation improved and she met a partner? Went on holidays and nights out and weekends away. We were delighted for her.

Agree. After my divorce I’m choosing to rent and live in a lovely flat in an affluent commuter town. I’m 2 minutes walk from the high street so shops, restaurants, bars etc on my doorstep.

To buy here would cost a fortune so I’ve got my settlement money banked and I will buy again at some point but right now it suits me. Renting doesn’t make me second class as MN seems to think.

And yes I do go on several holidays a year and I will continue to do so while I’ve got my health

And? What’s your problem apart from you seem to think your sister is wasting her own money?
mid be mortified if my sister put a thread about me and my partners time together on here ffs.