This is an excessive amount of holidays /nights away isn't it?

[itssnowinginhere]

In a year ,this is a ridiculous amount in 12 months ....I understand a few but there becomes a point where is silly
Edinburgh,Lake district ,Newcastle x2 ,York,Gran Canaria ,Ibiza ,Barcelona and Cyprus
In 12 months !

OMG

Leave your sister alone and stop being jealous.

Her money, her annual leave, her life!

Given your last update, it sounds like she needs a break. How many holidays did she have in the entirity of her 20s when she was a full time carer? You need to let her have this one OP, let her have some semblance of youth and fun before she gets bogged down with more commitments like kids and a mortgage, surely she's done her bit on the front for a while. Xx

If you've been a carer I imagine you could probably do with a break too, but assume you have other commitments that prevent you. Let her have a bit of guilt free fun. She may reassess her priorities at 35 if she does want kids, but for now, she can enjoy this chapter of her life. X

I have a lot of fb friends who this just seems normal for. A lot have just received their big NHS lump sum pension payments and I guess they want to enjoy it before health starts declining etc. I will be doing the same in a few years time. many holidays can be cheap going at off peak times.

Let me guess OP. You own your house with your DH who is a bit useless and miserable. You both work 37 hours a week with 2 DC. Weekends are spent ferrying the kids to different clubs and activities. You haven’t had a date night in many years. Probably a bit unhappy with your appearance, probably neglected yourself when you were caring for your mum.

But your sisters lack of saving is a big concern for you….

And a lot don’t. You’ve no idea what the OP’s sister does. And even if you stay in a hotel, you can go to historic buildings, art galleries etc and learn about the place, see the way people live even if it’s hard to become involved in a Community. It’s very narrow minded to see all tourists as ‘beer and beach’ but even if they were it’s none of anyone else’s business.

I don’t blame her, after 10 years caring for your mum. I hope you’re taking time yourself for the treats you missed during that time, even if it’s only time to rest and relax.

Sounds like your sister is now living her best life while you need to get a life. How controlling and overbearing do you need to be to judge and criticise how she is enjoying life, all because you think she should save for a house! Stop being so pathetic OP

My boomer parents are away this much. I think it's fair. If I had the money I'd be away for all of my generous annual leave. Why not?

I think you could do with a holiday @itssnowinginhere. And minding your own business.

@BlackChunkyBoots

yabu for using the term boomer

No, it’s not excessive. I’m jealous- as are you.

@Itsanewyearnewstart

i agree, with that poster that not everyone does that on holiday. And for those people that do do that, so what?? People can do what they want 😀

I’m a boomer.
I retired to the south of France.
Everyday is a holiday.

Good for you, wish we had.

Good on her! You have to do things that make you happy and you sound incredibly jealous of her lovely life.
Last year we did York, London x2, Ireland, Mexico, Majorca, Barcelona and Tenerife. I already have two holidays booked for between now and May and am looking for the rest of the year. I spent years looking after my parent and fully intend to live my best life now.

Absolutely. And if someone wants to spend their own money on 2 weeks laying round a pool and happy hour cocktails, that’s no one else’s business. Their money, their holiday, their choice.

Theres so much snobbery about the ‘right’ way to travel when it’s different strokes. Other people’s holidays might not be our personal choice but it’s their money and time so none of our business.

Did you seriously just criticise a terminally ill person for not prioritising the planet over doing the things she wants to do while she still has time?

Good grief.

Sounds bloody marvellous, well done you!

Her money, her life, her choices!
There is no need for you to get involved. I really dont think the list is excessive over a year.

I've got Centreparcs, Brighton, Florida, California, Barcelona, Portugal and Paris.

Who is to say what's excessive?

@midgetastic

this!

OP I’m sorry for the loss of your mum.
Are you concerned about the money your sister is spending; is it her inheritance from your mum for example and you think it should be spent ‘properly’?
Unless your sister complains to you about money I don’t think you can say anything and I wouldn’t pick this as something to fall out about.

Not up to you to decide how she spends her money. Your post reeks of jealousy.

It sounds great! I suppose 4 holidays abroad is a lot, but they are short haul and maybe just a week each. It depends on the length of time away eg if a lot of long weekends, that wouldn't seem that much to me. If it was longer, I'd just be jealous, as that's a lot of annual leave.

It's much much more than I can afford / want to do these days but I can imagine wanting to do similar in your sister's position. Especially if she's had a long period of caring, that sounds like she is simply enjoying freedom.

There’s only 4 abroad trips there with the rest being presumably weekends in the UK. For someone with no kids I don’t think it really seems that much tbh!