Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

[KeiraBlackDove]

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

I think a handsome presumably singe doctor working in a busy hospital will have had no lack of offers at xmas. Or any other time.

He's single because he wants to be.

Oh my god, I'm definately a real person and this is definitely a real situation but I realise it could sound corny/christmassy.

I needed the pen as I was making a list of tasks in the back of my book. I had a pen but the top bit had screwed itself off so the actual nib kept pushing down when I was trying to write.

Now I am getting a clearer picture of why so many older women go off to places like The Gambia and get scammed by younger men. So much breathtaking naivety on this thread. OP you have already texted him twice with no response. Let this go and keep your dignity intact.

OP you don't have to explain yourself to anyone now stop typing here and go type a message to him lol

He is a grown man and, presumably, a successful medic. I doubt very much that he is brooding over a randomer on a plane.

Please don’t ruin this for those of us that choose to believe. Christmas miracles could happen on transatlantic flights, with Hallmark plot lines & handsome middle aged men that deliver babies for a living.

I'd text him. It seems like he has done a lot of the texting so far so I'd say you definitely don't look too eager texting him!

Life is too short. If you don't message him you will regret it so please stop dithering and get on with it. What's the worse that can happen ? You don't even need to tell anyone what you do or say if you don't want to but please just get on with it !

Lol. This paints a pretty desperate picture of women dropping their knickers at the sight of a handsome Doctor, single or not.

Text him
why not?

For God's sake, just send him a message! If you want something then you need to be prepared to put in some work for it. In what world do people get things by sitting on their backside and waiting?

If he isn't interested then he'll turn you down - and what do you lose? Nothing! And you gain clarity. God I hate this idea that women just need to sit giggling and fluttering their eyelashes and men will chase them around. Women are better than that. And men have the same shit going on in their lives that women do; distractions, jobs, fears, nerves and more. Between the pair of you, someone has to cut through. It might as well be you

I watched Brief Encounter yesterday, a film released in 1945 about a woman who meets a doctor on a train, both are married with children, but they start meeting up, lots of angst … and your story is a bit like a modern version of that … but you presumably aren’t married and you don’t know whether he is. I would be cautious …

Lol. Agreed. You’re procrastinating. You don’t need to explain why you decided to pack a pen!

Probably not relevant, but I once went on a date with a man I met on a plane. He also claimed to be a Dr.

Turns out he was a porter, not a doctor - the lies got more outlandish all evening until he told me weird stories about injuring his knob!

Looking back I should have climbed out of the restaurant window to escape but I sort of wanted to see what he'd come out with next😆

Nice joke there Green (given this is every minute of his working day)

I'm sorry you had to date this idiot but at least it gives you a hilarious story to tell 😂

Weirdly, I can't help be curious about how he injured his knob 🔪 🍆

Message him: " hi, hope you had a merry Christmas! I can't tell from our conversations if you'd actually like to meet up or not? I'm free on xxxxxx if you are? Or let me know another day that works for you." At least then you know, if he makes an excuse or is vague then I'd forget about him x

This.

Oh I’d just send a quick “Hi, how about that drink now Christmas is over? I’m free on Monday.”

Life is too short to tie yourself in knots, wondering and waiting.

My friend married a bloke she sat next to on a plane. Just saying.

I think your text needs to close the sale. Ask him if he wants to see a movie.

Hi OP, do not feel one bit ashamed of doing your homework/research before investing emotionally on this guy. If I were going to invest my money on a business I would want to know if said business partner has a criminal past as fraudster once my money is invested, same with your heart and feelings. Personally I would play detective, make up an email address with a fictitious shop name and email his receptionist saying that "Mrs Smith" (type his name) "has her packages waiting to pick up in the store and to please let her know", let's see what the response is lol!

My friend started to date a guy "who travelled a lot" and turned out to be married, just saying.

You can check whether he really is a consultant in obs/gynae by looking on the GMC register. Drs from abroad will also be on the register. My guess is he is not.

www.gmc-uk.org/registration-and-licensing/our-registers

Excellent suggestion. Do let us know OP!