Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

[KeiraBlackDove]

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

My money would be on him being married or he’s just not that into you - sorry. It takes seconds to text back.

. What sort of response do you think he’d be likely to make, and how would it help op?!

My cousin had a similar situation ie got chatting to a man on a flight. They were both single with busy lives but have been together for 10 years now.

@SomethingUniqueThisTime - Thats such a good shout, thank you for sharing this.

Ive just searched and he is on the register. I've removed his name but just attached the anonymous bits

On a hot donut, apparently!

😯😱🤣

I find it odd that you did not find much on him by googling. You should at least have found him at the hospital where he currently works.

I'm pretty sure he's a busy doctor and has a receptionist/secretary/answering service of some sorts and doesn't answer patient inquiries himself. With that sort of email I may expect a no answer, a "Sorry but Dr Smith doesn't have a wife so this must be a mistake" or "I'll forward it to her" etc... OP looses nothing by trying it.

Ignore that. I assumed consultants would have something different.

what is it then

Never chase a man.
If he wants you he'll come and get you.

A secretary isn't going to respond to anything with personal information.

Handsome men are by and large interminable flirts and not to be trusted.

Just message him. You haven’t got anything to lose.

No. That simply wouldn’t happen.

I would text him as you have nothing to lose. I would think a Dr working over xmas has a million things that are literally life or death priorities plus his own christmas plans so his lack of response might just be him being busy. You can try again and see what he says.

You're forgetting GDPR.

If he was interested, you’d know. Leave it, stop stalking him, better for your mental health!

If he texts you again he’s either interested or might fancy a no strings shag. Why not suggest you meet at his place if he gets in touch again, you want to get out of London etc. See how he responds.

Just message, bright and breezy, if he doesn't reply then you'll know!

Just to confirm the SR a code on the GMC register indicates he is on the Specialist Register which confirms he indeed is a Consultant.
Despite previous posters comments consultants do not have secretaries per se, they will have admin teams who manage appointments and patient records but that is all these days.

On balance and mindful of the fact that interested men generally show that interest, I would use the context of new year to send a friendly message. Just a simple happy new year then strictly leave it in his court. Reason being festive on calls may have been genuinely bonkers. However I wouldn't make excuses on an ongoing basis. Just this once so you know you've seen it through with this guy.

If he doesn't arrange a meeting, or follow up then let it go, it was a nice plane companion . Don't speculate about why. It doesn't matter.

If he does, great.

I know a couple who met on a plane and are happily married (both were divorced). It can happen!

Please do not do this.

Sorry, but on the basis of your updates then I’d delete his number. You’re wayyyyy too invested in this. Just forget about him.

Oh bloody hell. Just text him already. Take control of your life. You have nothing to lose.

I would stop stalking him now, you've done enough of that already.
Message him, nothing to lose.
But why do you have to delete his number if decide not to message, or if he's not interested?