What’s the best bit of advice you’ve ever received on MN?

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For me, there are loads, but there is one thing that is really working out for me.

On one of my many distraught threads about 2 toxic women I have to deal with in my DH’s family, I was told to “drop the rope” and “do nothing”.

I’ve been doing this for 3 years now, and it has transformed my MH and life around these people. It’s still a DH problem, yes. I just “do nothing”. When they texted me, I just diverted them to DH. I left him to arrange all meet ups, communication, remembering birthdays, everything. Turns out, it doesn’t get done if I’m not doing it. I grey rocked, dropped the rope, did nothing, and am still doing nothing, and I am now seeing them once a year where I smile and say nothing and grey rock it. It’s absolute bliss.

So, who’d have thought that doing nothing could change so much? Its amazing.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever got on MN and how has it helped you?

Mine was on the money boards, to start investing in a Stocks and Shares ISA about 5 years ago. I have made around 25% on my investment. I know it can go up and down but it is long term savings to help me with early retirement (hopefully).

But of a lighthearted reply, but if I followed advice on Mumsnet it’d be along the lines of don’t send your children to school until they are 6, get tutoring for your children for exams, no screen time, not even for a second! And how much to pay the cleaner…

Clearly mumsnetters tend to be on the more middle class side of things.

the threads that give me faith in mumsnet humanity are the domestic abuse ones where the signs of abuse are outlined very clearly and concisely. Hopefully mumsnet has saved a few lives over the years because of this.

Advice to follow for my own life? None so far!

Get a dehumidifier

To cut pizza with scissors.

Never leave a room empty

Never leave a room empty handed even

I do this. Such a game changer

Buy two Christmas stockings - fill one and keep hidden, hang up the empty one and then swap them over once the kids are asleep.

If you can’t sleep, rest.

I joined many, many years ago while frantically scouring the internet for advice - I was pregnant and panicking because I had accidentally eaten a canape containing both pate and soft cheese at a wedding.

The advice I got was lovely, calming and supportive. I was told the guidance was just for extra safety, most food is pasteurised these days and unless I became very ill it would likely be fine. Baby was not only totally fine but is now a strapping great teenager (although he hates both cheese and pate... Coincidence? Haha).

It was great advice though and scraped me down from the ceiling at the time.

That an anal fissure that doesn't heal is likely to be a fungal infection. Got a four year long AF to heal after two weeks by washing my nethers with nizoral shampoo.

Somebody gave me excellent advice on how to emulsion a room without it looking as though an inebriated monkey had done the decorating - it was a gamechanger!

I'm going to appear thick but what does this mean? 😂

To leave my ex-DH.

Hot spoon on a mosquito bite. After years of suffering with very itchy bites this works every time.

What's grey rocking and dropping the rope? Sounds like I could use this advice with my MIL

I think it means when you leave a room grab something that has migrated there & been left after using & put it back in its proper place…tidy up when you are on the move anyway, instead of having to do a massive tidying up session when all the toot accumulates.
Please advise me too if I am wrong though.

Yes @CookieMonster28 I was going to ask this too. I've not come across these phrases before. Glad it worked, OP.

*Pensions. I had an old work private one I hadn't looked at for years. Now doing well and I'm transferring to a SIPP.

*AN extra spin on the washing helps it dry quicker - it bloody does 😊.

*Use a dehumidifier to dry clothes - well, I had one stored in a cupboard while using heating to dry clothes. Not anymore.

*No is a full sentence.

Many many more.

@Fifiesta that makes sense, I must try it I despair every evening at the state of the kitchen/living area 😂

https://www.betterup.com/blog/grey-rocking#:~:text=in%20the%20workplace.-,What%20is%20the%20grey%20rock%20method%3F,showing%20emotions%20during%20a%20conversation.

Thank you!

What’s the secret @ComtesseDeSpair ??