DH and DS think I "don't cook"

[BrokenOven]

In two separate conversions over the last few days, DS and then DH independently claimed that I "don't cook."

I don't exactly recall the conversation with DS. But DH and I were discussing whether to replace or repair our broken oven, and he claimed we don't need a new oven "because it's not like you cook, anyway."

I do cook. For them. Every day.

When I pointed this out, he hemmed and hawed a bit and then said, "Well, you don't need a fancy new oven, because you don't bake things like nice cakes or a souffle."

No, I don't have time for that. But I do cook supper for them every day and lunches on the weekend.

Just a moan, really.

I would honestly just stop cooking. And when they complain remind them that you don’t cook, remember? They’ll soon get the message. Maybe they’ll start cooking! Result!

Twat. I would be sorely tempted to let them find out what happens when you really don't cook.

Wtf. I would be seriously pissed off about this! Time for DH to be in charge of the cooking for a week I think.

I'd stop cooking. DS has moaned about my cooking in the past, so I have told him to do his own cooking. DH knows better.
I don't have time to bake either.

I genuinely wouldn't cook for them anymore.

I don't cook souffles ever or cakes very often but my family absolutely appreciate all the meals I cook for them - as they should.

I had a similar discussion with my DH last week about dishes.

apparently I don’t do them. They are this responsibility anyway and I frequently do them!
I explained he won’t see any difference then
And i stopped doing them
he is displeased and there is huffing and sighing but I’m ignoring it

stop cooking anything for them.
They are ungrateful and need to realise this

Cakes and soufflés us baking anyway not cooking. Ask them how their meals appear if you aren't cooking. If the oven is broken then you definitely need a replacement

You absolutely need to stop cooking for them. "You don't cook" remember?!
Let them cook themselves, even after work. How rude.

Listen to me.

Do not cook another meal for either of them.

Twats.

How old is ds? He's probably just repeating what he's hears from dh, not something he's come up with independently.
If ds is a teen then I'd absolutely just stop cooking entirely for them.
What twat thinks ifnyoundont make soufflé and bake cakes then you're efforts are worthless?
It's doubly stupid because even frozen pizza and chips require an oven.

Fucking hell. I’d be livid! Sandwiches for them for supper every day from now on then.

I would certainly stop cooking for them, but why do you cook every day, does DH never cook? Does he do anything round the house? How old is DS?

I wouldn't be making so much as a cup of tea for the fuckers and I wouldn't be doing any family food shopping either, I'd buy food, hide it and cook it on the hob (assuming that still works) myself in portions for one. If they object possibly empty some uncooked pasta or rice straight out of the packet into a bowl for them and see how they like it.

Ok you won't die without an oven but it's considered a core piece of equipment for a house. What is a "fancy" oven anyway? Has he seen the one you liked the look of and why does he think it is "fancy"?

No cooking for them until they apologise, after all they shouldn't miss it since you don't cook.

Outrageous that you're not baking them daily souffles. How lazy and feckless are you. The gall of you wanting a functioning oven if you're not preparing nice cakes.

Now that you aren’t burdened with any daily meal prep, OP, I hope you plan to enjoy this added free time.

How long do you think it will take before they fully notice just how much you were doing?

Ha this reasonates with me as ex was a chef at one point so cooks with panache, flair and expensive ingredients. I churn out endless sensible meals made from slow cooked mince that can be on table quickly after getting in late fromv after school stuff but I “don’t cook”

The upside is the dc can cook, 14 yo cooked tea yesterday but the cost £22 quid for ribeye steaks from Aldi plus other ingredients it was about £32 quid all in. It was lovely but no way my budget can do that every day.

We had a situation like this during covid. DH was furloughed, I was working (from home). He was doing the home schooling. I'd come downstairs to make tea.... I'd have to load dishwasher/tidy up. Every. Single. Time. Plus routine tiding up after breakfast/lunch etc. He has a habit of leaving things on the counter. He WILL put them in the dishwasher, but later. So I had been doing it instead as it drives me mad to have a messy counter.

Admittedly, with four of us in the house all the time, I' not disputing that he was doing some. But when he complained that he was doing it all I decided ot stop doing any tidying up of mess that I had not been involved in. (so I'd do after lunch becuase I'd made lunch, but if I came down at 11 to make a tea and there were plates and cups and bowls out from the three of them, I left them). Then he complained and huffed and puffed.

My all time FAVOURITE moment was when he had a go at me because some plates were on the counter and hadn't been put in the dishwasher. I said, "those aren't my plates. I tidied up after I made breakfast for me and DS." and he insisted they were. I pointed out they were plates with egg on - I don't eat egg. Then he tried to blame DD (she was 4). So I pointed out the plates had been neatly stacked, and pushed right to the back of the counter... dd's head at the time did not even REACH the counter. She could just about slide one plate onto the counter, leaving it on the edge.

He stopped huffing and puffing after that and did, in fact, start loading the dishwasher!

So do or rather don’t do what they think you don’t do and teach them a lesson.

I absolutely would stop cooking for them if they said that to me and I would remind them of the fact when they would dare to complain. Cheeky fuckers.

His response regarding cakes and soufflé is baking rather than cooking, your DH is free to bake if he wants. So many men enjoy their wives' salaries, but they also want her to undertake the standard homemaker role as well. Yet won't do it themselves.

Oh, and sorry, OP - yes, stop cooking. Or you could go the more obviously aggressive route and every time you all sit down to a meal say, "wow, look at this meal I didn't cook"

We had baked potatoes with various topping last night for dinner. It's still cooking and requires an oven!

Who makes soufflés anyway? Like, more power to people who do I bet they are fab and if you do I admire and respect your skill but - straw poll- who on here has made a souffle
a) in the past month
b) in the past year
c) in the past ever
d) in future

My answers are
a) no b) no c) no
d) maybe yes but only in the hazy way that I intend to speak perfect French some day -did a bit of Duolingo, gave up; get properly fit and do a half marathon or one of those Mud Hell Wanker races- don't know where my trainers are, haven't seen them in about a year; and start altering and repairing my clothes- can barely sew on a button, don't own a sewing machine.

Start tonight. Don't cook them dinner.

Then when

"What's for dinner?"

"Whatever you make - I don't cook - remember?"