Where is my friend? getting worried now

[listsandbudgets]

Friend coming to stay and said she'd be here about 11am so we could have lunch together. Still no sign of her.

Her DP just texted me about 2.45pm and asked if she'd got here safely as she wasn't answering texts and usually drops him a quick text after long drives to let him now she's turned up. He said she left at 9.30am which is right as it's about an hour and a half. I sent her a text about 12.30 along the lines of don't worry about running late I can hold lunch see you in a bit - no reply.

I've looked at her route on google maps - no traffic holdups that I can see. Not yet replied to her DP - will have to say she's not arrived... luckily he's not the type to panic but he will be concerned obviously.

talk me down I'm imagining all sorts of awful things. I wouldn't worry about an hour or even 2 hours at a push but 4 hours late with no communication is concerning especially as I know she left on time and she's usually really reliable give or take 20 minutes

Fingers crossed there's a simple explanation!

If she is usually really reliable then yes I’d also be very worried by now.

Is she used to driving or is she a nervous driver OP? Does she drive this route to you regularly? Could she have got lost and be too embarrassed to say?
Maybe she stopped for a coffee and bumped into an old friend, got chatting and didn’t realise the time.
All sorts of credible reasons why she could be late and hasn’t called you.

Fingers crossed she has turned up safe and sound by now.

Horses for courses. We use it as a tool in our family. Not to spy on their whereabouts.

Hope she turns up soon

Time to phone the hospitals I’m afraid OP. Please let us know what happens.

He just called he's tracked phone which was last seen nearly 2 hours ago and car which is in the same place phone last seen. He's going to drive there - chances are my guess that she's broken down and awaiting breakdown services is right though have to say they're taking a verrrry long time and it's odd she didn't let us know. At least we know where her car is and hopefully my friend is safely in it and probably a bit pissed off by now!! If she's not there I expect he will then call police.

Will update later

I don't think she's having an affair!!

As for those saying it's odd he's tracking her / car I think it's pretty normal. My phone can easily be tracked using Where's my Phone and lots of cars have trackers not least because it often results in a cut in insurance premiums

I find it strange the DP is so calm. Over 4 hours late, no contact at all to anyone? Not normal for him to be calm or assume there is a rational explanation, in my view.

I hope she’s ok OP x

At least he is driving there now , I find it odd the messages delivered to her phone and there was no response, if her battery died they wouldn't have delivered ??

Hopefully she’s broken down and run out of phone charge.

No, we all have follow my iPhone set up so DH and I can see where each other is and where our two DC are. It’s very useful as DH will time dinner for when I arrive home from work by checking how far I am away from home! We also have my elderly dad on there as he lives alone so if we don’t hear from him we can locate him.

My car knows where it is. It has its own app and if I open it then I can see it.

Or very Orwellian.

For those with older cars you can buy a tracker, it's about £4/5 pm. We have one fitted on a classic car (to track the car if it was stolen rather than the occupants - like the DH in this we would only log on to the account if the situation was unusual. We would have text OP first as he did)

Love how posters are trying to cast aspersions on the partner with no evidence at all.

Strange she didn't call anyone to let them know what was happening unless her phone is out of charge.

This doesn't add up at all. If she was able to contact breakdown; why would she not have told anyone about breaking down?

@CurlyhairedAssassin yeah, it's very unlikely. If she was suffering from MH issues she could've went off somewhere I guess. But it's imperative they find her. Maybe calling round hospital a&e departments locally. They'll tell you if she was admitted or in the waiting area.

Gosh. This is a worry. Having said that, once I broke down and my iPhone died on me. Luckily I had a work blackberry which I used to call the breakdown cover. It had no personal numbers stored on it so I couldn’t let DH know until I was in the breakdown truck and could plug my phone in. My phone was originally charged but it crashed and died. Really scared me to be honest so I got a new phone soon after.

That’s so handy! Well I have learned something new today 😂

It seems odd she wouldn't let you or her DH know if she had broken down. I hope she is okay.

Fingers crossed you're right and she's just broken down and run out of battery.

Hope she’s ok OP.
I can track my car easily on the app. I can see immediately where the car is, how many miles it’s got left (electric), if it’s moving or stationary and what music the driver is listening to. It’s very convenient for knowing when DH is due home etc.

Well it was DS's suggestion to stop me worrying. I'd never heard of it.

Hope she is ok @listsandbudgets.

Let us know when you hear from her OP. This must be so worrying for you x