Where is my friend? getting worried now

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Friend coming to stay and said she'd be here about 11am so we could have lunch together. Still no sign of her.

Her DP just texted me about 2.45pm and asked if she'd got here safely as she wasn't answering texts and usually drops him a quick text after long drives to let him now she's turned up. He said she left at 9.30am which is right as it's about an hour and a half. I sent her a text about 12.30 along the lines of don't worry about running late I can hold lunch see you in a bit - no reply.

I've looked at her route on google maps - no traffic holdups that I can see. Not yet replied to her DP - will have to say she's not arrived... luckily he's not the type to panic but he will be concerned obviously.

talk me down I'm imagining all sorts of awful things. I wouldn't worry about an hour or even 2 hours at a push but 4 hours late with no communication is concerning especially as I know she left on time and she's usually really reliable give or take 20 minutes

Having re read all your posts I find it hard to understand how she struggled to control the car on a quiet road unless she was driving over 60, and sprain a wrist.

I also cannot believe how no one stopped to help her if they saw a car in a ditch/ side of road with a flat and a woman on her own. If she'd put her hazards on and stood at the side of the road, someone at some point would have stopped and offered help (and a phone.) OR at least reported it to the police who would have attended to avoid a collision and check up on her.

Yes, this is a very strange story. It's not like it was the middle of the night.

I'm not a driver so please correct me if I'm wrong, but I would've thought it was difficult to bang your head if you're wearing a seatbelt?

What might she have banged it on, when she skidded?

What's with all the naysayers and detectives?

I'm glad your friend is OK!

I got a strange text from a friend once, she said she was lost in an area and her phone was about to die :( I tried to ring but voicemail came on. I bought her a Juice charger from Amazon and told her to carry it with her, just can't risk battery running out. Terrible thing is with so many scams nowadays she didn't open the parcel, she hadn't ordered anything herself and thought it was one of the trick ones!

So she's shocked, hurt her wrist and generally cold and pissed off but alive and kicking thank God and I'm now feeling really awful I didn't do something earlier Some rubbish friend I am furious with myself.

You are not a rubbish friend at all. You did your best to contact her; you also got in touch with her husband to try to make contact from his side. Please don’t blame yourself.

Not at all braking or stopping suddenly can jolt the driver forward enough to hit their head on a steering wheel with enough force to cause concussion and in some circumstances at TBI without the airbag deploying

if you think about the space between the driver and the steering wheel and the give in the seatbelt it is easy for it to happen - and such is the nature of head injuries potentially forgotten

if (and it js an it) she breaked suddenly due to the panic of the tyre bursting (which you shouldn’t do) which as she was on a quiet road she may well have that force would be suffocient

it is of course all conjecture but she should (even for insurance purposes) get checked out for concussion/whiplash groggy and fall asleep and the way she handled the after effects could all be effects of a concussion/TBI and the latter is v serious

You can bang it on the side of the car.

It doesn't sounds like she would have banged her head in the incident, but that it and the sprained risk caused her to go into shock.
This can cause confusion and tiredness - hence her falling asleep and still feeling muddled some hours later.
I'm sure her DP is keeping an eye on her and will advise she gets checked out tomorrow if she's not right.

The tyre blew and then she skidded. It's hard to control a car in that situation.

It is odd that no one stopped though.

You said her DP contacted you at 2.45pm because she wasn’t answering texts and he wanted to make sure she arrived safely. Why didn’t he check the car tracker then?

I don't know the circumstances here, but a couple of things ring true, my last point is the one I like least.

People of a certain age (myself included) are not always "on" or in contact all the time.

It is entirely possible that an accident of this sort could have spiked adrenaline in the OP which when she felt safe may have left her sleepy. It's a well known situation for those at least first aider trained that this can be a complication and hence why you try to talk to the patient and keep them conscious.

I have not advanced searched the OP.

My most prevailing thought on this thread is I thought troll hunting was against Mumsnet guidelines and it's rife in this thread.

I'm glad she's ok. X

You must have been so worried. I am glad that your friend turned up safely in the end, but also wondering (from painful experience) whether she might have a drinking problem, albeit one that has been hidden from most people up to this point...

This is in no way your fault or responsibility, op

Glad she's ok

I would. Very high IQ. Practicality about zero

Not sure why my comment was deleted. TAAT I suppose.

What have I missed?

Does it matter? Just leave it be.

@CucumberBagel - I “know” the OP from some other long running threads and she is not a troll. And this was posted in her normal posting name. No name changing. So I wouldn’t say she has been rumbled as you put it.

*Some not all posters trying to find a way to blame the man in the situation