Having a poo in someone else's house - Is there an etiquette for you?

[UniqueFinch]

So this is a question that I never really thought I would be asking on MN. Curiosity has now got the better of me. I had a discussion with my DM recently and she said wouldn't ever have a poo in someone else's house. To be honest, I haven't found myself in a situation where I've been in someone else's house and I've really needed to have one. I usually only go at home or in the workplace toilet. If I was on holiday I would go in the hotel bathroom, or if I was on a plane or train I would use the toilet there. I would basically have one anywhere if I really needed to, as most people presumably would, but there is something about going in someone's house other than my own that makes me not want to.
Is there a certain friendship or relationship threshold that you need to be at with someone to be comfortable with it? For example would you go in a close friend or family member's house, but not someone who is just an acquaintance? I probably wouldn't want to in any of those scenarios.

Once a week?! Either you don’t eat much or you fill the bowl up (+take ages and are sore for a day or two)

Given a choice I’d rather just go in my own toilet. As the urge is just after breakfast I’m unlikely to be at anyone else's house. Problem solved.

Interesting question.

😁@EdibleFruit maybe not 🫤

Holding in a poo when you need to go is unhealthy!

Luckily I normally need to go first thing in the morning so I can use my own loo, but I wouldn’t hesitate to use one out of my home if I needed to. I just make sure that there are no skid marks and squirt some air freshener if they have some.

I don't go out of my way to use the facilities outwith my home, but if duty calls... well, it's a toilet. That's what it's for. Prop the window beforehand and give a courtesy spray of perfume from the handbag after.

So long as there are at least two cubicles then I am fine having a poo anywhere, but if I find myself in a single cubicle situation then nothing is happening. The fear that at any moment I could be holding up a queue makes everything impossible, even if in fact nobody else is waiting.

It is so nice to walk into the loos and see two or even better three cubicles!

We had a builder who used to use the loo every day. That didn’t bother me but he used to spray my expensive perfume after as an air freshener which was annoying. I hid it in the end.

Only at home regular as clock work in the mornings. Did have diarrhea that suddenly came on once an ran to the loo In the shopping centre. To my horror it was packed in there with a big cue thankfully I made the toilet in time!! Once in the cublic I didn't wanna come out felt so embarrassed I literally ran out the toilets and straight home not a experience I want to ever have again.

As this thread shows, and research confirms, there is a lot of variability. I have read that the average is between 3 times a day and once every 3 days. But many people fall outside that. So your normal is just normal for you, not for everyone.

I don’t know why people think air freshener helps a shitty stink. It makes it worse, imo.

I'm astonished people can manage not to go to the loo for hours on end. Don't they eat fibre?

If I need a poo then I need it soon, not when I get back from work or shopping.

Totally! The air freshener smell mixed with shit stink is ‘shitty of the valley’

i wretch at the shit stench like we all go but gag it’s mixed with chemically induced fake floral notes.

Have people on this thread never house shared?

Who the hell would use someone's perfume?? I'd be so mad.

What makes me see red is if someone has a poo in my house and doesn't wash their hands!!

I have a friend who hides the toilet roll at her house. If I ever go over there and need to nip for a wee she will tell me okay but she’s out of toilet roll. I’m sure this is to stop people shitting.

Since we inherited parents house, I actually have never pooped anywhere in my whole life apart from one toilet. When we go away I just hold it in until we are home again !

Newly diagnosed IBS sufferer here. I've struggled with toilet issues for a few years. I literally fear needing the toilet when out and about. For those of you that suffer with IBS , gut directed hypnotherapy has helped ease my symptoms. I had a few one to one sessions with a hypnotherapist but suffered a setback a few months later when I needed unexpected gastro surgery. I've just started using an app and one week in I'm already feeling calmer. Twice this week I've left the house without going to the toilet 5 times before I leave. Just wanted to share in the hope it may help someone. I know how utterly debilitating IBS can be.

Tradesmen are the worst. I always make a point when they ask if they can use the loo, to say "just check there is some hand soap in there, the kids were messing about with it earlier "

shitty of the valley 😂

It really makes me think of my dad. My parents had several loos. ‘His’ was by the front door. He’d go in there for ages and liberally spray a very cloying air freshener afterwards. If you had the misfortune to enter the house around that time, you were indeed hit with shitty of the valley.

I really really dislike going outside of a quiet, private time in my own home which is thankfully what my body has trained itself to do 95% of the time.

It's not so much a matter of holding it in, if things are normal (i.e. not ill or ate something funny) I just don't feel the urge to go while away from home. And yes it causes issues while on holiday!

I'm not too fussy. I'm usually regular as clockwork first thing in the morning but I'll park my cheeks on any given toilet if nature calls. On the rare occasion I need to perform a daytime #2 then I prefer to use a single toilet room rather than a cubicle next to other cubicles just so no one has to listen to my plops in the u-bend. Do my business lid down and flush. If I'm at someone's house then I will lift the lid again to do a courtesy post flush inspection to make sure no floaters are left.

No tbh never! Apart from when I was a student in a flat with girlfriends etc. House share would clearly be a Nightmare for many of us on this thread 😂

Make sure it goes in the toilet..