Having a poo in someone else's house - Is there an etiquette for you?

[UniqueFinch]

So this is a question that I never really thought I would be asking on MN. Curiosity has now got the better of me. I had a discussion with my DM recently and she said wouldn't ever have a poo in someone else's house. To be honest, I haven't found myself in a situation where I've been in someone else's house and I've really needed to have one. I usually only go at home or in the workplace toilet. If I was on holiday I would go in the hotel bathroom, or if I was on a plane or train I would use the toilet there. I would basically have one anywhere if I really needed to, as most people presumably would, but there is something about going in someone's house other than my own that makes me not want to.
Is there a certain friendship or relationship threshold that you need to be at with someone to be comfortable with it? For example would you go in a close friend or family member's house, but not someone who is just an acquaintance? I probably wouldn't want to in any of those scenarios.

It is not a shitty make-do toilet tooth brush in a cosmetic bag. It is in a proper plastic box and if I have to use it don't you think I wash it before putting it back in the box. I have Crohn's but maybe you did not read that as you don't seem to have read the brush comment correctly and don't have much choice in where I go to the toilet so want to leave it how I found it.

@RichardMarxisinnocent that's fair enough and obviously it's better than shitting yourself. I still don't like the thought of someone using the toilet after me though!

For me the only time I feel completely comfortable having a poo is when I'm at home and there is no one else in the house. That's a rare occurrence though when you have DH and DCs at home (or if you just live with multiple people).

I'd be fucked if that was the case with me!

Why do you need the house to be empty, though?

So people can't hear or smell it? It's just a bowel movement. We all poo and fart. If you can't do a discreet plop when your family are there, you'll be forever avoiding them when you need to go, or causing long term problems for your bowel holding in all that poo!

If every loo had a loo brush on the floor next to it, no one would need to carry toothbrushes around with them...

In places subject to the Equality Act, I'd go as far as to suggest that not having a loo brush is discrimination against people with bowel-related disabilities.

That's exactly why. If it's an empty house I can have a peaceful poo without having to worry about people smelling it. Also I saw a previous poster claiming to find it satisfying when people comment about the stink - I would be mortified if that was me! 😄

I know this is an old thread, but I’m genuinely thrilled I stumbled across it. I haven’t laughed this hard in ages.

Personally, I’ve never understood the British obsession with only using one’s own loo. I’m perfectly happy to go anywhere: work loos, public toilets, hotel bathrooms on holiday… even friends’ houses (though that one’s rarer, mostly because I don’t get invited back often).

And then there was that incident in the Highlands. Miles from civilisation, long walk, no chance of making it home. Let’s just say the local shrubbery did its bit for Queen and country. Leaves were involved. I survived.

But I suppose that’s the difference — I’m European, not British. Maybe that explains the lack of toilet-related shame.

Still, I’ve picked up something new here: the “courtesy flush”. Genius. If I’m ever invited into the home of a posh British family (not that I actually know any), and nature suddenly calls, I’ll be ready. Discreet as you like. Practically aristocratic.

Etiquette? It’s customary to use the loo rather than the floor….

I have IBS I’ve had to poo all over, sometimes I’ve almost fainted or passed out with sweats and pain cos I need to poo. It’s pretty horrific tbh.

I find this amazing! I go 1 to 3 times a day, so I just go wherever I am, work, home, restaurant, friend's house, wherever.

Surely this is made up?