Not invited to stepdaughter's wedding

[Chewitally]

I've been with her Dad for over ten years. Her mum's partner is invited.

We don't have a good relationship for reasons irrelevant to this but I never thought she would stoop so low as to not invite me to her wedding.

OP is just a girlfriend not even a missus. After 10 years! lol So she's obviously not even that important to him. She's nothing. His daughter is for LIFE. His daughter is the most important woman and person he will ever have in his life. His daughter does NOT need to respect his relationship with OP at all. Even if she does respect the relationship, that does not mean she has to invite the girlfriend.

You need trip to Specsavers. You really cannot see what your actions may have done to the child, nor how your tantrum is being perceived.
Now you are blaming the mother!! You stepped into a relationship your friends ex-husband. That's a no-go friendshipbwise.
No wonder you have an ex-friend

It may be rude for the SD not to invite you, but I think it is also rude and very sad for the Dad not to go.
He should swallow any lost pride (for not walking her down the isle), and attend on his own.
If he cannot bring himself to attend the reception, then maybe just the actual wedding and photographs. Simply for the reason to maintain a relationship with his daughter.

You claim your step daughters mum is controlling..... I think you'll find you are the controlling one not wanting your partner to go to a wedding without you. Especially his own daughter's.

Ive read through the whole post. And you sound spiteful. You claim you stayed friends with the mum and you got with her ex husband. No wonder your step daughter doesn't like you. You were supposed to be a true friend to the mum but clearly you weren't.

The bride refused her own DF contributing to the most expensive day of her life and your own DC hate the relationship. I think you've more than a wedding invitation to be worried about.
The venom is palpable from your posts. Are you happy?

If your partner is your priority you tell him to go without you, even if he wont enjoy it becuase he will have no relationship with his dd if he doesnt.

Nah, your partner puts his daughter first, not you. Children always come first.

She doesn't want to make it awkward for her mum!

Can I also ask if the responses you've received have surprised you and altered your thinking on your boyfriend attending?

I'd be delighted.
You are allowed to do things separately- you are not joined at him.
Out of interest, have you kept in touch with your partner's ex-wife? If not, your step-daughter probably doesn't want an atmosphere at HER wedding

Lol, there's definitely another side of the story the OP hasn't told us about 😁😁😁

This is her wedding. Not your wedding. Not her dad’s wedding. Her wedding. You have no right to be there and I think you need to look inward at yourself for the reason you’re not invited.

Weddings are about celebrating your marriage with people you love. You don’t sound like you love her. You’re not disappointed about not being there because you’ll not see her get married. It’s all about you.

How you will be perceived. How you feel. What you want. You have not once on this thread demonstrated your capability to think about others. From the tone of your posts you are selfish, entitled, and unbending.

I think you step daughter is probably right not to invite you but I really hope her dad goes. His daughter should always be his priority not his new partner.

Well I think it's a very difficult situation - as is the case for a lot of families where there have been marriage breakups and re- partnering.
I just don't think OP deserves the unpleasantness she is getting.
I could understand it if she had been the OW.

Why are you so overly invested in this thread and on a mission to say everyone is wrong? Unless you are the OP and changed your username. Seems very odd.

The circumstances this couple got together are dodgy at best. OP may or may not have been the OW. The mum was a close family friend. Putting aside mum for a minute can you imagine the hurt the step daughter feels for what happened?

Given that the OP own daughter has been invited to the wedding and is going shows that it wasn't a happy situation all around and resentments and anger 10 years later run deep,

Her attitude towards her step-daughter stinks

Read OP's posts, she is belligerent, stubborn, unrepentant and spiteful. She comes across as incredibly nasty and hostile not just to her SD and exfriend, but to people on this thread. She has got back what she has given out on here.

Can you imagine inviting a woman to your wedding whose Victorian face throughout the event says you are childish. Fuck that!

She betrayed her friend!

The OP was a shoulder to cry on through the divorce then she goes and shags the ex husband.

Doesnt matter how many years down the line it was. It's still betrayal and is not what a true friend does.

I understand your stepdaughters position. If I were you, I would accept it, respect her decision and encourage your Partner to go to his own DD's wedding.

Big of you.

All sounds very grubby and you sound as unpleasant as I suspect you are irl.

I'm not sure why you expect a invite when you don't get on

I'm not sure why you would want to go

It would be cruel to stop your partner from going on principle.

Learn to accept you will not be welcomed to the family. Encourage your husband to rebuild his relationship with his dd.

Where do you think kids come from? 🤣🤣🤣

That has what to do with this? You are really flailing about now.

You make it sound as though she committed a crime worse than murder.

OP says she got together with her partner 2 years after he was divorced and when his ex already had a new partner herself. Whilst that might not be ideal it's certainly not a major crime.

This. If a friend of mine ended up with my ex husband, no matter how long after we split, they would not be a friend anymore it’s the ultimate betrayal. And my kid would understand that too. But yet you can’t! With such bad feeling there why would the bride want you there? No way. And of course the father should be there and be a little insightful of her feelings as well as the feelings of his ex, clearly you’re not! You need to encourage him to go. I don’t really understand why you would want to go anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️