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Police brought son home

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 08:45

Feel ill
he was terrified
they got stopped cos they all ran off cos someone let off a firework. It wasn’t him or his friends.
got searched and they found weed. That they had bought the night before for the very first time.
thet handcuffed him
they were very nice
he’s 17
wtf?!!
he’s a really good kid, they just wanted to try it.
hes autistic and has adhd, not sure that’s relevant here

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Getonwitit · 31/10/2024 11:27

He is such a good kid, of course he is, only the good ones buy illegal drugs and run from the Police, the criminals don't !

Do you think your son is so special that the law don't apply to him and the Police should just turn a blind eye to his criminal activities ?

Getonwitit · 31/10/2024 11:29

And being Autistic and ADHD is not bloody relevant. It is not a get out of jail card.

Screamingabdabz · 31/10/2024 11:29

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 31/10/2024 11:24

You seem altogether too casual about it OP. Mine would have got an almighty bollocking if the police had brought him home, 17 or not, and as for the weed and twatting about with fireworks.

Exactly. A parental bollocking is the only normal response here.

SweetPeaPods · 31/10/2024 11:37

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Sorry wrong chat!

EarthlyNightshade · 31/10/2024 11:38

Why did they search him? I think they can only do that if they have a specific reason.
Was the specific reason to do with the fireworks or were they running from the police rather than just running off?
Kids try weed (maybe not on mumnset) and end up ok - were they all carrying some? That would concern me as it could be a lot of weed.
I would also be doubtful that this was the very first time.

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 11:41

How on earth do you think I’m being casual?
it was just him who was carrying a tiny bit
there was a dispersal order, does that give them special powers, not sure.

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loropianalover · 31/10/2024 11:41

You’re being very naive OP. Why’s he out ‘at night’ skulking around buying weed and letting off fireworks? Put an end to that. Should be plenty of part time jobs going for the Xmas period.

ImJustAGirlInACountrySong · 31/10/2024 11:51

What do you call 'a tiny bit' op?

24CRZZNKKA · 31/10/2024 11:53

anywherehollie · 31/10/2024 09:01

He clearly did the fireworks and it definitely wasn't the first time they bought weed 😂😂😂 come on now

This

WillowtreeHouse · 31/10/2024 11:55

How much is a tiny bit of weed OP? You seem hellbent on defending him, rather than giving him a bollocking. Sometimes, that's what's needed.

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 11:58

No idea
rhats what the policeman said
I didn’t see it

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 12:00

I’m not defending him, I’m just answering questions
im furious
worried too

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Ariela · 31/10/2024 12:01

What sanctions are you giving him for a) the weed (which I think is worse than the firework as it can so easily lead to trying/using/being addicted to worse drugs)
and b) the firework (they wouldn't run if they hadn't set it off, surely?)
is what I'd like to know.

Fightingfat · 31/10/2024 12:03

Ariela · 31/10/2024 12:01

What sanctions are you giving him for a) the weed (which I think is worse than the firework as it can so easily lead to trying/using/being addicted to worse drugs)
and b) the firework (they wouldn't run if they hadn't set it off, surely?)
is what I'd like to know.

He’s nearly an adult. Why are you so focused on punishment. At this age talking to him is way better. Good grief.

CountFucula · 31/10/2024 12:03

Well he’s not ruined his life, it’s only a tiny bit of weed and not the end of the world - his reaction is important. Is he mortified?? If so: good. He won’t do it again. If he’s being as casual as me… you’ve got a problem. This is an early and swift intervention and he needs to heed it.

user2848502016 · 31/10/2024 12:04

Treat it as a learning opportunity and a chance to get on top of the weed smoking.

DH did something similar at 16 and had a police caution, if definitely didn't ruin his life. He works in jobs that require a full DBS check and has never had an issue!

MrsGarethSouthgate · 31/10/2024 12:05

Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 10:11

so, hasn’t ruined his life at all then
ffs

I don’t think he’s getting an actual caution, not as a juvenile and for a first offence. Sounds like a referral to Youth Offending Service for intervention work to help him make better choices in future.

Give 101 a call and leave a message for the officer to contact you back so you can clarify, but be aware it might take a while to hear back due to shifts/demands of service.

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 12:05

I have no idea
they had an event planned for tonight, that’s cancelled and he won’t be going out anytime soon

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 12:07

Yes he’s mortified
he was very scared
and he’s very worried
there were lots of tears

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Xyz1234567 · 31/10/2024 12:08

Stop being so incredibly weak. Time for you to grow up, stop making pathetic excuses for his appalling behavior and admonish him severely.

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Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 12:13

Ha, I’m not weak at all

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 31/10/2024 12:15

DreadPirateRobots · 31/10/2024 08:52

You know that "we just bought the weed five minutes ago and for the first time ever!!!!" is a lie, right? As is, probably, the claim that they were nothing to do with the firework?

If the police aren't bringing charges, hopefully it's a shock that will do him some good and nothing more.

This ^

Motnight · 31/10/2024 12:16

Purplehydra · 31/10/2024 09:49

We we’re both in shock I think, so didn’t ask enough questions. A caution I think, but then they said it’ll probably be ok and he’d just have to do an online course?
we’ve had lots of chats about drugs. His friends have been his friends through high school. They are all scared now in case I tell their parents
no other behavioural problems, got through his GCSEs with good grades. We still spend lots of time together, it’s just me and him, loves spending time with the family, he's not stuck in his room.

Why would the parents of the other kids involved not already know?

Singleandproud · 31/10/2024 12:17

Does he have an 'Autism card' he can hand to Police if he has a similar incident as he gets older they may not be so nice.

He is at massive risk of being taken advantage of by county lines due to his naivety due to his disabilities.