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So DH thinks a 20 minute shower is perfectly normal

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sprigatito · 08/10/2024 23:25

I can't understand what he is doing in there for 20 minutes Confused I don't consciously rush, but I'm in and out in about 5. Wash hair, wash body, done.

This is a very unserious post, we aren't falling out over it, but just for shits and giggles...do you think a 20 minute shower is the norm?

OP posts:
sunshinestar1986 · 10/10/2024 18:22

A 20 min shower is too long?

OriginalUsername2 · 10/10/2024 18:26

20 - 30 mins for an everything shower for me.

I can do a five minute one in a pinch - one minute to rinse, one to shampoo, one to condition, one to body wash, one to rinse again.

Wait, no I actually condition and body wash at the same time and then rinse - so two are done at once.

Havinganamechange · 10/10/2024 18:32

Perfectly normal for me to be in there 20 minutes, I’m washing my hair, conditioning for few minutes, washing my face and body. Aside from that I’m enjoying the hot water 🤷🏼‍♀️

Namechangedididittoo · 10/10/2024 18:35

Omg my son can take any time up to or over an hour. Luckily we are not on a water meter

HelenaTranscart · 10/10/2024 18:41

I can imagine what he's doing in there for 20 minutes! 🤣

WhoOfWhoville · 10/10/2024 18:47

My “everything” shower can be 30-40 mins!

I have curly hair which has quite a protracted wash/condution/product/styling routine which all takes place in the shower, I also brush my teeth and cleanse my face, as well as washing and exfoliating my body, shaving the requisite areas of my body, giving me my heels a going over with the file and scrub under all my finger and toenails with a nail brush.

I turn the water off during any bits where I’m shaving or applying product/styling my hair.

FeetLikeFlippers · 10/10/2024 18:47

mushpush · 08/10/2024 23:32

20 minutes is a standard for me! Double shampoo, condition, shave, soap etc. Can be longer if I'm going for the full glossy slug vibes! Or shaving the hoo haa, can't rush that.

What on earth is a glossy slug? I assumed it meant a shaved “hoo-haa” but then you mentioned that separately so I’m genuinely confused and intrigued!

FlyingHighFlyingLow · 10/10/2024 18:48

My DH took long showers. Then we had a baby and it started to piss me off. He didn't see the problem. So I started taking showers as long as his were. Suddenly he can shower in 10 mins!

Marblesbackagain · 10/10/2024 18:55

It can take that long but I can do shorter.

Hair wash rinse, second shampoo, use scalp massager, let it sit. Wash body with soap, use body scrub, rinse hair, condition.

Wash with my scented shower gel, shave, rinse conditioner, rinse body.

Then start the moisturising and scented body butter, pedicure, manicure, face & neck routine.

Spent years having a run in and out shower, dry and deodorant out the door. I treat myself better now because it makes me feel so much better. Also kids are older so now have the time.

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 10/10/2024 18:59

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 10/10/2024 15:06

Maybe try vinegar when rinsing the towels. I love mine with a bit of scratch so don't tumble dry them either.

I do 🙂

I don't think it's the absorbancy of my towels that's the problem. I think it's the absorbancy of my skin 🤣 because it's so dry! (and yes, to answer the next suggestion obviously I do moisturise). I'm not reporting a problem that I'm looking for a solution here, merely explaining that I take longer to dry off than others do 😆

lemming40 · 10/10/2024 19:08

Probably masturbating

MsNeis · 10/10/2024 19:11

sprigatito · 08/10/2024 23:25

I can't understand what he is doing in there for 20 minutes Confused I don't consciously rush, but I'm in and out in about 5. Wash hair, wash body, done.

This is a very unserious post, we aren't falling out over it, but just for shits and giggles...do you think a 20 minute shower is the norm?

I could have written this myself 😆

CRD67 · 10/10/2024 19:13

As a man, a 5 minute shower is more than sufficient. He's clearly doing something more. To find out for sure, see if he's in the mood immediately after he steps out...😁

HelpMeUnpickThis · 10/10/2024 19:15

rainfallpurevividcat · 09/10/2024 03:07

Reading Mumsnet I really understand how the environment is fucked. People taking showers that use 4x the water of a bath and constantly washing towels, pj and bed linen after a single use.

@rainfallpurevividcat

come and wash my shoulder length 4C shoulder length afro hair in 5 mins.

I dare you.

That is before conditioner and comb through.

Your self righteousness is outrageous.

Heartbreaktuna · 10/10/2024 19:21

gotmyknickersinatwist · 09/10/2024 01:23

I remember a thread a wee while back from a young woman who was living with her mum. Her mum was giving off because she was taking 15 minute showers & the OP was given so much grief on the thread.

What on earth are you doing for 15 minutes?! How does it take you SO long? You're wasting water/gas/money! No wonder your mum is stressed! Think of the environment etc etc.

This thread is full of 'oh 20 minutes is nothing! I'd spend an hour in there if I could!'

MN is a funny ol' place.

I remember that too. So wild how a thread can turnout!

halava · 10/10/2024 19:31

Those of you who have long showers - is your hot water cylinder a bottomless one? 😃

I suppose electric showers can heat as much water as you need, but water coming from the cylinder must have a limit!

I'm a ten minute gal myself, quicker if I can, occasionally longer, using the hot water cylinder. Just me so there's no worries about capacity. I hate baths, hate hate hate them.

As for drying and towels, I have a towelling bathrobe thing, and if I just dry myself very quickly with a towel and am still quite ahem, damp.... my super duper hairdryer does the rest, AND my hair also. Lovely...

BooBooDoodle · 10/10/2024 19:46

20 mins minimum for me. Hair washing, leg shaving and washing. I put deep conditioners on so leave that on and comb through whilst I do something else. Can’t wash your hair and clean properly in under 10 minutes. I can’t understand why men need 20 minutes to have a dump though. That’s for another post but that gets right on my t1ts!

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 10/10/2024 19:53

honestasever · 09/10/2024 06:51

You do realise he’s having a wank don’t you?

That's exactly what I thought 🤣

Yourcatisnotsorry · 10/10/2024 19:54

20 minutes is crazy, how big are your bills? 5 minutes to wash hair and shave everything here. I love having a shower too.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/10/2024 20:02

5 mins for me. About 8 if shaving. I have very fine, straight hair in a shortish bob, so washing and conditioning it is very quick.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 10/10/2024 20:40

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 10/10/2024 18:59

I do 🙂

I don't think it's the absorbancy of my towels that's the problem. I think it's the absorbancy of my skin 🤣 because it's so dry! (and yes, to answer the next suggestion obviously I do moisturise). I'm not reporting a problem that I'm looking for a solution here, merely explaining that I take longer to dry off than others do 😆

😅, must be that. And have run out of suggestions 😂.

Cheesetoastiees · 10/10/2024 20:50

I could spend hours in the shower. It’s warm and queit. I’ve literally cut down how many showers I have a week so I can spend longer in them when I do shower 😂

I miss being a teenager and naively showering for hours wondering why my poor dad kept trying to cut my showers down to half an hour.

HarrietsweetHarriet · 10/10/2024 21:11

15 /20 mins yes, for shampoo, time to leave conditioner in, wash, body scrub and generally ease my aching body under the lovely hot water.

TheMauveBeaker · 10/10/2024 21:23

Less than 5 minutes for me, including hair wash. Can’t be doing with spending any longer than necessary in there. As for baths, not a chance I’m going to wallow in my own dirty water!

Disturbia81 · 10/10/2024 22:01

He'll be having a wank, It's the cleanest way.

I'm out in 10 mins tops, I get bored 😆

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