I'm not being out of order am I?

[Shithole101]

Earlier on I cooked myself fish and chips for dinner I asked Dd 14. If she wants anything she said no. Now she asking me to cook and I have said no. She got stroppy. And hasnt bothered eating Now I feel guilty

I know at 14 she can cook for herself but she’s a child and you the parent. I’d have made double of what I was making for me and if she didn’t want it at the time then there would be leftovers for her later.
If you know all she’s eaten all day is a chocolate bar and some crisps then surely common sense dictates that at some point in the evening she’d want proper food. I feel like a little lateral thinking would have prevented this.

I had fish and chips. As in one in bread crumbs from Iceland. Have you ever tried to reheat fish and chips . Its gross.

The 14 year old declined the meal being cooked and presumably is aware of how to access the alternatives available. Unless fish and chips was the only edible dinner option in the house, I don't think it's unreasonable for a 14 year old to make themselves a sandwich / heat up a ready meal / cook up some pasta or noodles / etc. Especially as the OP also had other, younger children who needed things like bathtime and bedtime, which they can't necessarily do independently.

@Shithole101 she'll be fine.

Careful love, your privilege is showing.
Never quite works out to be quite the mic drop it purports to be does It @theleafandnotthetree 😆

There was dinner time, the teen was offered options, she refused. Then demanded to be fed later, when OP was dealing with younger kids.

It's frozen fish and chips, not really the kind of food you can re-heat in a microwave later.

Some of these comments. I mean she didn’t demand. She asked.

do people have babies and look at them and think i will give you 3 squares a day till you’re 12 or 13 then you’re on your own? This young girl has had no breakfast lunch or dinner. And some people are like yeah, fuck her.

no wonder there are so many stately home threads.

That's what an air fryer is good at - re-crisping chips and battered food.

It's really not nice . And if she refuses to eat it at all that's a wasted meal. I can't afford to be wasting food

I mean she didn’t demand. She asked.

But when told no, I'm now busy with other things, she threw a strop and is refusing to eat. Should this behaviour be rewarded? OP said there was plenty of food she could have, not like she told her kitchen is closed and go ahead and starrrvveee!!

Has she had anything to eat yet?

How is it wasted? Eat it the next day. Did she make herself something in the end?

Tell me you don’t like kids without telling me you don’t like kids.

Toast and a yogurt .

She wasn't refusing to eat though? She asked for a meal - she wanted to eat.

She's not going to eat it. That day or the next day. She does not want it. She was offered whay I was having also offered other food she refused. You can't keep tjay food for long at all it will be crap .

My teens have busy lives with hobbies and friends, so I always Message in a group chat what we are having when and ask who is here for it. If they're not, they'll either ask me to cook and plate theirs for reheating later or they will make their own,and I always make sure there is something easy and fast they can make I.e pasta and sauce. So no yanbu.

And she could have eaten .

OP said there was plenty of food she could have. But "She got stroppy. And hasnt bothered eating"

If she doesn’t eat what you prepare and it can’t be reheated/frozen (like the F&C), then I’m totally with you.
You told her. She said No. She can prepare her own F&C or whatever else she wants herself.

Im 😵‍💫😵‍💫 at the idea you are somehow a bad mum for not preparing her ANOTHER meal, later on. If you had prepared nothing at all, I’d be inclined to agree but that’s not the case here at all. MN is getting more and more weird by the day.

oh and btw, you haven’t failed because you dint have a dinning table.
You clearly have gone through a lot. But more to the point, many people nowadays dont have a dinning table anyways.
And only 28% of families share their evening meals.
So you’re not the only one!!!

You. You could have eaten it the next day. Or your little ones could have eaten the chips, unless they are the only children in the world who don't eat chips. It would have been perfectly fine the next day.

Stroppy entitled ones, not a massive fan, no.

I don't want to eat it. Nore do my younger kids . Why should we eat yesterday's meal because dd does not want it. Mo she wad offered alternatives

You’re happy to eat reheated frozen chips? 😵‍💫😵‍💫

And why should the OP have to eat all the reheated stuff all because her dd wants restaurant service food - only what she has ordered and nothing else?

Im 😵‍💫😵‍💫 at the idea you are somehow a bad mum for not preparing her ANOTHER meal, later on. If you had prepared nothing at all, I’d be inclined to agree but that’s not the case here at all. MN is getting more and more weird by the day.

That's exactly the case here. She did not prepare her food at any point. The girl had no meals all day. Just crisps and a bit of chocolate.

Yes. As I said, air fryers are perfect for reheating chips and battered food. They're good at re-crisping anything that should be crispy.