I'm not being out of order am I?

[Shithole101]

Earlier on I cooked myself fish and chips for dinner I asked Dd 14. If she wants anything she said no. Now she asking me to cook and I have said no. She got stroppy. And hasnt bothered eating Now I feel guilty

Sorry, didn't check the user name and thought you were the PP who said that.

I think teenagers can make themselves food, this one hadn't all day and had only eaten some crisps and chocolate, dinner time options would've been f&c or something else, I would've said you need to eat something substantial you've not eaten properly all day, so you can have f&c or I can make you something else, beans on toast, an omelette etc while my food cooks, not eating isn't a healthy choice. Now what do you want.

And they say nothing and go to their room . What then ?

Then I'd be having a sit down and a chat about what was going on and why they weren't eating properly and explain that it was worrying me, to give them the opportunity to talk

Exactly.

A 14 year old is perfectly capable of making themselves breakfast or lunch. But providing them with an evening meal really is a basic of parenting.....so why was it even a question? She should be eating dinner.

Cook for her. If she doesn't eat it she can have it heated up later on. It doesn't have to be this much of an argument.

If it carried in yes. But not one day. Every teenager has a junk eat crap day once in a blue moon

It's not the junk that would bother me, it's the small amount of food for a whole day , two bags of crisps 130 calories each (assuming multipack) , bar of chocolate 200 ish , that's under 500 calories all day

It's not just the junk though, it's the absolutely tiny amount of food.

Two bags of crisps and some chocolate is just not enough to sustain a 14 year old - to me (and many others on here) it's a huge red flag that something is not quite right. You shouldn't just ignore it.

Still the same answer it was one day not lots if days. Not regular it was one day.

She's 14 not 4 she easily could have done something for herself.

The argument of but she didn't do anything did she that's on you as the parent bla bla that does not stick . Back to ages 14 not 4. She,was offered food . I'm not her skivvy.

I have other things to do I have a child with special needs other stuff to deal with.

80% of posters on here,are not genuine they are full of crap. Twisting what's been said, adding bits, taking bits off . Turning it into something it is not. Even about the real situation. It's about playing mind games. Gas lighting etc .

No its mot a huge red flag at all . Not for 1 day it's really not .... I give up it's getting stupid

Other things to do rather than make sure your child has actually had a single meal all day :s

If she had not eaten all day I would not have accepted her answer when she said she didn’t want anything.

I don't quite understand people who say that she should have eaten dinner and you would not accept the answer that she doesn't want to eat.
What exactly would you do, forcefeed your teenager like she's a goose raised for foie gras?

80% of posters on here,are not genuine they are full of crap. Twisting what's been said, adding bits, taking bits off . Turning it into something it is not. Even about the real situation. It's about playing mind games. Gas lighting etc .

I'm one of these posters. All I did was suggest you have overall responsibility. There was no gaslighting, twisting or turning it into something else. You just don't like that some people have pointed out you should have made your child some food last night

This. It doesn't make you a "skivvy" cooking dinner for your 14 year old. I'm actually horrified at your attitude tbh.

OP you asked if you were being out of order, some people have just suggested that there were other ways to handle it and a teenager eating a few snacks and nothing else isn't ideal. If you didn't want opinions why ask for them?

Opinions are opinions. Adding things, taking things away . Twisting it . Adding bs is not

I think OP got a lot of support on her previous thread and expected the same again. It hasn't (quite rightly) gone that way and perhaps it's hit a nerve.

Fuck the other kids and special needs then

I've a completely different thread

Fuck the 14 year old then. Cor, no wonder she doesn't eat at home living with you. Poor kid probably has major issues.

No but you need to include your daughter, it's not all about the other kids/SEN.

@Shithole101

Fuck the other kids and special needs then

Ok, if that the reason you didn't cook for her, what do you normally do?

Of course it's a red flag.

She's 14 - two bags of crisps and a bar of chocolate is nowhere near enough food. You have a responsibility as her parent to make sure she's eating nutritious, healthy meals everyday.

I'm also not sure why you posted if you're just going to snipe at everyone. You clearly believe it's fine for your child to eat like that, so why ask?

None of that means you don't feed your 14 year old