Son heard us having sex

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He's 11 and was really upset.

He came home from school and was quiet and seemed a bit down so I asked him what was wrong and he eventually told me he's heard us having sex the past few weekends and then started crying.

He didn't say sex explicitly but I knew where it was going when he explained when/where/what.

Before anyone says its natural and normal etc etc, that's all very well but it's bloody horrible hearing your parents have sex. I still feel gross when I remember hearing my parents.

I've read similar posts on here and I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for from this. Maybe some sympathy!

I didn't confirm nor deny anything, I said I'd speak to his dad and thanked him very much for telling me and gave him a big hug. I don't know what I should have said! Bloody nora.

If he's anything like me this will have scarred him for life 🙈 I'm only half-joking.

I guess a fair proportion of the world’s population share a room with their children. They must have to be quite quiet, or wait until the kids are at school or with grandparents.

Doesn't trauma have a specific medical meaning? Witnessing something that upsets you doesn't mean you're traumatised.

Why? He doesn't give a shit. This is just as overdone as the comments about trauma.

They probably also have far, far less sex. And I expect just about everyone had far, far less in the past. I think the changes in morals about sex have a huge amount to do with the average person having access to contraception and enough comfort to enjoy it. Like having the privacy of your own room.

Well it’s clearly not that good if it’s making so much noise that you have to have sex on the sofa because you can’t stand the thought of your 2 year old hearing it creak.

I’m surprised that the children at the nursery you work aren’t supervised around the clock, but that’s another issue.

I’m not childless (rude). We have a monitor. It means you can do things like sit through a film, have an adult conversation, eat a meal together etc. The sort of things which are essential to maintaining an adult relationship.

By all means keeping up with your checking every ten minutes, silent shagging regime though. Sounds like a blast