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Husband isn't happy I have booked a weekend in Blackpool...

217 replies

ringsingling · 17/09/2024 13:03

Next weekend he said he fancied going away in the UK for two nights.
I asked him where he fancied and he's words were "I don't care ,just a nice break with you "
We haven't been away since July when we went to Cyprus so thought a little trip was a nice idea.
I looked at Edinburgh and hotels were so overpriced
Found a b&b in Blackpool for £130 for two nights with breakfast.
Reviews said it was nice.
Obviously it's a no frills b&b but I don't care.

I used to go to Blackpool every year with my mum and she passed away when I was 13 (now I'm 30) and honestly it was the place with all my happy memories.
I know the back is run down now but I thought it would be nice.
I found a couple of nice bars -bloom bar and beach club or beach bar.

Anyway told husband and he isn't happy
He said he didn't mind ...then I book and he's miserable

Is it that bad now ?
I just thought a couple of cheesy days
Maybe do madam tuzaards,the tower etc
I just want to go to remember my mum too,walk past the hotel we used to stay at.
It's still open

OP posts:
Sinisterdexter · 17/09/2024 13:08

I’m sure he’ll enjoy it when you get there.

However Southport is near enough for a day out or even the lakes if you wish.
Lancaster is nice too.

VenusClapTrap · 17/09/2024 13:10

It should have been a joint decision. You could have shown him the place you’d found before going ahead and booking, really.

YouveGotAFastCar · 17/09/2024 13:10

I just want to go to remember my mum too

I think that's different to what he wanted, though? He wanted a nice weekend away with you. You've recreated a holiday that you used to go on with your mum.

I'm sure he'd do that with you too, and I appreciate why you want to go - I lost my parents at 11. But it's not really the romantic reconnecting time that he wanted?

MrTiddlesTheCat · 17/09/2024 13:12

I also used to go to Blackpool all the time as a child. So many fond memories. Not so sure I'd be impressed if DH booked it now though. I may be being a bit unfair as I haven't been for 20+ years, but comes across as being a dump.

Cobblersorchard · 17/09/2024 13:13

They are all your memories though, not quite what he had in mind! It’s a bit of a niche choice.

He shouldn’t have given no indication though, but I’d have thought that somewhere you went with your mum isn’t top of his list.

Codlingmoths · 17/09/2024 13:14

im not a secretary, so if my husband says something like it’d be nice to have a weekend away and I know he’s not going to actually do anything about it, I’ll book where I want that I think works for a nice weekend. But here there seems a risk that you spend the weekend in sad memories of time with your mum, and that’s not a nice weekend away for your husband. So as long as it’s not a sentiment fest for you or he will need to be aware of and sensitive to your mood it’s fine. But if he will then book somewhere else, somewhere that fits the brief of a nice weekend away.

TokyoSushi · 17/09/2024 13:14

You haven't been away since July... it's September!!

I'm sure you'll have fun when you get there!

Limth · 17/09/2024 13:15

I agree with @YouveGotAFastCar

Blackpool is a rundown shit-hole. For you, that might not end up mattering at all because your happy memories will make it cheesy and kitsch. But your DP has just ended up with a weekend away in a rundown shit-hole.

distractmeagain · 17/09/2024 13:16

to be fair.. blackpool is a dump! there are far nicer places in the UK for a nice short break! the lakes are not too far a drive from blackpool and the scenery is much nicer.

TomatoSandwiches · 17/09/2024 13:19

He gave you no suggestions so he can suck it up imo.

Enjoy your trip and don't let his mardy face get you down, perhaps he can do all the decision and executing next time if he's not happy.

Hoppinggreen · 17/09/2024 13:19

If my H booked somewhere as awful as Blackpool just because he had happy memories with his Mum I would have at least expected him to discuss it with me first. The motivation would make me even more cross if he chose it for that reason rather than because it was somewhere he thought we might both enjoy
I actually also have happy childhood memories of Blackpool but they soon evaporated when I went as an adult

MonsteraMama · 17/09/2024 13:19

I wouldn't want to go to Blackpool, it's a dump, even though I do have some happy childhood memories from going when I was wee. BUT I wouldn't tell my husband I don't mind where we go and then get the hump if he booked somewhere I wasn't keen on. I'd have told him where I wanted to go, or what vibe I was looking for, or contributed in some way to the decision.

If he's going to be passive he needs to accept the consequences of that passiveness.

Allthehorsesintheworld · 17/09/2024 13:20

Agree to have a day doing what you want and a day he wants ? As pp have said Lakes, Southport, even Liverpool not far away.

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ringsingling · 17/09/2024 13:21

I did ask him repeatedly where he fancied.
I showed him hotels in Edinburgh and he wasn't happy with the price.
I showed him a couple in Windermere and he couldn't have been less interested.

OP posts:
Comedycook · 17/09/2024 13:21

Is this a reverse

Original poster
ringsingling · 17/09/2024 13:22

Why would it be a reverse ?
No it's not

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triggersslave · 17/09/2024 13:25

Well we're going to Blackpool this weekend, we go several times a year, love it! It's quite a nice place, yes there's areas that are "a dump" but there's nice places too. You'll be there when the illuminations are on, if you want to ride thru them get a tram that's lit up, they're dark inside so you can see what's outside.
There's plenty of bars and restaurants, we always have some time in cleveleys and we actually stay in Fleetwood most of the time, but we have stayed in Blackpool too.
I think it's what you make it, maybe a bit cheesy, but let your hair down and enjoy it.

VenusClapTrap · 17/09/2024 13:25

Well if you showed him ideas and he wasn’t interested, then I take it back. His fault.

Blackpool, though…

TomatoSandwiches · 17/09/2024 13:25

ringsingling · 17/09/2024 13:21

I did ask him repeatedly where he fancied.
I showed him hotels in Edinburgh and he wasn't happy with the price.
I showed him a couple in Windermere and he couldn't have been less interested.

You asked him, you showed him and he gave no feedback to what he wanted so he can put up with it.
I'm sick of this crap about discussing it and going back and forth, NO! He either give you a suggestion or something key wants/coastline/cotswolds/castle trip or he makes do, you're not his fucking travel agent fgs.

Birdscratch · 17/09/2024 13:25

Blackpool is really grim.

Comedycook · 17/09/2024 13:27

A no frills b and b is fine if you're in a beautiful area which makes up for it. But no frills in Blackpool....sounds incredibly unappealing. However, he should have shown some interest

Pootles34 · 17/09/2024 13:27

I feel you need a middle ground - Edinburgh is indeed expensive, but Blackpool is a bit too far the other way. It really is awful OP - please re-book. I agree with you that a basic B&B is fine, so long as the place you're visiting is nice. Would you consider a different seaside town?

InTheRainOnATrain · 17/09/2024 13:27

Ha well that’ll teach him for saying he didn’t care! Did you actually think he’d like it, because it’s very niche and has an awful rep, or did you take the opportunity of ‘I don’t care’ to indulge in some childhood nostalgia that you knew he would be unlikely to agree to otherwise?

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 17/09/2024 13:27

So initially you were talking about Edinburgh or Windermere and somehow you ended up going to Blackpool? Grin

Blackpool is awful so I can totally understand why he's pissed off, and it's quite surprising that you didn't think to check with him first about a destination that was probably so different to what he originally had in mind. But he chose to leave the research and booking to you because he couldn't be arsed to get involved so he really needs to suck it up and not make a fuss.

wheretoyougonow · 17/09/2024 13:28

Firstly I apologise to the residents of Blackpool that I'm writing this.

Whilst I agree it was basically your choice as he wasn't interested- I wouldn't be impressed with your choice. Blackpools crime rate is 162% compared to the National crime rate. Going at the weekend will almost certainly mean you will encounter hen and stag parties.
If that's your type of break then it will be fine but it's very different from the two places you mentioned previously.