Please help me melt his heart ❤️

[Heybearu]

So having had a really not great time on online dating...I've finally started to speak with someone I would like to impress. Ladies he sings, he bakes bread, he reads he's the main parent. I'm in heaven.
Id like to give him a book at our first date....he likes most genres...nothing like super seedy tho as he's quite wholesome...what can I give him that will melt his heart so I get to keep him forever?
Or at last so he looks back and thinks that was cool.
Help please x

Why do you assume he went to uni?

I just didn't realise it would be such triggering issue for people. It's a tongue in cheek thread.

All kinds of nonsense sells. The Alchemist is bad self-help disguised as an even worse novel. I respect John O’ Donoghue’s environmental activism, but not his softcore corporate creativity-friendly ‘spirituality’. The Prophet is the kind of thing people who smoked a lot of dope in the 60s found profound.

Okay I bow to your superior knowledge. Don’t buy any of the books I suggested OP. They’re all totally rubbish, millions of us are all wrong and perpetually love struck teenagers. Ask @DesigningWoman what to buy … she knows best 😊

The Daily Mail is read by millions too, its also rubbish.

I mean if someone gave me the daily mail on a date that really would be a passion killer. Maybe we should start a trend of random.gifr giving and see what happens.

Spot on

I’d find this a bit pretentious, and I’m an avid reader 😬.

Sorry!

You both sound to be extremely over-invested to say you haven’t met. Maybe it’s a match made in heaven but I personally would have been running for the hills.
Yes I do have avoidant attachment but I like being this wa, I find it saves time.

So if I've missed the post but when is this date happening? And how long have you been talking?

Remarkably Bright Creatures :)

When is your first date @Heybearu ?

So thank you all for the book recommendations, I've actually used a couple for gifts for friends this week and am reading two also.

The date was very very lovely....

...so maybe we will be in book giving terms soon.

Awww I'm glad your date went well OP, and that some of your friends got some cracking new books out of the deal!

But did he serenade you with ‘Wonderwall’ on guitar?

No gift on first date, you need to be friendly but not overwhelming. Split the bill. On a second or third date, you could offer a book you've already read and enjoyed (so it's used, don't buy a new copy for him). Don't sleep with him until somewhere between dates three and seven.

I can recommend Corag by Susan Fletcher. She writes so beautifully.
Good luck with date no.2

We need more details @Heybearu
I am living vicariously through you ☺️

I’m glad the date went well, OP. But I agree with everyone saying a book on a first date is too much and too much of a risk. I’m with @DesigningWoman and all that self-help middlebrow stuff would make me run a mile. Just not to my taste at all.

If you absolutely must, you’re on much safer ground with non-fiction. I would get him something like a history of bread. It’s linked to one of his other interests, there’s no pressure to Read it and Love it and Have Your Life Changed, it’s the sort of think you can flick through and stick in the downstairs loo or the kitchen.

Oh god no 🤣🤣
I'm flattered you think I'm young enough to be into the wonderwall trend though!

Date 2...so he gave me a book...🤣

Oh c'mon OP, what was it?! Can't believe you've found someone as ridiculously over soppy as you 😂

Which? We need to know.

Baking bread really isn't difficult! You could do it yourself.

Maybe he read this thread! 😂😂

What was the book?