Please help me melt his heart ❤️

[Heybearu]

So having had a really not great time on online dating...I've finally started to speak with someone I would like to impress. Ladies he sings, he bakes bread, he reads he's the main parent. I'm in heaven.
Id like to give him a book at our first date....he likes most genres...nothing like super seedy tho as he's quite wholesome...what can I give him that will melt his heart so I get to keep him forever?
Or at last so he looks back and thinks that was cool.
Help please x

Don't give him a present on the first date. In his shoes I would find that a bit intense, plus books are difficult enough to give as gifts to people you know well. It's a lovely thought, but maybe later. I always thought of online chat as the glance across a crowded room at a party and the first date as the first conversation after one of you has approached the other. It's not a gift situation, though it's a lovely thought.

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The female eunch

Meet him first… you may not click in real life.
Messaging and real life are very different.

But even so, no gift on a first date. Way too try hard

Oh gosh no, not on a first date. Talk about books for sure and if that sparks something that could be a gift a few dates down the line then go for it.

Not on a first date.

It'll have to be something you've read and enjoyed. Otherwise it will look like you are trying far too hard

I still consider that 'Noddy and the Magic Rubber' contains an important social comment.

There's probably a euphemism in there too.

I haven’t dated for a long time but bringing a gift on the first date seems a bit over kill.

Meet him first. Don’t try to win him over. Make sure the chemistry is there. Let him buy you a present first!

He had me at 'I bake my own bread'

post of the thread!!!!

This had crossed mind 🤣

Really??

You need to raise your expectations pretty considerably. Your bullshit antennae needs work as well

It might be inedible.

No pressies. Go, enjoy the date, and hope you fancy the pants off one another.

You don't know him AT ALL. He could be a total creep. You don't know. He might be lovely but really not feel the spark. Don't invest in men you don't even know.

Ok point taken that it's trying to hard.
Maybe date 3 🤣

Do you know him at all? You’ve listed a laundry list of attributes like you’ve gone shopping for something.

don’t get him a book until you know him. You can’t buy people

We both already like that one :) thank you that's a great suggestion if we hadn't read it

OP, he's not a child. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, you're far too invested in him. OLD rarely works out (I know it can & does, but it's rare). It's sweet you really like him but you need to reserve some of yourself, in case he isn't who he is portraying himself to be. They almost never are, not fully. I speak from experience

Erm slightly harsh

I can't write everything about him that was just some highlights and slightly tongue in cheek 🤣

Isn’t it funny…for me that would be an absolute eye-rolling no-no. Horses for courses!

@Heybearu I think the advice of others not to do this is correct.

Best of luck. Perhaps have a chat about books on your date instead. Or actually, as a late thought, something by Mary Berry or a winner of the Bake Off. Keeps it lighter.