Please help me melt his heart ❤️

[Heybearu]

So having had a really not great time on online dating...I've finally started to speak with someone I would like to impress. Ladies he sings, he bakes bread, he reads he's the main parent. I'm in heaven.
Id like to give him a book at our first date....he likes most genres...nothing like super seedy tho as he's quite wholesome...what can I give him that will melt his heart so I get to keep him forever?
Or at last so he looks back and thinks that was cool.
Help please x

What someone says they do or are on a dating profile or in a self promoting WhatsApp chat does not sadly mean that they do or are.

It's great to be hopeful but you need to be looking out for the bits he hasn't told you and not buying into a fantasy.

Life altering is a huge ask! Is it really that good, to those who have read it?

People are being very blunt but I genuinely think most are trying to protect OP from disappointment and teach her better strategies for approaching a first date! Another vote for not bringing a book, but I really hope it goes well OP and do update us!

I've read one of his books @MissAshworth but I can't remember which one and didn't finish it...says it all I guess!

From the times I’ve been quoted with people saying it’s rubbish - probably not.

Oh ok sorry to drag it up again! Thanks for answering.

It’s a cheesy Hallmark movie in novel form, and insultingly reductive about depression and suicidal ideation.

You can see exactly how my date would go if the guy showed up with a copy of this for me.

Of course, another option is that OP is a lovebombing narcissistic type and is looking for ideas to further entangle her victim...

Best case scenario is they're both naive and boundaryless innocents who are ready to fall in love at first sight. I await the update!

How about a Mr Happy book

Oh god. "I bake my own bread and love to read" translates as "I tried to make sourdough once in lockdown and got through a Stevie Gerrard autobiography when I was 16 on holiday with my mum"

The Diary of Adrian Mole aged 13 3/4.

it sounds like you have the same attitude to dating.

Met an incredible man online, swoon. He makes bread & EVERYTHING!!!!! How do I melt his heart? I know I’ll pretend to be an intellectual & get him a very clever book.

I wonder if I should check wedding availability dates for next June?

I think you are jumping well ahead OP and whilst I really hope he is the real deal and just as good in real life, please be careful.

He might not even read physical books. Plenty of people these day say they read and what they mean is that they listen to audio books. I have nothing against that at all, even though I don't like audio books (because I struggle to take in auditory information). Maybe he has audio books on the go while he's baking bread and being the main parent.

As for writing a book with him. Please, just don't bother. Most novels which I have read which have been co-authored are a load of shite and clunky because the writing styles just don't match up. Apart from the fact it's such an over the top leap for people who have never even met.

The way you talk about him is just far too much too soon. So dial it back. Get a grip on yourself and enjoy the date for what it is - getting to know someone to see if there's any chemistry there. And to find out whether what he says on the dating app is true or if it's just a load of bollocks his female friend made up to help him attract women

I love Adrian so I'll take this as a compliment 😂😂
I do understand the cynicism although the brutal delivery of so many of you makes me sorry for your trauma.

I was just trying to do something lovely but I've worked out my option now and for a later date. And I do love to read but felt unsure of what kind of book might be good to share ..I would make sure it was one I had also read. I

He's actually learning my favourite song to sing to me on the guitar at the moment. So seems potentially a little more interested than Pandora.

Wil it probably be a disaster, yes.

But I'm going to enjoy feeling this lovely, uncynical appreciation of another human being while I can :) until he asks to borrow my credit card 😂😂

Writing a book together?
You haven’t even met him yet, op.
This is absolute nonsense.

It's proper ..artisan poncy bread. ..I didn't even know the names of some of the breads he's told me about! 😂

Orbital by Samantha Harvey. Fairly new, so less likely he'll have already read it and it's just been shortlisted for the Booker Prize, so there's that aspect to talk about too.

www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/books/2023/nov/16/orbital-by-samantha-harvey-review-the-astronauts-view

Hang on, is he planning to serenade you on your first date? Doesn’t that make your vagina clamp shut and hang out a ‘CLOSED TILL FURTHER NOTICE’ sign?

But you don’t know him.
He could be your dream man.
He could be a complete liar.
He could smell of pee & pick his nose
He be really nice but bore you stupid
You dont know him

You’re like a giddy 14 year old convinced that Sean in 6th year will notice her

He's actually learning my favourite song to sing to me on the guitar at the moment

Is it Wonderwall?

How old are you both? I'm thinking maybe 14, 15? In which case it's kind of sweet. Still be careful though. Tell an adult where you're going.

He's actually learning my favourite song to sing to me on the guitar at the moment

You mean 'at you'. The Barbie movie sums this up perfectly.

OP, with all due respect, take a breath! Hopefully it will all go well and you'll both decide you want to have a second date, but slow down a bit - focaccia doth not the man make.

'I do understand the cynicism although the brutal delivery of so many of you makes me sorry for your trauma'.

I have experienced significant trauma having been love-bombed into an abusive relationship with a 'perfect' man on a dating app.

Sounds like you are both romantic fantasists and I don't know if that's a perfect match or a complete recipe for disaster but I certainly wish you luck.

And take a mix-tape with you of your favourite songs. Which he can sing to you.

It’ll have to be whatever he knows the chords to. So the OP may have said ‘Make You Feel My Love’ but end up with ‘Livin’ On A Prayer’.