anyone got a friend who never asks how you are?

[dabbadoo]

I mean like, almost never.
There are many many (vast majority of) occasions when we go out and she talks talks talks about herself.
Went out last night for drinks and she spent over two hours talking about herself and her issues (always so many issues, never changes, stays with man she actively despises, hates job so talks about how much she hates that all the time)
In that time she didn't let us (there were three of us) get a word in and didn't ask how we were. Not once.
I think it might be the end of it really. I walked away thinking I'm done with this "friendship " now. Anyone else experience this?

I have a couple of friends like this and I only really noticed it recently after meeting up with 2 friends I hadn't seen for ages. Neither of them asked a single thing about me or asked how I was. I came away feeling quite deflated.

Maybe it's something to do with personalities? Extroverts and introverts?

But also, if you care about a person you would want to know about their lives, surely?

I'm a quiet person and a good listener so people tend to dump their emotional problems on me. This is fine. I'm happy to support friends but it does make me sad when I realise that a couple of my friendships are one way. I have one friend who uses me as a free therapist. She meets me simply to talk about her problems. Nothing else. She asks how I am out of courtesy but always immediately cuts me off and carries on talking about herself.

I was just a bit upset that people knew things were changing for me and yet nobody asked how it's going went or even how it's going!
It's all first world problems I know, but just an example of how people don't seem to take an interest in what you're doing , only themselves !
I would have definitely asked how someone was getting on.

I had one at university and am no longer friends. We kept up for a bit but after meeting her on the evening of a day in which I'd got my dream job I did an experiment. I decided not to mention the job unless she asked me anything in the ballpark of how are you, what's new etc. Suffice to say she went home none the wiser about my new job as she purely talked about herself and I never saw her again. Still makes me feel glad when I think of all the time I could have wasted on her instead of with real friends. Cold, but I don't have time for people like that in my life.

I don’t think that’s true of most people in my life, at least.

I suppose if I wanted to talk about something that was happening to me, I would bring it up myself, not wait to be asked. And if I knew a friend had something going on and didn’t mention it, depending on the tone of the conversation, I would respect their desire not to talk about it. There are certainly times when I appreciate my friends respecting my wish to talk about them or impersonal stuff.

I had dinner with a friend at the weekend, and all we talked about was his divorce and art, which worked for me, as I wasn’t feeling like talking about personal stuff.

If, on the other hand, someone strikes me as unpleasantly self-absorbed, they’re probably not someone I would bother together to know in the first place.

She wasn't a friend. She was one of the mums at school used to just talk at me, about her ds, her mum, this, that. It dawned on me that not once had she ever asked. I just stopped engaging.