My dad is ill and I don’t know what to do

[SadGirlAutumn]

I live in Scotland for work and my parents live in Cornwall.

Two weeks ago my dad had a bit of an upset stomach. My mum brushed it off as nothing serious and bought him some Immodium. After 3 or 4 days, I called her to check how he was, he was still poorly so I asked if she'd rung the doctors. She said no.

About a week in, I said again, she should ring the doctors. Immodium was doing nothing. She said no, again, that it would work itself out.

After 10 days, she called the doctors who said he should have flat coke, some Immodium and it'll go away. He has done some tests at the doctors and they've basically shrugged, said it's not E-Coli. and to keep doing what he's doing. They said if it's anything, it's gastroenteritis but that makes 0 sense as my mum hasn't caught it.

It didn't so I came home last night to try and help out.

My dad hasn't eaten in 2 weeks. He's lost 40 pounds. Water makes him sick. He is going to the toilet at least 10 times an hour. The doctors don't want anything to do with him. He's being sick, nothing is coming up anymore because his system is totally empty. He can barely keep his eyes open. 111 has sent a doctor but it's "low priority" and they don't know what time they'll be here. He won't get in the car to go to hospital and between me and my mum we can't get him down, 111 said not to call 999 as he's already in the system.

I'm only 25. I'm so scared. I don’t know what I can do. He can't keep anything down and nobody wants to help us.

Hi, that's far to long. Insist he goes to hospital, he must be very dehydrated, hope he is sorted soon

It's now a week ! since the Op @SadGirlAutumn posted, I expect she returned to Scotland yesterday-ish
even tho she hasn't been back since Dad was discharged and was well enough to start eating a jacket potato

So sorry you're going through this, I really hope he has gotten the help he so obviously needs. The NHS is seriously on its knees. Try not to worry, I know it's easier said than done.

I'm struggling to find sympathy for you OP. You're overdramatic, flip flopping from he's at deaths door to chatting and asking for a jacket potato. Complaining about everyone and frankly being offensive about medics during covid. It's hard to take you seriously. You sound like you need to grow up.
DOI GP who worked all through covid. Whose father just died horribly in a NHS hospital perhaps not receiving the best care but I understand it's the system that's fucked not the people trying their best. Oh and he did actually die. I didn't just go around saying he was dying.

Please leave her alone. She is scared and worried for her dad. Everyone deals with things differently.

The quality of staff varies in the NHS as in all organisations, perhaps OP had a less than pleasant experience and stress is making her sound more critical than she might otherwise be.

I'm sorry for your own loss.

OP, best wishes for your dad

It’s disappointing OP hasn’t updated this post. She had lots of advice and support. Odd.

Well done OP you’re an amazing daughter. Praying your df makes a full speedy recovery.

Maybe, just maybe, she has concerned herself with more important things right now, what with her father being sick and all. She may have a lot of support and advice here, but she doesn’t owe us anything- we helped when she needed us, and that’s kinda the whole point of posting here. She’s also responded very graciously and gratefully to a lot of the advice people have posted throughout this thread, which is more than enough.

You seem to be a very negative person. This really isn’t the thread to be venting that negativity. If you feel left out because you aren’t getting responses from OP, or the updates you feel so entitled to, that’s a you problem - maybe you need to address that instead of seeking (negative) attention here.

Can you call his GP and the GP orders the ambulance? Sounds like either diabetes or pancrease issue and he needs to be seen ASAP. Sending hugs.

She already replied about this, she said they sent him home to die

Oh don’t be ridiculous @Taluulaah
OP was inconsistent and appeared very biased towards the nhs.

I don't think we will hear anymore whatever the outcome was.

I can’t believe some of these comments.
The OP was rightfully very concerned about her dad who was so dehydrated he was at the point of collapse.
Fluids made a huge difference and he recovered well.
She had every right to be panicked and at the time it seemed that no one within the NHS was able to see how serious the situation was.
For goodness sake cut the poor young woman a bit of slack!

Seriously? This lassie has just had a horrendously stressful time, her Dad is very unwell and Thoughtful talks if her uncle in a similar position died. I would be unhapoy with them too.

Get a life, seriously

Not odd … many posters were horrible and basically mocked her so why would she come back to that??

It was the classic Mumsnet nest of vipers.

Totally agree.

None of us owe an update.

How’s your Dad doing OP? Hope all is well