Apart from a bereavement- what has been the greatest sorrow of your life?

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I know pretty morbid but I have been reflecting on life recently now that I’m getting closer to 40.
I have experienced loss with close family passing away but the greatest sorrow in my life is only having my children 50/50 since their dad left a few years ago. It still fills me with such grief knowing that, although I do agree it is best for them to spend time with us both.

Same here. If you ever want to chat ☺️

"gone too far"... do you not think if Hamas returned the hostages Israel would not need to continue applying the same military pressure, rooting out Hamas who embed themselves in civilian areas? There are fierce debates about how to proceed with this war in Israel, but I'm not sure there are many people here who are even remotely qualified to comment. Leave it to the experts. How far would you go to get your daughter home, after she is held in a tunnel, raped, operated on by a vet...

Anyway, as before, not responding further because I can't be bothered to enter into conversations with people who haven't got a clue.

My first husband pushing me against the wall and hitting me. The woman I worked with for a decade bullying me every day. Having a hysterectomy at 40 to save my life and knowing I would never have a baby. My second husband leaving me after that, and immediately having a baby with his new girlfriend who was half my age. My dear, beloved cat dying in my arms of heart failure. Two breakdowns, agoraphobia and anxiety. Life is terribly hard at times.

This is incredibly one sided! It genuinely blows my mind how someone can only show compassion for one set of people, but I suppose it explains the narrow perspective you have to limit yourself to justify this.

So root out Hamas, not murder thousands of innocent individuals, a shockingly high proportion of which are women and children. I would never try to justify what Hamas did, but defending the Israeli government at this point is just as bad. Many people who are more qualified than either of us have pointed out repeatedly that it is Netanyahu who keeps scuppering the ceasefire deals which would free the hostages to save his own skin. Perhaps direct your ire at him and his vile government, rather than at those speaking out against genocide.

The conflict in the middle east board is that way.

A poster explained how they had lost a friendship to conflicting views...there was no need to say anything else other than say sorry to hear that...

Trying for years and failing to fall pregnant with a very much longed for baby number 2 😞

This thread is so incredibly sad. It is truly awful what we go through. My greatest sorrow is the person I chose to have children with. I feel guilt and regret every day; I’m trying to change it and make everything better for me and my children, but I’m finding it incredibly hard to do so. I long for the day that we can all be happy

Different people different experiences. My life has been irrevocably ruined by prescription drugs. 3 different sorts, the last being the covid jab.

Oh thank you so much. I'm sorry you're in the same situation.

It's really hard. I wouldn't think anything of doing complicated arm balances in yoga before this and now I struggle to get the lid off a bottle.

It really messes with your head. It's your whole identity, your whole perception of who you are as a person just gone.

Fortunately I do have very supportive friends. I have the additional burden of looking like I'm completely fine, but they've never judged me or called me lazy or not been understanding when I need help with something simple.

I have to say, on the opposite side of this topic, one of the biggest blessings and joys of my life is my friends. I was very lonely as a child as I struggled to make friends. Now I've got more good people in my life than I can count. I don't know how I've been so lucky in that respect. They're amazing people. I've got tears in my eyes thinking about how fortunate I am.

Can attest to this. I was jabbed full of steroids when I had a raging infection that actually needed antibiotics, and then convinced into having two covid jabs while I was still pitifully ill with this infection.
Five years down the line and my immune systems still trying to eat me alive. God bless the NHS.

Aww fantastic to hear what a lovely group of friends you have.

Thank you. I really do have to pinch myself sometimes when I think about it.

I wish I could go back in time to when I was a little kid on my own in the playground and tell myself, one day you'll have so many good friends you will struggle to even count them all.

Sorry to read this . Can I ask what symptoms you have had post covid jab as I had symptoms start last year joint pain , weight loss after not feeling well for a couple of days . Inflammation markers are high and the fact it has come on so quickly makes me think my immune system is over reacting after covid jab.

@PurpleChrayn , that really is awful; I’m so sorry you had to experience that. I simply cannot understand how anyone can not sympathise with Isreal after what was visited on them by Hamas. 🙏🏻

True and I’m sorry to hear that.

Oh thats so lovely to hear. Actually welling up here! So glad you've got a wonderful support network. It makes all the difference.

I understand how that feels, it’s so, so painful, basically forever. Sometimes I wonder if people even know what they’re doing to children sometimes. I’m so sorry that happened to you because it hurts your heart always.

Aw that's really sweet of you. I hope you have wonderful people around you too xxx

That I suffered with anxiety for so long, all through bringing my children up, and I actually had CPTSD. So much wasted time, so many wonderful years when I was not really present.
also my parents splitting up when I was 17. It broke everything.

A really bad breakup with the love of my life.

Relationship with an addict.

Loss of family, friends and my dog absolutely top of the list but watching my beloved brother drink his way to cirrhosis of the liver over 30 years has been truly heartbreaking.

Highly unlikely alright - the vast majority of people have no problem with mercury fillings, but maybe the PPs daughter is one of the very few who do. And because it affects so few people, it's not likely to be something that people think of, so it goes undiagnosed.

not necessarily.