Apart from a bereavement- what has been the greatest sorrow of your life?

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I know pretty morbid but I have been reflecting on life recently now that I’m getting closer to 40.
I have experienced loss with close family passing away but the greatest sorrow in my life is only having my children 50/50 since their dad left a few years ago. It still fills me with such grief knowing that, although I do agree it is best for them to spend time with us both.

I feel reading this that I have led a very charmed life by comparison.

Infertility comes to mind, in my case it was secondary having conceived DS naturally. I was successful eventually and had twins. So it doesn't even count in terms of an Infertility sob story. But it was horrendous. I feel like i lost some of DSs early years counting my cycle, I'll never forget the absolute devastation every month. Then I finally was pg but lost it, many many cycles later I had my lucky moment again but lost another. And then nothing for a year. Then expensive and painful rounds of IVF, I shudder driving past the clinic even now and often think of my lost babies.

I understand this. People who have never been through a war will never understand the effects of it. Nothing you watch in the news can compare to living it.

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I'm just wondering about her teeth - does she have any fillings?

A friend's DD had mercury fillings, and went from being full of life to seriously incapacitated, to the point of being in a wheelchair. Someone suggested mercury poisoning, and when they removed her fillings she gradually came back to full health.

I know it's a very long shot that it's the same thing, but might be worth looking into x

My greatest sorrows are all the things I can’t improve for various family members. Addiction, mental health crises and watching both strokes and dementia steal the personalities I know and love. It’s overwhelming sometimes but you just keep going.

I’ve had mercury fillings for over 35, several in fact, so it would unlikely be due to that, as millions of people have them.

This. It’s soul destroying and the fear never leaves you of what’s going to happen next. The ever growing guilt that you’ve caused it somehow and the anxiety. Add on the lack of funded resources makes it even more daunting. My heart breaks watching my dc with every crisis we go through.

Being given a terminal cancer diagnosis which means I won't see my teenage sons into proper adulthood.

So sad to read this x

Same here, especially as a single parent

This^

After a year of 5 sudden unexpected expected deaths including having to switch off dh brothers life support machine having my dsis who I was very close to block me and my family as it came to light she had been helping herself to our elderly dm bank account I raised it politely she may get in trouble if the bank picked up on it depreciation of assets if she needed care etc

She chose to block us all presumably so she can continue and so i don't know what is going on she's removed me as power of attorney done equity release on dm house and dm thinks she's changed her will. Office of public guidance are investigating her and social services have passed it on to the police who are investigating her
Sadly I also now have a stained relationship with dm and lots of family friends as I have no idea what lies she's told everyone as to why we don't speak anymore

I'm so so sorry .

Bereavement and watching people I loce go through illness aside...

My parents having a horrible relationship but being told as a child that it was normal (and them having the cheek to split up after my brother and I left home cus they wanted to "stick it out for the kids").

It's paved the way to almost every other awful thing I've ever endured; a horrendously violent relationship when I was 17, multiple sexual assaults, rape, subsequent mental health issues, having "friends" and boyfriends treat me like absolute shit and no relationship with my brother nor dad.

(Yes I've had therapy)

Parental alienation

I was going to post about the actual topic but after reading the ops comments, I'm pretty disgusted by how she's conducted herself...so I think I'll pass.

I suggest you have a long think about why you felt the need to bring up the holocaust in relation to the Israel/Gaza conflict

Oh and it's spelt Israel....your passive aggressive spelling error is not half as clever as you think it is

Yes me too. It would be a big problem for me.

Being ghosted by one of my best friends

It's not a war though is it? It's a genocide. Maybe that's why your dd can't discuss it with you

This is me also. But I feel like adopting "cured" my
Infertility, and I don't have sadness for me any more. I do have sadness for my son and for his birth mother though.

I think it's because the irony of Israel supporters calling anyone who condemns the mass slaughter of innocent people 'anti semitic' when Israel are carrying out genocidal slaughters. And many saying 'never again' whilst completely ignoring that thousands of Palestinians are being murdered by Israel

Bringing up the holocaust in relation to this conflict is known as Holocaust inversion....do have a google as to what that means

Oh so sad to read this